i am 16 years old and my parents divorced about a year ago. me and my mom used to be good friends until she (out of nowhere divorced my dad). i found out why she divorced him a few weeks ago and it was because she had an affair with another man. she always tells me i am rude and selfish, even though i never talk to her. and when i try she always yells and just gets mad at me. she just shut my phone off and i really cant take it anymore. i went a month without talking to her and she just flipped on me and shut it off. i feel like because of her it is effecting my school life, sports, and my social life...what should i do?
2007-10-09 12:54:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hang in there for two more years!
I know that is not what yo wanted to hear, but soon enough you will be an adult and able to make your own decisions.
You should also cut you mom some slack and love her despite her flaws and selfishness. She may be your mother, but that's not all that she is. She is a person who makes mistakes, has feelings, and is just as lost and confused in this world as the rest of us.
Love her no matter what and take comfort in the fact that this al will pass if you just let it go.
Besides all else, the sooner you learn forgiveness, the sooner the real meaning of life will become apparent.
Good luck. I wil pray for you.
2007-10-09 13:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you do. You're 16. In the next 3 or so months you'll take at turn at hating everyone. And in all probability you are rude and selfish at times.
It is the way of things, Luke.
It's growing up time unfortunately. Only you can let things affect you. You can learn to keep hurtful things from having a devastating impact. It's an incredibly powerful ability we humans have, but most people never learn how to use it.
This is a rotten time in your life but you've got to roll with it. If the woman doesn't want to talk to you, don't talk to her. If she shut off your phone get a job and get one on your father's plan.
Good luck kid.
2007-10-09 20:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand you may DISLIKE your mom but honey you don't HATE your mom. You may hate the situation you feel your mom is responsible for but at 16 I highly doubt if you know everything that took place to cause the divorce either. Next month you'll be upset about something else things come and go and change so much at your age.....BUT your mom is always there!
2007-10-09 20:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are young going thru a difficult time in your life right now...and it seems like life is not on your side right now!!!! I tell you one thing God dont like ugly.....and if you give her back ugly....you will only get ugly back. you are strong enough to ask for advise so as a mother of 2.....my advise would be dont let this effect your future....your mom will regret this when you get older and she will realize then what she is doing to you right now. continue to focus on your goals and what you want to happen for you in the future....and you make it happen...I believe that each individual will make there dreams come true if you apply yourself to it. your mom is being selfish to think not only of herself but hurting the people that loves her the most. but dont follow her footstep.... you have patience and in time god will bless you. be there for your dad and if you have any other siblings but always take care of yourself and make sure you are ok. god bless
2007-10-09 20:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by experience1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen up missy....
You get one mother and that is it. Your parent's divorce has nothing to do with you and is NONE of your business.
I suggest you give the respect your mother deserves from her child, regardless of what happened between her and your father.
Stop blaming her for all for your problems too. Stop acting like a spoiled child.
2007-10-09 20:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go live with your dad, you are 16 and you are old enough to make that decision if your mother don't like it then to bad because she seems like she isn't being a mom.
2007-10-09 20:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't live with her. Tell her you know what she did and you think she is a terrible person for not being able to keep her legs closed.
2007-10-09 19:59:26 · answer #7 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't blame you for 'strongly disliking' her.
but you shouldn't hate her.
she gave you life.
don't talk to her and
live with your dad.
eventually she'll realize
she made a mistake.
but for now.
don't talk with her.
or ask her why she did it.
2007-10-09 20:04:31 · answer #8 · answered by brianna(: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to dad
2007-10-09 19:59:31 · answer #9 · answered by mrdanno2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋