I recently found out he's been going to this girl's condo after work for around 10 months now. When I confronted him, he said she was "just sex." He said he called it off, but my friend caught him on camera going to her place. I think he still loves me because he always goes home at night. But I am sad that he goes to her place before coming home. So is it possible that it is "just sex"? Or does he love her more than me?
2007-10-09 12:39:43 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why waste our time. Get a divorce. #
2007-10-09 12:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by nhuvi j 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It is clear HE DOESN"T love you because he is not RESPECTING you .. How can you be with him even if you know he has being cheating for almost a year.. What do you expect for your marriage in the future??? He will continue doing this because you didn't do something maybe YES is juts SEX but where is your place at his wife??
If it is OK to say is ok you can have sex with other as long as you love me and come back home!!! Then where will you end up being second in bed.. I will suggest you either talk to him and solve this situation or move on with the video of your friend you can get a divorce rigth away.. WHy do you want a men next to you if he will be "having sex" with others .. You need respect from him and you need to love your self a little more. So think about this again and make a decition you can not continue to have this life even if you love him that much..It will hurt yes I am not saying is easy but I guess you deserve more ...BEST WISHES:)
2007-10-09 12:48:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is never just sex. That would be alright with you? Him coming home to you just says that he is a coward. It is easier to live with you and sleep with her. I would not put up with this. Where is your self respect? Do you really want him to come home at night after he slept with her? What for? Do you know how many std that he could give you? Is this the first time or just the first time that he got caught. Getting over him will hurt a bit but it will be worth it in the long run. I would not stay with a man that cheated on me. Yours has been caught and does not even care. He still continues to go over there and to lie to you. He continues to put your health at risk. I can't say if he loves her more than you but he loves himself more that you and that says a lot. Love yourself more than that. Good luck to you.
2007-10-09 15:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It really doesn't matter if he loves you more or her more. Your husband is cheating and lying. YES! he loves her. Soon, he will want a way out of this marriage to live a life with her. How could you as a ''woman'' say,'' it's just sex''? as if it's ok? where is your self respect? If he loved you at all... he wouldn't be seeing another woman. AND have the balls to let you know that he was seeing her for "" just sex''.
2007-10-13 12:34:27 · answer #4 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband may very well love you. There are different kinds of love. Obviously, he has a problem and it is not right for him to do this to you. He should not be going to another woman for anything. Ask yourself what is going on at home for him to be looking somewhere else for sex. One thing is for sure, you do not deserve to be his door mat. I suggest counseling for you two, and if that doesn't work then you should pick up your head and walk out the door.
Best of luck to you!
2007-10-09 12:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a different perspective; if your husband loved you he wouldn't disrespect you by cheating, saying that it's "just sex" and cheating again. Really, if it's "just sex", is that going to be OK with you? If he loves you more, are you still going to be fine with him having feeling and / or sex with her? Is any of that really important?
If you haven't already, go and get tested for STD's and Aids. Then, ask yourself if this is how you want your marriage to be and if this is the kind of man you want for a husband.
2007-10-09 13:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its more than just sex, he cares something about her. The reason he comes home at night because you are security and he doesn't want to pay the consequences of a divorce. He loves you when it is convenient for him. You do what you feel is right.He admitted to you he is intimate with her , need I say more.
2007-10-09 13:50:45 · answer #7 · answered by Thunder 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is it possible that you are insecure and weak? He doesn't respect you and he probably never will. So what he comes home, that is his home. Most men have affairs and then go home to their wives. You need to seek marriage counseling and if that doesn't work you need to leave the unhealthy relationship.
You can love someone and not be with them. It's obvious you love him more than you love yourself and that's ashame.
2007-10-09 13:17:13 · answer #8 · answered by KSR 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HI WHEN A MAN CHEATS ON HIS WIFE OR GIRLFRIEND IT MEANS THAT THEY ARE NO LONGER ATTRACTED OR IN LOVE WITH YOU AND JUST BECAUSE HE GOES HOME AT NIGHT DOES NOT MEAN HE LOVES YOU IT MEANS THAT HE HAS TO SLEEP.ITS NOT JUST SEX ITS FORNICATION,ADULTARY, AND HE'S BREAKING GODS COMMANDMENT. IM SORRY BUT YOU SHOULD MOVE ON YOUR A GREAT AND LOVING PERSON AND CAN FIND WAY BETTER SWEETIE HAVE A GOOD NIGHT AND TAKE CARE.
2007-10-09 12:53:16 · answer #9 · answered by Q678 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one that loves you could hurt you so much, he will keep doing this as long as you keep allowing it to happen. I f someone love you they do whatever they can to make you happy, if you find someone to love you back then you will know what true love feels like
2007-10-09 12:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my husband loves me and says he would never cheat on me he would feel guilty coming home to me after being with someone else. so no your husband doesn't love you. and you need to first love yourself and stop letting this man disrespect you. women like you make it ok for men to cheat
2007-10-09 13:42:27 · answer #11 · answered by Janice 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋