I have forgiven him and her but it's the forgetting part that I'm having an issue with but I love him alot and i feel what we have is real and he just messed up. It still clouds my mind sometimes I don't know what to do.
2007-10-09 16:36:54 · 9 answers · asked by Simply D 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hon,if you can't forget then you haven't forgiven him,think about it. So many women forgive much to fast and this is what happens. Why in such a hurry to forgive,do you think that was going to make you feel better. Nothing is going to make you feel better but time and a lot of it,one year is nothing.It's been 10 years for me and a day hasn't gone by to where it hasn't popped in my head. What I'm saying here is you will never forget it as long as you are with him sorry but it's true.How ever it does soften with time when you do think of it, if that is any consolation.
2007-10-09 16:56:35 · answer #1 · answered by teeny r 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance cheated on you and you are still hanging around. Honey you missed the train to freedom and happiness. The reason you will not forget that affair for years to come is because it was low down dirty thing to do. But at least you know what he is capable of before you commit to him in marriage. Sweety, your pain is not going away any time soon. Cheating devastates the cheated partner. Why are you so eager to forgive? I guarantee that if he is allowed to get away with this then in the marriage he will probably do the same. You gonna forgive him then too? Find a man that love s you and is willing to commit truthfully to you. You deserve it!
2007-10-09 23:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to just remember how much you both love eachother and never let a thought like that ruin anything. It really is painful, but you just have to try to let it go. It's only been a year, just give it a while longer. If its still bothering you a few years from now its because you haven't gotten over it and probably never will. You'll know what to do if that time ever comes. Good luck.
2007-10-09 23:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ro-Z 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if it's still bothering you and clouding your mind, it doesn't sound like you've completely forgiven him. As far as forgetting goes, I doubt you'd ever forget something like that.
If you're really having trouble getting past this in your relationship, I'd suggest that you (and probably your fiance too) talk to a professional, such as a counselor, otherwise it could affect your marriage later on.
2007-10-09 23:42:40 · answer #4 · answered by Happy go Lucky 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can never forget but you have forgiven so now all you can do is to accept that it happened and move on. the only thing that you can do is to not be in a hurry to marry and make sure that you go into the marriage with open eyes.
2007-10-09 23:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes , certain episodes cannot be forgotten , even though forgiven. But thats life, if you think that its the past and will not continue or a repetition issue, then move on with life .
2007-10-09 23:47:27 · answer #6 · answered by jjshri ram 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He just messed it up. I know I have been there. Think about it a long time. Cause he could cross the line again. It is easier the second time.
2007-10-10 00:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by Diddly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him.
The one you loved betrayed you, I don't see why you are still there. He has probably picked up on this as a weakness, and will continue to exploit it and walk over you, because he thinks he can get away with it.
2007-10-09 23:43:23 · answer #8 · answered by twice. 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Leopards don't change their spots . Stay with a cheater & there will be more of the same later on . If he had to cheat on the girl he asked to marry..it shows what he thinks of matrimony .
2007-10-09 23:57:05 · answer #9 · answered by missmayzie 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋