I am trying hard to break free from a co dependent relationship. I was with my boyfriend for 8 years and took care of him as if he was my child. He has never had much motivation in life. I moved out of the house 3 months ago, but I still continued to see him. I even started back paying his bills for him. I told him that I did those things becasue I love him. He does not have a job, He does not have license or any transportation. He tells me he loves me all the time and he says he is not using me, but I also know that he is a chronic liar. He tells lies all the time. But he still says he loves me. I dont understand. Anyway today is the first day that I have not been by to check on him. Do you think he will call me?? What do you think will happen?? I miss him but I know he is no good. Please someone I need some major mental help and advice!!!!
2007-10-09 06:53:00 · 10 answers · asked by Sunny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're kidding, right? He's a liar who says he loves you. You have proven to him over and over and over again that if he tells you this particular lie, "I love you," you will give him money. If I tell you I love you, will you send ME money??? I'm looking at an $800 credit card bill this month . . .
Please? I love you! And, I am not using you.
2007-10-09 07:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever happened to a man being a man and standing on his own 2 feet?If his legs aren't broken,then he can take care of himself.Who cares if he calls?You're well-rid of this leech.You also might want to see a psychologist to help you put in perspective why you chose to stay in that kind of relationship for so long.I'm pretty sure most women wouldn't have put up with that for 8 weeks,much less 8 years!
2007-10-09 07:31:18 · answer #2 · answered by honey_demoss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know yourself that he isn't good for you then let him go. He's not taking care of you, he doesn't have money/job, or a car. How can he say he loves you when he can't even take care of you. If he loves you he will call you and realize what needs to be done. If not, then leave him alone and find someone better.
2007-10-09 06:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by **Mystica** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe that you let a male take advantage of you for this long! You said so yourself, "and took care of him as if he was my child." How old is this guy? He doesn't have a job? Has he ever had a job? Has he ever contributed to your relationship? He doesn't have a license? Sounds to me that he refuses to grow up! Who cares if he calls you! You have been so used to taking care of this guy, that you know no other way! All that time and money spent on him, could of been used to better your life! Quit paying his bills! He is never going to make something of himself if you keep taking care of his needs. He needs to grow up and quit taking advantage of you! Get rid of him and get on with your life!
2007-10-09 07:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by Perkymo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read what you wrote as it was someone Else's>Then ask yourself why would she want to be with a person that has so many issue and is using her>You seem to like the fact that he is needing you or you needing him and making it your life >There are a lot of others that will help you>>
2007-10-09 07:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read what u wrote!!!!! He will probably call because he knows how good he has it. He is using for anything he needs. Quit paying his bills and let him grow up, move on and find someone who is will to do as much for you as u are for them
2007-10-09 07:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a man who will focus all of his attention to taking care fo you even for just a weekend with your feet kicked up getting rubbed. Afterwards you will be amazed at the perspective you gain from it.
2007-10-09 08:58:01 · answer #7 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut all ties. Really if there is co-dependency it is the only way. Co-dependency is like an addiction if you keep seeing it you will want it again. You have to go cold turkey.
2007-10-09 08:27:25 · answer #8 · answered by MissE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you.
2007-10-09 07:02:48 · answer #9 · answered by patweb01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Genetics or be a pediatrician.
2016-05-19 23:32:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋