Hello again, My ex wife is going to respond to my request for custody of my son. She is very mad, by the way. Her grandmother and grandfather are going to financially help her. Her sister tells me that they are going to ask the judge that I pay for her court cost and attorney fee's...Can she really request that ? what if they paid $10,000.00 for a lawyer ..they cant pass that on to me right ? I think she is trying to "intimidate" me.
2007-10-09 16:05:30 · 8 answers · asked by Doctor Redcrow MD 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
on my case. I have a letter admitting she cant handle her life. 2. I have 2 letters from her sister and dad that I, the father should have my son. 3. I have police records on her new married husband criminal arrest and 12 tickets. 4. He used to beat my ex . 5. I have a police graph of all the crime in her new neighborhood. 6. Hes an illegal mexican in the u.s. with out papers. // and last i have a police report of when he broke in her 2 story window...putting my kids in danger. I got this one.
2007-10-09 16:25:49 · update #1
Court isn't about justice anymore. The side who is the most prepared usually wins- so get educated on the law. If you live in a big city you might fine a Father's rights org. in your area. google Dad's rights father rights and read! Lots of sites have useful info even if they are trying to sell their services. Next your states superior court website. Read everything. Know your rights.Next down to the court house talk to the clerk and find out what you can file. Know your resources.
Look in the yellow pages for lawyers who will hear your case for a free 30 minutes. Go to two or three.Write down an outline so you don't ramble- Be prepared.
Remember these words: "The best interest of our child" the child's rights, not your rights to see/visit/custody- but the rights of the child to have both parents in his life.
2007-10-09 18:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are lawyers that take father rights as well as custodial cases for free. Look up pro bono lawyers in your state, see if they can help. I dont think she can get court costs and att fees, simply because this is not a claim. Its kind of like whoever filed the petition is the one who pays the court fees. What do I know Im just a layman. this is an opinion
2007-10-09 16:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a lawyer man, but that doesn't sound right. Generally you only pay court costs if you lose a case. That I do know from experience. But like I said I'm no lawyer and haven't fought a custody battle.
With all that against her I think it's kind of a no brainer and any judge will see that, you won't have to pay for her lawyer, maybe court costs, but certainly not her lawyer.
2007-10-09 16:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to intimidate you and at the very least, get under your skin. In most states, the person who earns more pays for both attorney's fees (if asked.) Most do not ask. That law was formed years ago when husbands would divorce their wives during a time in which it was rare for a woman to be employed outside the home. It was to protect the woman (who earned less or earned nothing) from being railroaded in court. Check the laws regarding this in your state.
2007-10-09 16:22:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you from experience...
You can get custody.
It would benefit you to have a female lawyer. Not saying it's right... but that will put you a mile ahead of where you would be with a male lawyer. The more you do for your lawyer, the less "hours" they will charge you. Have everything documented in electronic form and provide it to your lawyer. I don't see you having to pay her legal fees - and if half of her family is against her... your up again :)
good luck to you and best wishes for your son.
2007-10-09 16:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reasonable Doubt!!! The only way dude! First things first being a guy when it comes to child support/alimony the guy always get screwed! OK You have to always show proof! Standing there in front of God!! Don't just say this happen that happen. Prove it!!!! More then likely their gonna listen to you just a little more because your not running away and saying you want SOLE custody. More then likely it will end up being joint! You still will have to pay all the guys do!
2007-10-09 16:18:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the state. My fiance and I are in the middle of a bitter custody battle for his youngest child (she asked us if she could move in with us and have very solid reasons as to why). There are two states involved in our case because the divorce was finalized in one state but the children are considered residents of another. In the state we're fighting in, we're only responsible for our legal fees and not for hers.
If you don't have an attorney already, I would definitely do some research and retain one soon!
Good luck!
2007-10-09 16:12:51 · answer #7 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No
2016-05-20 03:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by maegan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋