i'm the mother of 2 little kids and seperated from my husband for a 1 yr. I met this nice guy who really care about me. we wanted to get together but he never been married or have any kid. He told me that he care about me alot. But he can't be with me because his family and friends think that he is scazy to be with a lady still married and have to little kids on the side.
they all think that he should be with a single lady without kids and start his own family. I felt uncomfortable because now he start to looking for a real girlfriend to date and get marry. so what should i do? stay with him ? He do have feeling for me but he can't stay with me. I wanted him to be happy and have a family of his own. But it really hard to let him go. We really happy with each other. we been together for 5 months. The only thing that stop us is because i'm seperated and have kids.
if i'm divorce he still can't be with me because of my kids. His family want him to married a single without kid. HELP...
2007-10-09 10:48:30 · 11 answers · asked by samantha81 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a real man. #
2007-10-09 10:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by nhuvi j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a man that is going to live his life by how his family dictates. This is not good father material for your little girls. This is not good husband material either. A real man would tell his family that this is what he wants and that he will be happy. Let him go and find a real man. A man that really cares about you and your kids. A man that will love the three of you no matter what anyone else says. A man that will do anything to make you happy and safe. A man that can be his own man and knows his own heart. He is out there. Good luck.
2007-10-09 15:55:22 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear samantha
There is no other way but to let him go and find someone who likes you and your children. He is not worth it , the family all in your and his koolaid he gotts to go to many hangups with kids and not divorced yet. I think he was just a rebound for you so take it as that and move on I know its hard so hard, but the longer you wait the harder it gets. I am going trough some similar my ex left me 1 week ago to be with his coworker/roomate so i start from zero and i am so hurt, however, when my mind is working I know its for the best and there is a new love and life in front of us.
Let him go he is not commited your wasting time.
sending my love.
2007-10-09 10:58:30 · answer #3 · answered by maria s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like he's the one for you. If he truly loved you his families requests would come second to you. You should finalize your divorce first before starting any real relationships though so that if you do get serious with anyone you can take it to the next level if you wish. Right now you aren't able to do anything but date.
2007-10-09 10:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by pamalalauren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is going to live for his FAMILY and what they want instead of what he really wants, and let a good woman go (you), then let him go, because you'd be in the middle of DRAMA with him for the rest of your days.
I know it hurts, but someone else out there will TRULY see YOU, and it won't matter that you're a mother. Someone out there will love your kids too! Move on from this. That's all you can do.
2007-10-09 10:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on sam, if he still listens to family and freinds and can't stand up for himself, let it go. If he cared that much he wouldn't care about your situation. Think of the kids, they deserve a step dad who wants to be in their lives not someone who's ashamed of them.
2007-10-09 11:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by Moe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of this situation now. It can never make you happy.
He will always be under their control
Find yourself a man with a spine who will love to take on your kids and make you all happy
2007-10-09 11:01:43 · answer #7 · answered by JazzE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cant think for himself, then he is a loser. If 2 people want to be together then it is nobody elses business. You need to get divorced before you get with this new guy, that is just wrong.
2007-10-09 10:55:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you need to finalize your divorce before dating ANYBODY. Are you living together ? I sure hope not. He is crazy to be with a married woman with kids, finalize your divorce,,,,,then start dating,,,
2007-10-09 10:59:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems you don't have much choice here.....If he wants to be with you....he will not listen to what his family has to say and will be with you.....You can't make him choose to be with you....You need to let him go.....and get a divorce!!
2007-10-09 10:57:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NUMBER ONE, IF HE SAYS HE LOVE YOU BUT CANT BE WITH YOU BECAUSE OF YOUR KIDS, THEN HE DOESNT LOVE YOU. NUMBER TWO, YOUR MARRIED, BUT SEPARATED FOR A YEAR, THEN YOUR NOT MARRIED. IF YOUR HUSBAND HAVE HIM A LITTLE TRICK ON THE SIDE, THEN DO WHAT THE HELL YOU PLEASE.
2007-10-09 11:04:46 · answer #11 · answered by kayla t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋