Me and my girlfrend want to get maried her mom is ok with it she is takeing us also. we live in california and need to know what to do. im 17 and she just turned 15 we know we want this in life we love each other so much.were can we go to do it and can we really need some help
i just need to know if we can. every one tells me stuff. we love each other and im all she really has she has had a ruff life i just need to know if we can get married in cali. or any where else......i am 17 and she is 15.
and please dont tell me im to young and she is to i just really need some answers we know that people think its stupid but can you look past that please. we really love each other
2007-10-09 14:38:36 · 11 answers · asked by ar15olen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The two of you should concentrate more on your education or you will have a "ruff...ruff, ruff," life.
2007-10-09 14:43:42 · answer #1 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I got married right after we turned 18 2 months to be exact and we are about to celebrate our 6 wedding anniversary. We live in CA and the only way you can do it is both parents sign saying it is ok. They have to in a way give up parental rights and you have to be declared an adult. I know you don't want to hear you are too young but 15 is young and yes you love her and you are the only person she has but do you have to be married for that to be true? Why not wait until she is 18 and then get married? What is another 3 years in the big picture since you plan on spending forever together? Good luck in what you do
2007-10-09 21:46:35 · answer #2 · answered by Kristi S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How are you going to support her? Where are you going to live? How are you going to pay the bills? Are you going to continue with school? Is she going to continue with school?
Honestly, I can't tell you what you want to hear. All I hear is another situation where my tax dollars are going to be supporting someone else who couldn't wait to get their life together before bringing more children into the world. This is a HUGE mistake. You say she loves you, but she's only 15... How is she going to feel about you when you have to work 2 jobs, and she's stuck at home with toddlers and she's only 17?
I don't think you are stupid. I think you are acting impulsively, and you need to consider the long run. Finish school. Have your girlfriend finish school. Start on a great career so that you can raise children in a healthy, happy home. You can get engaged now, and plan on getting married one year after graduating college. Why not wait? If it's really love, it will still be there...
2007-10-09 21:48:27 · answer #3 · answered by justanotherone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you just wait? I'm sorry but I think you are both way too young to marry. There is a lot more involved in marriage other than on paper.
I really feel that her mother who is oking this is very wrong and not a good parent to allow her 15 year old daughter get married. I feel there is something very wrong with that.
2007-10-09 21:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by conny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, can't help with that. Next year, when you're 18....You can be charged with statutory rape, though. If you really love each other, then why not wait till you both get established. Marriage is more than just living together. It's bills, trust, communication.....it's alot of the stuff that you're still learning also. Sorry if I couldn't be more of help to you. But I doubt if People are going to side with you too much on this site....Mainly, because most of us are already married...so we kinda know what we're talking about. So.....please, just wait it out....
2007-10-09 21:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't love her. You don't have the FIRST clue about love. I know this because if you did, you wouldn't be considering marrying a CHILD. Just because her mother "is ok with it" (i.e., her mother is unbalanced and not doing what a loving mother would do) means NOTHING.
She can't drive. You aren't old enough to support you. Neither of you has finished school. There are a laundry list of reasons, not the least of which is that she IS A LITTLE CHILD and that would make you sick to marry her.
2007-10-09 21:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you can get married. If you truly love each other, then your love will last as you both grow up some more. I married at the age of 23, and I thought that was young. I have changed, and I don't think that I would marry the same person. PLEASE, don't be in a hurry.
2007-10-09 21:45:31 · answer #7 · answered by anne b 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can, with parental consent.
I wouldn't let my 15 yo daughter get married, but if her parents determine it's in her best interest, I can't argue.
What do your parent shave to say about it? You'll need their consent as well, unless you wait until you're 18 to get hitched.
I'm not saying you don't love each other, I know you do, but what's the rush to get married?
2007-10-09 21:46:31 · answer #8 · answered by Greenman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unless you want to be divorced in a few years- WAIT. have an adult life together first. Things change once you're both working and paying bills and waking up to eachother everyday. you're still a kid and she's even more of a kid. I can't believe your parents would approve!
2007-10-09 21:46:40 · answer #9 · answered by Sarahz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh goodness! Well I am going to tell ya anyways...YOU BOTH ARE TOO YOUNG!! If you think you are so in love and think you are so smart....then you can look up the laws in your state to see what the legal age to marry is....
2007-10-09 21:44:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋