I'm 21 and I've been married for almost 3 years. We've been together for almost 8 years. I love him but I think that I want to explore alittle but I don't want to give him up. I don't want to ruin what we have. What do I do?
2007-10-09 11:14:47 · 26 answers · asked by angel_32169 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I never had time to explore, we got together when I was 13. I would never dream of cheating on him.
2007-10-09 11:31:40 · update #1
OK- So I don't think you got married too early. I got married when I was 19 and I have been happily married for almost 5 years and we are planning to have a baby in the near future.
If you don't want to give him up then you must love him which must mean that you really don't want to leave him. Don't get in a rut, that is what it sounds like has happened. Keep trying new things together and build your lives together. Don't just do the same thing over and over and over- that gets OLD!
You don't need to explore with other men! Just love him and find some new adventures that you can take together. A cruise really helped us :-), but if you don't have the money for that then find something else.
Good Luck!
2007-10-09 11:37:31 · answer #1 · answered by Pamela G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old were you when you got with this guy,13? I started dating my husband when I was 16, I got married at 18. We have been together for 11 years and married for 8 years. If you want to explore you should go out with the girls, go to a club with your guy, or just plain old get out of the house and do something with your husband ,actually have some fun and it will make you feel better and not so cut off from the world. Anyway that's what I would consider explore. Getting married young is hard because it feels like you never got to do anything and when you want to your husband usually says no way !!! You did marry him for better or worse so you need to make the best of it. Try to have fun together. If you mean you want to "explore" with other men, shame on you!
2007-10-09 11:48:06 · answer #2 · answered by steph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then enjoy being a wife.. what do you want to do? explore what? trouble? LOL girly the answer to your question is yes you did marry at a young age.. but if you have a good man if you happy and he is not abusive and is a well provider take it from this old sister keep your marriage and your good man.. Because there is nothing good out there, believe me.. don't ruin something good.. now if he does something bad then I would say go and have fun! but if he haven't and you know it..don't mess up what you have is not easy to find, and one does not know what she has until she looses it.. get the point.. maybe is time for some heat in your relationship your both young get kinky and do fun couple stuff.. Your blessed, don't ruin that.. good luck.
2007-10-09 11:35:41 · answer #3 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you might have gotten married too young. It probably felt right at the time, but you didn't give yourself a chance to be young and explore. The fact that you want to do that now is a big sign that this guy probably is not the one for you. If you still feel like he is then you wouldn't want to see what else is out there. You could try a separation, but that's not going to go anywhere good, you might as well make the final cut now instead of dragging it out.
2007-10-09 11:20:48 · answer #4 · answered by graybear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you got married too early, but believe me, you're not missing much. I think it's normal to be curious, but you need to remain faithful to your husband. Why don't the two of you start "exploring" together. I like the book 1001 Ways to Be Romantic because it can add a little boost to your relationship. Also try doing a few things together. Now is an awesome time to go hiking if you live near the mountains. The trees are changing color, and the atmosphere is wonderful. ou might want to try rock climbing or going to a climbing gym or working out together. Rekindle your relationship. There is nothing out there to look for. You don't want to compromise your relationship just to satisfy your curiosity.
2007-10-09 11:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by Kitten S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should of thought about exploring before you got married. if you dont want to give him up then give up the idea of exploring.. I understand your pain but you have to look at it like this.. You are marriend not just b/f g/f married means you dont want to explore it means you want that one person you are with.. maybe you did marry early, but you did and its done chances are once you explored you would want to go back to him and chances are he would be upset with you and things would never be the same, you are in a state and age right now where you might feel like that but in several years the stability will comfort you and you will be glad you stayed with him.. whatever you do dont cheat.. cheating in a relationship is one thing but being a wife that cheats thats a whole different level of wrong. i hope i didnt offend you but you made the commitment so stick with it.
2007-10-09 11:21:37 · answer #6 · answered by Lucas H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were married way too early.
The perfect example is because of what you are thinking. A couple that was married at the right time to the right person does not want to explore.
2007-10-09 11:21:13 · answer #7 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you've stuck by each other for so long so far, and you made the decision to love this guy forever...don't give that up ok! Do new things together and go travelling together. Don't tempt yourself and explore other guys but enjoy the wonderful man you do have.
You did get married early, but just think of why you married him, he must have some amazing qualities that you love about him.
best wishes.
2007-10-16 14:37:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to want to explore a little. I am newly married and sometimes have the same fellings. It doesnt make you a bad preson just curious. The problem is that we are not allowed to act on curiosity because of a comittment we made. Dont give him up there really isnt much out there. Try getting yourself into your own activities. Have a life that is seperate from him (not with other men). You may just be starting to think that you are stuck and bored. Get out of the house and make a life for yourself and it will help. It helped me.
2007-10-09 12:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by nickii3049578 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married at 20, also young. However, I was very lucky to find a great man and we have been together 28 years with 2 wonderful kids. Everyone wonders what their life would be like if they had taken a different route. But, the grass isn't always greener on the other side and you would be risking losing a man you love. If you are seriously considering an affair, get therapy. Do everything you can to save your marriage, but you cannot have your cake and eat it too.
2007-10-09 11:25:03 · answer #10 · answered by Maureen S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋