if you told your husband you are going to get a job(you haven't been working) and he tells you ok but when you work you have to pay half of the bills with him?
2007-10-09 14:24:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
DUH!!! Understand the question before you answer it....
2007-10-09 14:30:16 · update #1
It is not a problem with me helping to pay the bills, the problem is the rudeness of saying this just because I want to work!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-09 14:31:25 · update #2
Your husband isn't gonna win a Mr. Sensitive award. So, are you looking for snappy come backs, or do you just want to point out that all us guys are jerks? I suppose that if you'd like to get in a good fight with hubby, you can say that when you start working, he has to do half the housework. I think you'd be better off just shaking your head, and letting this go.
2007-10-09 16:02:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it is fair. Why should only he work and pay the bills? What bothers you (and me too a little) is the rude way it sounds almost like he does not expect you to help out.
I think everyone in the marriage should have some fun money to spend as they see fit and also contribute to the household bills and savings for the family.
2007-10-10 10:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you have a job that pays as much as he does you should pay half the bills....other wise you need to reevaluate the bills and see what you should be responsible for based upon what you make...or you could use what you make to go towards savings for the both of you.....I know that if I got a part time job....that my husband would tell me to spend the money as I see fit...that he wouldn't care.
2007-10-09 21:31:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very difficult working with a spouse but you must reach compromises in order to have a happy relationship so paying half the bills is a good way to keep being happy with a job
2007-10-09 21:29:56 · answer #4 · answered by royalanswer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not one to put specific percentages on such things. If you do work, you should help with the finances. However, if he makes a lot more money then you, then he should pick up a larger share of the burden.
How much should you keep? I can't answer that.
You need to decide how much *you feel is fair* for you to keep (based on what he makes and what you make) and let your husband know that's how it's going to be.
As for his rudeness, remind him he is not the only one in the marriage and your opinions will not be ignored.
2007-10-09 21:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by Infernal Disaster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With all due respect......that's what a marriage is. What ther reason is there to work......splurgin? Just work with your husband on this matter. You will see a tremendence difference in the way you can help him save money. It also takes some of the load off him. This, in turn, makes a better household. Just give it a try.
2007-10-09 21:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe that's his way of saying i need help or i could use the help and if it bothers u that why now u been doing by yourself and what r u going to do with the extra money now that i am working thing. Then ask and state I would love to help babe but with the extra money what r we going to do may save for a family vacation or a rainy day and then maybe u would feel better about his statement.
2007-10-09 21:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by playinthegame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not encouraging at all.
if I were you, I will feel sad!
there is a common problem with city couple, we are all so busy with making $$$$$$ and busy to make others richer by paying this & that.... and the last thing people spend their time and energy on in their relationship, their love ones, and themseleves......
2007-10-09 21:29:54 · answer #8 · answered by lost man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do you have a problem spending the money he makes?? OF course your money should go to the household expenses.
2007-10-09 21:30:34 · answer #9 · answered by Shavon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duh! That is what it is all about. What do you think you should do with your money? He works and pays the bills so should you.
2007-10-09 21:27:44 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋