For those of you married a long time how did you weather the storms of life without breaking up or giving up and when you or your spouse did not have a job, how did you cope?
2007-10-09 10:05:02 · 10 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By realizing what is important in life. Yes, we need a job for shelter, food and bills, but jobs do not make the person. I know I have been out of work, as has he and we never ever criticized each other or nagged them when this happened. We were supportive and encouraging and understanding. Jobs will come and go, but love such as you have is hard to find. Also, it helps by concentrating on the positive things you have in your life and being thankful for them. A job will appear when you least expect it.
2007-10-09 10:39:22 · answer #1 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have been married for 20 years this past July. The hardest has been the last 5 years since my wife was diagnosed with Bi-Polar. Let me try and answer: People getting married: talk about life goals, religion, ambition, work ethic, how many children you want and how they should be disciplined and plans for retirement. How much money do you think you will need to get by? What careers do you want to have. Do you want to be working parents or have a stay at home parent. Look at the parents of your fiance and their siblings. There is a good chance your fiance will turn out just like them in the long run. This part of the marriage you should enter with both eyes wide open. Now for the newlyweds: time to close your eyes a little. First year is getting used to living with another person. Give and take is essential. The things that were unique about your fiance will drive you crazy as a newlywed. Learn to love them even with their faults unconditionally. Don't insist that you always win the argument. Don't enlist your friends or family to help settle fights. NEVER GO TO BED ANGRY. Talk things out and then go to sleep. The secrete? There will be good times and bad times. Enjoy the good times, get through the bad and remember they are temporary. Remember your vowls, "in sickness and in health, richer or poorer. Cherish your spouse put their needs above your own. Don't entertain thoughts of cheating. Whenever someone cheats, it always starts as a passing thought. If you don't entertain it, you will resist it. Give and take, love in good and bad times.
2016-05-20 00:46:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too keep it simple, I am the rock, the provider, keep it all together and make it grow, plus I satisify her basic wishes & more. She always tells me she can't have it any better, knows if she let go her world would fall apart.
When there was a phase where I was out of work, for 7 whole months, we had to sell and move, without jobs, she stuck with me, found a job right away and provided the income, though meager, now everything is back the way it was.
I love her especially for that.
2007-10-09 11:34:29 · answer #3 · answered by De-Activated Bad Profile 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's called emotional maturity; the ability to face a variety of problems without becoming totally unglued and panic.
As far as jobs go, we've never been that attached to money, per se that we had to worry when one of us was between jobs.
For people with a good list of skills - good resume's and references - things generally tend to work out.
2007-10-09 11:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by John Doe 1st 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She has only worked on and off. I have always worked steady and sometimes mor hours than I should. Just have to overlook the small stuff and let your partner know about the stuff that really bothers you. It takes 2 and both need to want to give more that get.
2007-10-09 10:14:57 · answer #5 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
by realizing that these ups and downs will occur in life no matter who you are with. so, changing spouses or breaking up won't make these issues non-existent. in fact, it will probably only add more drama, heartache, and loneliness to your life.
2007-10-09 10:09:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just have to remember - it is a PARTNERSHIP - so everything that affects him affects me, and when things are bad, stick together - it's easier to do something when you have moral support.
2007-10-09 10:19:21 · answer #7 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
30yrs I think it went like this "for better or worse, richer or poorer, sickness and health.. Money has nothing to do with love.
2007-10-09 10:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It wasn't easy, believe me. 33 years.
2007-10-09 10:08:52 · answer #9 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
For better, or worse. #
2007-10-09 10:09:58 · answer #10 · answered by nhuvi j 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋