I'm married and happy i enjoy sex with my husband but find it hard to get horny before sex don't know why,but its causing problems, need advice jb
2007-10-09 13:21:04 · 12 answers · asked by JBUG 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all you need to address the issue of "why" you're not feeling "horny"...Do you get enough sleep? Are your days stressful? How long have you been married and is the sex always the same every time? You may have simply become complacent.
There are vitamin and herbal suppliments that you can take if the problem is one of stress. If you have fallen into a routine of the same sex every time...then it sounds like you need to "spice things up"...Get away for a romantic weekend...act out some fantasies...and yes, watching a little porn wouldn't hurt - if only to get some ideas of things you may not have tried yet!
Remember how the sex was when you first got together? What was different then that isn't now? Boredom in the bedroom isn't all that uncommon...especially if you've been together a long time.
Don't expect him to suddenly get "freaky"...he's probably fine with the same old routine...YOU need to be the instigator. Read a "trashy" novel...find out what "works for you...and then - TACTFULLY - communicate that to him. I'm sure you have a fantasy that "get's you going" when you are by yourself...(Yes, I'm referring to masturbation)...then why not communicate to him that you would like to try something "new".?
Make sure that you re-assure him...tell him that you are totally happy with him and how he makes love to you...but you would like to try a few new things.
Obviously you love each other and want to make each other happy.
I wish you both well!
2007-10-09 14:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by MACHNGUN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you say to yourself"im finding hard as hell to get horny before sex and i dont know why" add this little satement to the end.."so this is what its like getting old"..and go ahead and swear a little.
What ,you thought you would find the ultimate answer thats been plaguing women for centuries?
Just be happy you are not alone with this problem.
Hang in there,you are 41,you'll come up with the answer.
2007-10-09 13:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-20 02:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
does being white have anything to do with your question???????????????????????????????/hard one if you enjoy sex. what do you mean get horny-for example when you are awakened in the middle of the night for sex you arent horny but you eventually give in and then all is well. alcohol will be a short term solution-spend more time trying to please your husband maybe his arousal will do the trick. if lubrication is the problem just try some over the counter help.
2007-10-09 13:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a mental thing----if you think it's likely that you'll "get busy" later, do something to create anticipation.
Send or recieve erotic text-messages, wear some naughty underthings (or....none at all)...
Take a candle-lit bubble bath just before he gets home, put on soft music, have a romantic dinner by candle light.... even read a little sexy story or two.
Good luck....and remember that a woman's most important erogenous zone is her brain!
2007-10-09 13:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it could be emotional/mental or it could be something physical. Why not make an appointment with your gyno to at least rule out physical....
2007-10-09 13:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you tried oral sex,cunnilingus for you and fellatio <-- for him,like the Beatles song :Come Together
2007-10-09 13:34:28 · answer #7 · answered by smitrixz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could have him kiss you down there.
2007-10-10 04:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do a little more foreplay
2007-10-09 13:26:32 · answer #9 · answered by bob P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Porn and foreplay.
2007-10-09 13:25:07 · answer #10 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋