Is this really a big deal or am i panicking ?

Question

I made a fake online profile and started writing messages to my husband about how fine he was and i would like to hook up he never wrote any thing back only once when i told hime i was in town and wanted to meat somewhere and gave him alot of hot details he for the first time wrote back only his phone number i later confronted him about it but of course i didn't tell him it was me all along i said i stumbled upon it but he said he was just being stupid . and that he was sorry well 3 months later i saw a girls number in his cell phone i wrote the number down to call but i lost it i was so mad that i confronted him about it and later i checked his phone again to get the number and he had erased it and said it was never on their . than i found a porn dvd in his car and he said he was just watching it later in my phone e had been using there were pictures of a porn playing and you could see his bare foot in the corner he claims him and my bro were watching it and his sandel fell off

Answer 1

Wow. Women are sneaky. I gotta start being more careful. Thanks for the tips.

Answer 2

Girl all i can say is if it quacks like a duck, then it prob is. Dont let him make u think u r nuts...if u saw the # then thats one thing, but for him 2 erase it is the most important thing here. BC if it was an innocent ordeal then y did he erase it? SOLUTION: Call ur cell phone provider & have them send last 3 bills to ur girlfriends or parents, find the # & see how many times it appears on the bill, if he's been talking 2 her, then it will show! Been here, done this b4 and all came to light! I was mad as H*LL. If u really dont want 2 know then dont do this bc this is definitely the way 2 find out "Whats really goin on?". & If or when he finds out u ordered the bill, just tell em u wanted 2 be sure u were giving the best of ur years 2 a qualified candidate. If he's innocent, he'll get over it, if he's guilty, he'll go on & on & on.

Answer 3

Let me start by telling you the most important thing: GROW UP.

Now tell me, do you really expect a human being to ignore those messages you sent to your husband? Please.

You set him up and of course he was curious. And I am pretty sure he wasn’t thinking of doing anything, he was just curious. And even if he became interested, then is probably cause of you being so direct.

Let me tell you, I wouldn’t be surprised if he though about that person being you. I have played those games with my wife back in our teenage years. And wasn’t about setting up a trap. We would just fool around sometimes messaging each other (beeper and instant message that was very new and the “hot thing” of the time). We both tried to make up a fake person online. Trust me, we both realized it right away on each case.

But the case here is that you are acting like that: a young teenager. You have to grow up. If you think he is cheating, confront him. Unless you have real proof, don’t go around and start trouble for no reason.

If you are acting like this just to see if he is loyal to you and you actually don’t have any proof of cheating or even intentions of cheating, then I have news for you: you are jealous, and dominant. Those two will not help you at all and will make you end up sad, frustrated and alone.

Calm down, think about it, and be a grown up adult. Have a serious and honest talk to your husband, apologize for what you did, and explain to him how you feel. I think is not too late for that and to avoid a more serious problem that could lead to disaster, AKA divorce.

Answer 4

Play with fire and your going to get burnt...that was entrapment...you haven't told us why you were paranoid enough to make a fake profile...he didn't bite the first time by not answering you so you upped the stakes to see if he would bite and he did...what have you proved...i would say a few things...you are paranoid...your husband will only cheat when baited into it...your marriage has problems...your hubby watches porn (big deal...you lie and deceive)...glad i am not your husband...and as for the phone number i wouldn't be suprised if he thought "revenge"

Answer 5

Wow, I do not think you are just panicking. I would be the same way! So many things would be going thru my head and I'm so sorry you're going thru this. It must feel awful. Confront him on everything and tell him he needs to be truthful or else you are going to consider leaving him. I did the same once to my husband - so, sweetie, if he calls you crazy or anything let him know you're not the only one. I hope you get thru things fine and whatever happens just know that you are the best thing that could've happened to him. Remember, that he will never get anybody as good as you - But you on the other hand can do MUCH better! xoxo

Answer 6

Why are you trying to sabotage your relationship. What is it inside of yourself that you would want to create all of this chaos in your own life. If you just want attention... you are playing a dangerous game and need to do allot of growing up.
Be a woman and approach this like one. You obviously need some sort of spice in your life so go to the person that you are victimizing (your spouse) and figure out something! Bondage, Dress up... Something. Because if you keep on you are going to be out a relationship with no-one to blame but yourself.
Hell... if Halley Berry sat on my man's lap long enough without panties on...I would not be surprised when they had a deep discussion about whatever "Pops-Up"!
~Tyed~

Answer 7

honestly, if he hasn't cheated yet, it sounds like he will, or is at least thinking about it. if he gave you his number w/o knowing it was you, it was because he wanted to hook up, but didn't wanna say so online, in case you were able to see.

you screwed yourself out of a couple opportunities to catch him. first, when he emailed you his number, you should have had a female friend of yours call him on speaker phone and see if he would have tried to meet up with her. second, you shouldn't have confronted him about it before trying to get the number again.

about the porn...if he just had some at home, i'd say that it was no big deal, but if he had it in his car, obviously he had taken it, or was going to take it somewhere to watch. he wouldn't watch it w/ ur bro unless they were both gay...porn is something you watch by urself or with ur lover.

my personal opinion? he's cheating.

Answer 8

I firmly believe that you should never ask questions you don't really want to know the answer of.

It seems like you were looking for a reason to pick a fight and by the sound of it ... you found one.

You and your husband should definitely consider couples counseling. It would help clear the air between you two.

Answer 9

HAhahaahahahahahahahah

Girl you need to leave his ***. You have had so many clues and evidence that he is cheating and you need to stop doubting your self.
Come on girl he Is a straight lier you can do better then that.

That whole pron ordeal come on watching pron in his car with his bro and his sandal fell off, unless he is having an incest relationship with his bro. He was having sex or getting head froma chic and trying to get it in a pic . GIRL HE IS CHEATING
Please girl leave his ***.
The last thing you want to do is catch an STD from him!

Answer 10

Did he give you a reason to test him? If he did then I would have also. Either way he cannot be trusted and I do not think that you are panicking. I could not stay with an untrustworthy man. I would run the other way.

Answer 11

if there is no trust between you two- then there is nothing. If you can't trust him and have to try and antagonize him into wanting to have an affair??? What's up with that? Men do like porn, and take pictures of wierd things. My husband has done that, but no bare foot involved!