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Question

well after 23yrs of standing by my husband. Who cheated on me repeatedly. He finally pushed me over the edge by having an affair with one of my "friends".. I kicked him out The divorce was finale on the 12th of sept.. MY ex mother in law after one day of the finale told his girlfriend she could move in with her for awhile after I told her to keep her the girlfriend away from my kids tells me why she will make a good step mother.. How insensitive Really hurt me.. What do u guys think? And what about any stories u have

I guess I just felt like I married him for better or for worse.But ur right I had no self respect and now they r making me feel even worse by putting it in my face. I cry alot

Answer 1

You expect the woman who raised this liar and cheat to be better than that? Don't let it bother you, all the new g/f gets is the same cheating, lying low life you just got rid of. They don't change, just wait for the drama.

Answer 2

Mothers always think there sons are perfect my dad cheated on my mum constantly through 25 years of marriage and my nan would not have bad word said about him!!

But men like that always end up lonely my dad has been single now for 5years seeing tarts on and off but my mum has is really happy with a 30yr old man (she is 51 by the way) they have been together 3yrs now.

So all I can say is you have done the right thing and there is light at the end of the tunnel - I may be young but I have seen my parents go through a lot and I never thought I would see my mum as happy as she is now!!!

Answer 3

First of all, good for you getting out of that situation! I'll never understand why some people take marriage for granted, why they think that cheating isn't harmful, or why they don't even care what their actions do to the people who have been by them through everything.

Your ex in law was completely out of line in discussing this girl's ability to be a step-parent, that was completely unnecessary and you have every right and reason in the world to feel hurt by something like that.

I wish I could help, I can just tell you that you are completely justified in how you're feeling and reacting. I honestly hope that this gets resolved asap, good luck!

Answer 4

Sorry that others are being cruel asking where your self-respect is when you are trying to get some answers about your dilema, not you staying with him. That was for you to decide and no one else.
Don't think anyone will be able to keep the girlfriend away from your children, as much as you may wish it to happen. It is inevitable that they will see her. I do not think your ex-mother-in-law is excercising good sense in allowing this woman to live in her house. Your children know who their real mom is and you will always have their deepest love no matter how hard others may try to replace you - you are their mom. Keep strong; sorry you are going through this.

Answer 5

Sounds to me like you made a good choice of finally getting OUT of the situation. This would hurt me too, but I say the best way to get back at them is to live a wonderful, HAPPY, abundant life in spite of them. You already took the first step, which is the hardest, and got out. Now, you have to truly MOVE ON from it.
Live YOUR life doing things YOU want to do that make YOU happy, and stop wasting your time, energy and thoughts on this loser now that you've FINALLY ridded your life of him!

Answer 6

Of course, her son, your ex, in her eyes can do no wrong. She is being very one sided. After 23 years of putting up with his lies and betrayal it doesn't seem fair at all. It seems like you are the one trying to start over and mending your broken heart , while he is living it up with a new woman.
I bet he isn't as happy as he appears, and in the end, you will come out on top and he will still be the same clueless mess.

Answer 7

WOW! Sorry to hear that. 23 yrs is along time to end a marriage after. But, you must remember that his mother..is just that, HIS mother! She's going to always love her son and stand by him. It does not mean she likes what he did to you. I would advise that you set some distance in the relationship that you have with her/his family. Turn to your base, your family, your strength for support. His mother is his mother and losing you as a daughter in law will not change that! Sorry.

Answer 8

i was married for 10 years, my mother in law was my best friend, but when he left she said she could never talk to me again, i was crushed i had not only lost my husband bur a woman i was so close to. later i found out he had left me for this other woman, and it hurt me alot to know that i never meant anything to him or his mom or the family i had called my own for so many years. and my mother in law welcomed this woman with open arms knowing what her son had done to me. it happens, and it proves that u really never know anyone, and mothers will always take the sides of their son's, no matter what or who gets hurt.

Answer 9

Sounds like his Mom is as shallow as he is! I guess its true what they say "The apple does not fall far from the tree". Sad to hear that. She sounds like she might blame you for his cheating ... Just remember, your children have a good MOM ... YOU!

My ex husbands wife told MY daughters to call her MOM ... My parents said to my daughters, YOU have a MOM. You should call her by her first name or step mom. They call her by her first name. Thats just MY personal story!

Answer 10

They have the mentality of a Harvard graduate....Harvard grade school where they were taught...onesy plus onesy is twosy, twosy plus twosy is threesy. These people are not worth crying over for ANYTHING.