well my husband cheated on me about 3 weeks ago and he promised not to do it again and all. so we started counseling and trying to work it out but in the mean time I meet this really great guy at work and I think I like him but not taking to an affair level but loves his conversations and all. I feel kinda weird about the situation and don't know what is going on. Am I cheating?
2007-10-09 16:28:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have a guilty conscious (and you know you do), then you may be cheating.
Your best bet is to avoid him, forgive your husband, and move on.
Rather simplistic of an answer, I know, but I peak from experience.
Good luck.
2007-10-09 16:33:43 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a very vulnerable state right now. The infidelity has obviously touched your self esteem and it will surely make you feel good to be wanted by another man just to affirm that you are still attractive. That is what an affair does to the one cheated upon.
It is good to 'take time out' it will help you come in terms with what just happened just be careful not to like this guy beyond certain limits. Your esteem will be more injured if he turns you down.
Meanwhile, allow yourself time to react to your husband's affair untill you come to a full healing, then take the counseling so as to chat a way forward.
2007-10-09 16:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by lavagal.com 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That depends on what you define cheating as. There are all levels of cheating. The most common yet so hidden is... emotional. If having problems in your marriage it is safer to talk to the same sex, they better understand. You talk to the opposite sex and nothing will come good of it except heart ache and so on, Although it is OK to talk to other people, leave what ever is going on in your marriage in your marriage. Unknowingly men will feed off that emotional reach and be your best friend, and grows from there. You will be cheating.( Emotional cheating is still cheating because another becomes your rock for say instead of the one who should be.
2007-10-09 17:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you're cheating, but you're playing with fire. You're emotionally vulnerable right now - striking up a friendship with a guy is NOT the way to focus on repairing and rebuilding your marriage.
2007-10-09 16:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the most important things in a marriage is trust. He's already betrayed your trust, however, he shows by starting counselling that he's trying to earn your trust back. Please don't make the same mistake your husband did. You owe it to yourself & your husband to do everything you can to make this marriage work.
2007-10-09 16:46:25 · answer #5 · answered by Virginia B (John 16:33) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stick to the couseling and leave the guy at work alone!
2007-10-09 16:42:25 · answer #6 · answered by missie_d_73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand you. your husband disappointed you and you lost self-esteem, here is someone that gives you what you need right now and that is completely your husbands fault.
2007-10-09 16:58:13 · answer #7 · answered by not this way 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible says you have a right to leave if they cheated on you, so leave him - then you can have the other guy
2007-10-09 16:36:33 · answer #8 · answered by ME 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes , it has developed in your mind - Beware
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2007-10-09 17:50:27 · answer #10 · answered by BIBA I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋