Marriage & Divorce - 9 October 2007

I am married for 3 years, no kids to the nicest most endearing person you would ever meet. My husband is 7 yrs older than i am, and when you see me i look younger than my real age (I am 29, and get ID'd everywhere). I have had a lot of guys approaching me and i have brushed them off all the time cuz of my commitment to my husband. Until, one night when i had too much to drink with all girls night out, i found myself making out with this really really cute 24 yr old guy. I have couple of advise needed: I feel guilty, i dont want to tell my husband as it will break his heart and that's the last thing i wanted to do. (i know i screwed up with my judgement). 2nd: I don't know why i found myself enjoying the make-out and actually trying to recall it my mind as it feels good. I felt wanted. My husband is very passive, won't give me praise on how good i look, on how nice i smell, on how i keep the house together. and this kid just gave me the attention. I am so sad right now :(

2007-10-09 13:12:11 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I do not want to get married I have seen more unhappy married people than happy ones. I don't want kids. I really just want some close friends, My parents and grandparents and dad's family tease me about it a lot they think i'm gay i'm not. I just want to go to work and enjoy life without worrying about marriage and kids. I want to move very far away from them (i live in DeSoto KS) to the west coast like Washington state. My family all around is into alcohol and i'm not. I am getting a degree in IT and hopefully in 5 years of saving I can move and never come back. How do I tell them i don't want to get married and have kids?

2007-10-09 13:07:50 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

anytime something bothers me or stresses me out and I try to talk to my husband about it he gets rude, then we fight, and then he ends up depressed and says he's a bad person and a bad husband. I don't tell him that. It's just sometimes I feel like he doesn't want to hear what bothers me about things he does and usually he turns it around on me. What can I do?

2007-10-09 13:04:04 · 12 answers · asked by jingersnaps 3

my fiance have been together now for over 3 years & known each other for more than 7years. we are now living together with 4 dogs & life for most of the time is good.
however i work 2 jobs & he goes to university still there is some friction at times. i have to wake up at 6.30am, rush home, pick up the dogs, take them to my other work & work till about 7pm. i get home & i collapse but i still have to have time to do the laundry and feed the dogs.
he is getting better at helping me as he takes the dogs out with me at night but then he will watch tv in our bedroom till about 1am so i am not sleeping well. then when i ask him for a little help walking the dogs in the morning he gets very angry at me.
it's very hard to talk to him as he takes everything the wrong way, spirals up, explodes, leaves, comes back and then just wants to forget about it. it's hard for me right now & i just feel like i would like a little support but i can't ask him as he gets mad. maybe i haven't described the..

2007-10-09 13:00:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am 16 years old and my parents divorced about a year ago. me and my mom used to be good friends until she (out of nowhere divorced my dad). i found out why she divorced him a few weeks ago and it was because she had an affair with another man. she always tells me i am rude and selfish, even though i never talk to her. and when i try she always yells and just gets mad at me. she just shut my phone off and i really cant take it anymore. i went a month without talking to her and she just flipped on me and shut it off. i feel like because of her it is effecting my school life, sports, and my social life...what should i do?

2007-10-09 12:54:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-09 12:50:42 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

i met this great guy who has been divorced for 2 years. he has a child from a girlfriend he dated for 3 months. this is his only child. they are fighting for custody and other things that happen within their 3 month relationship. this guy & i have dated for almost 6 months & we get along wonderful with life, goals, wants, sexual, etc. he has a home in another state & a rv that he stays in when traveling for work. he is a construction general contractor. he flys to my city each weekend to spend time with me and have a rental in a city next to me. we are always together at my place and he continues to pay rent for the rental. we have decided for him to move in with me since we love each other & are at my place during the weekends anyway. am i moving too fast? should we be moving in only because of love and not convienence? should i be worried that he may be using me? i have met his child, the child's mother, and family who also live in my city. we are good together. so why am i worried?

2007-10-09 12:42:04 · 5 answers · asked by Virgo 2

I recently found out he's been going to this girl's condo after work for around 10 months now. When I confronted him, he said she was "just sex." He said he called it off, but my friend caught him on camera going to her place. I think he still loves me because he always goes home at night. But I am sad that he goes to her place before coming home. So is it possible that it is "just sex"? Or does he love her more than me?

2007-10-09 12:39:43 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-09 12:29:06 · 2 answers · asked by dick s 1

I gather men would have greater regrets than women?

2007-10-09 12:11:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-09 12:08:50 · 5 answers · asked by latino p 1

as these questions are obviously a PRANK and nothing more in order to prove that soul mates is such a bunch of crap! aren't out there any people with a sense of humour? read between the lines... 'my soulmate is married' lol 'my soulmate is a bad person' lol
isn't it hilarious that our so called soul mates are always perfect people obviously because we see ourselves as perfect too? there are no soul mates and nobody's perfect. thanks for the laugh but I thought someone might have figure the prank from the first question with the married soulmate.

2007-10-09 12:06:04 · 18 answers · asked by sarah kay 5

I'm getting married so how do I resign from the dating service?

2007-10-09 12:00:36 · 5 answers · asked by keithdunnington 1

I don't know what to do...I'm 27 years old and have been married for 1 1/2 years but we have been a couple for 13 1/2 years...My husband has been out of a job for 3 years now and will not get a job. We have bills that are so past due with shut off notices on everything. I work full time but can not swing everything myself I don't know if he loves me anymore because we only have sex like once every 3 months. He tells me he loves me more than anything. He is always going out with his single friends to bars/shooting pool etc. Does not come home until 3am or even until 5am. I don't know what to do I am so depressed please help me I don't want to leave him but I don't know what to do!! I've told him I'm going to leave him but he knows I have no where to go. He tells me I'm crazy because I cry all the time. When I get home from a long day of work he leaves the house and goes over his friends house. Please help me!

2007-10-09 11:56:39 · 17 answers · asked by Me and you 2

I left my husband about 4 months ago. He was very abusive, but only when he drank. I told him that if he stopped drinking I would think about trying to make our marriage work again. He kept drinking for about 3 of the months I have been gone. But now he doesn't drink a lot anymore. He said he would get help, and we could go to marriage counciling. But within those 3 months that he refused to stop drinking I gave up hope and started dating this guy. I thought my husand would never stop if he hasn't even tried yet. So I let myself fall for this other man. This guy is so great. So sweet. So caring. And he loves my kids. We are so crazy for each other. But I love my husband. He wants me to move in with him outta state when he gets stationed. I talked to my new guy about this today and he is devastated. If I go back to my husband there is a chance he will hit me again. And I would be throwing away what might be a great thing with my new guy. I don't know what to do. Love is blind, so I'm going to you guys for some outside advise. Who do I choose? My husband... or my boyfriend?

2007-10-09 11:40:11 · 18 answers · asked by :) 2

when i first met my husband he would drink every weekend and stay out all night and i know he did drugs but when i finally started dating him he stopped and cleaned up his act we now have been married for 2 1/2 years and he is now back to his old days he come home on the weekend like at 7am drunk and high i somtimes feel he might be out cheating on me but then i also think he is on drugs all night and thats why he stays up we also have been fighting alot and i found a girls number in his phone which he later erased after i asked about it . but even though he comes home late he always and i mean always wants to have sex so my friends say if he was out cheating he wouldn't come home (even if late ) for sex . What do you think?

2007-10-09 11:38:54 · 22 answers · asked by jessica1210 2

My husband only tells me he loves me if i say it first and I feel he is not as afectionate as he was before only if he is drinking he acts all lovey with me and tells me he loves me and misses me and is soo nice is it maybe he does not really love me anymore?

2007-10-09 11:32:25 · 8 answers · asked by jessica1210 2

back and she told me u have to fight to get me back but how do i fight to get her back i ned help .

2007-10-09 11:18:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 21 and I've been married for almost 3 years. We've been together for almost 8 years. I love him but I think that I want to explore alittle but I don't want to give him up. I don't want to ruin what we have. What do I do?

2007-10-09 11:14:47 · 26 answers · asked by angel_32169 2

I made a fake online profile and started writing messages to my husband about how fine he was and i would like to hook up he never wrote any thing back only once when i told hime i was in town and wanted to meat somewhere and gave him alot of hot details he for the first time wrote back only his phone number i later confronted him about it but of course i didn't tell him it was me all along i said i stumbled upon it but he said he was just being stupid . and that he was sorry well 3 months later i saw a girls number in his cell phone i wrote the number down to call but i lost it i was so mad that i confronted him about it and later i checked his phone again to get the number and he had erased it and said it was never on their . than i found a porn dvd in his car and he said he was just watching it later in my phone e had been using there were pictures of a porn playing and you could see his bare foot in the corner he claims him and my bro were watching it and his sandel fell off

2007-10-09 11:14:07 · 28 answers · asked by jessica1210 2

if me and my wife decide to take a shower together and clean eachother, how do u go about it?

2007-10-09 11:04:16 · 8 answers · asked by Illegal_Presence 2

2007-10-09 11:02:03 · 14 answers · asked by Carl C 1

I am going trhough divorce in California and i need to know how to divide property between spouse & her father. Me and her father paid for mortgage, but her father gave money for down payment. I think is fair we divide the house in fourths, my father in law takes half of equity (because down payment) and my ex and i each get half of the other half. They are both telling me that that is unfair, and I should get less money. I hired a lawyer and now they want to take me to court. They are keeping the house, I moved out. No kids. What is your advice? what's my solution unfair and why? Please help! Thank you!

2007-10-09 11:01:48 · 7 answers · asked by G.B. 2

i'm the mother of 2 little kids and seperated from my husband for a 1 yr. I met this nice guy who really care about me. we wanted to get together but he never been married or have any kid. He told me that he care about me alot. But he can't be with me because his family and friends think that he is scazy to be with a lady still married and have to little kids on the side.
they all think that he should be with a single lady without kids and start his own family. I felt uncomfortable because now he start to looking for a real girlfriend to date and get marry. so what should i do? stay with him ? He do have feeling for me but he can't stay with me. I wanted him to be happy and have a family of his own. But it really hard to let him go. We really happy with each other. we been together for 5 months. The only thing that stop us is because i'm seperated and have kids.
if i'm divorce he still can't be with me because of my kids. His family want him to married a single without kid. HELP...

2007-10-09 10:48:30 · 11 answers · asked by samantha81 1

I don't want to know what an awful person I am because I am not. Don't insult me you don't understand!
I just want to know how to break up a marriage. I have been working with "Joe" for two years and I am in love with him. I know in my heart that we were meant to be together. We talk, we do the same type of work, and we enjoy the same things. His wife is not in this field, she doesn't like to do most stuff that he does, and they were not meant to be together.
He talks about her and I hear them on the phone when she calls or he calls her and it breaks my heart. No they are not fighting, it is usually about the house or thier kids (yes I listen sometimes but only hear his side of the conversation). When he goes away on business trips I want to be the one who goes with him, but he takes his wife.
How can you break up a marriage? They have been married for 16 years and have 2 kids. I don't know anything about her except what he tells me which has been nothing that I can use.

2007-10-09 10:47:21 · 15 answers · asked by onthego72 1

well after 23yrs of standing by my husband. Who cheated on me repeatedly. He finally pushed me over the edge by having an affair with one of my "friends".. I kicked him out The divorce was finale on the 12th of sept.. MY ex mother in law after one day of the finale told his girlfriend she could move in with her for awhile after I told her to keep her the girlfriend away from my kids tells me why she will make a good step mother.. How insensitive Really hurt me.. What do u guys think? And what about any stories u have

2007-10-09 10:32:57 · 13 answers · asked by jusayg 2

My husband smokes, and I don't agree with doing it in the home when you have kids. I understand we disagree on this, and have given him a lot of leeway to let him do what he says he needs to calm his anxiety. That said, why can't he understand that this also goes against my nature? I get annoyed that pot smokers think everyone should see it their way. I don't expect everyone not to smoke. So why should he expect me to think it's okay? Mind you, I smoked when I was younger. But don't feel the need to do it any more.

2007-10-09 10:23:24 · 20 answers · asked by trapeze 5

open to any thoughts

2007-10-09 10:17:42 · 13 answers · asked by knightsangeleyes 4

We have been married 4 years and I'm currently staying w/ his family untill our house gets built. Living w/ his mom is so stressful. She's a pig, she leaves her plates and trash everywhere. She is loud in public. We recently got into a argument about the fridge door being left open by me. I told her I didn't want to talk about it. She went off and slammed the doors. How can our relationship work out ?

2007-10-09 10:17:04 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-09 10:15:03 · 3 answers · asked by Merlin 1