I do not want to get married I have seen more unhappy married people than happy ones. I don't want kids. I really just want some close friends, My parents and grandparents and dad's family tease me about it a lot they think i'm gay i'm not. I just want to go to work and enjoy life without worrying about marriage and kids. I want to move very far away from them (i live in DeSoto KS) to the west coast like Washington state. My family all around is into alcohol and i'm not. I am getting a degree in IT and hopefully in 5 years of saving I can move and never come back. How do I tell them i don't want to get married and have kids?
2007-10-09 13:07:50 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You do not say how old you are. You don't have to tell them anything. Your life decisions are yours to make and no one else's. When you are an adult you don't have to answer to anyone. Make yourself happy and do not worry about what other people think. This is especially true of family. Do not worry if they do not like it. Be true to yourself and do not let anyone pressure you into changing your mind. Good luck in school. Study hard and make yourself happy above all else.
2007-10-09 14:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to tell then that your not getting married or having kids. When they ask you or tease you about it just let them know it's none of your business. Society has put so much pressure on people to marry and have children because that's what we are meant to do, but if it's not for you which you sound young you may change your mind later, then it's not for you. Just let them know that they shouldn't harass you, and you have different expectations for your life. You want to be a career person and that's it. They will get the hint, but will always bug you into wanting to get married because they want you to be a couple with someone and not lonely and because of course they want grand children.
2007-10-09 20:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by crymeariver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you even have to tell them at all? Feel free to cut the cord and live your own life at anytime here Jr.
Once you do that, avoid for the rest of your life making any such declarations during your life. The fact is you are growing and changing you whole life through. You don't still wet the bed Jr., do you? It's the same thing here. You may or may not feel differently one day about marriage. Who knows?
Bottom line is live and let live. Who care what mommy and daddy thinks anymore. You are an adult now start acting like one.
Good luck.
2007-10-09 20:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just open your mouth and do so.
2007-10-09 23:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already have
2007-10-09 20:41:35 · answer #5 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋