I mean I love my husband. I don't know if I am truly in love with him. He is my best friend. Is this as good as it gets. I find myself yearning for more . we have alot of history and kids together but we made it a point not to stay together for the kids. but I find myself always wondering Is this really love or am I just settleing
2007-10-09 09:26:41 · 25 answers · asked by * SalLyRokz * 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it does. I love my husband. I married him and he has kids from a previous marriage. It is not fun nor easy to being a stepmom. Though I see with time and patience, it is getting better. I just had a great weekend with the kids, the best one in a long time.
It feels like if you have to ask then no. But is there someone out there that is better for you? That's a risky question. It seems hard to find a decent man.
2007-10-09 09:31:28 · answer #1 · answered by Unsub29 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going through a mild midlife crisis. My parents went through it at their 20 year high school reunion when they saw old girlfriends and boyfriends from high school. Old feelings came back, and it ended up ruining three marriages. Bottom line is that everybody thinks the grass is greener on the other side. But you need to accept the choices you've made in life. If we're lucky we get 80-90 years to make the most of it. Don't ruin your family and your marriage because you think something else MIGHT be better out there. The best place after a long journey is ALWAYS home.
2007-10-09 09:32:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was EXACTLY there in your spot a year and a half ago...you know, I think people do grow up, grow in different directions, and yes, grow apart. It happened to me, and I am a stable, sane, and regular person. If you're feeling this way, you should realize that yes, there are other avenues, and YES, that crazy movie love, that live and die love is out there with someone!
I didn't have that spark, that fire (now that I look back, ever) in my past marriage. I do now, and even though I gave up that history and all of that, I wouldn't trade my decision to move on because I am out of this world happy with my new love, my new life, and all the possibilities that go with them...it's hard, it takes big soul searching, but you can do it...YOU are worth it, whatever you decide.
Good luck, keep us posted!
2007-10-09 09:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by VixenOXOX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww. Depends on how you see love. It is a way you see it happen? If you want something romantic to happen, say that to your husband and make the best of it. Even if it's about eating pizza at the candle light. Love is feeling secure, happy and loved with everything you are and you are not. If you think you want more, go for it the way you want it. But yes, I think the actual love exist. You just have to see/find it and feel it.
2007-10-09 09:32:48 · answer #4 · answered by Divinaâ?¢ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, love exists. Sometimes you have to just try a little harder to keep it alive. Don't give up a good thing, may just be a little down spot. I think if you would work at it a little, there may be more there than you think. People give up so fast, then when it's over say "but I love you and miss you." Don't let that happen to you.
2007-10-09 09:31:42 · answer #5 · answered by Ginger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is what you make of the relationship
it doesn't happen naturally. you have to make the love. create it in the relationship.
don't settle for a life without full, deep love.
get the book 'getting the love you want' and read it and do it. get marshall rosenberg's nonviolent communication, the language of love and read it and do it. your marriage will come alive with deep satisfying love. but you have to put in the effort to make it grow. just like a garden. getting a different plot of land won't make your garden better. it's a change in your effort and quality of attention that will makeyour garden better.
2007-10-09 09:31:21 · answer #6 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. My husband and I seperated for about a year and during that year we hadn't seen each other. We made an arrangement to split our belongings up well when we saw each other we just couldn't be without each other. We have been together for about 6 years now and have an amazing little girl.
2007-10-09 09:46:58 · answer #7 · answered by arwensilverwind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seven year itch? If he truely is your best friend then talk to him and find out why your in a "rut" there is always a way to fix the hum drum point in your life you are in now. Yes there is a thing called true love. You just need to rediscover it.
2007-10-09 09:36:30 · answer #8 · answered by iceman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're wondering you're settling. When love is real, you know it. I had the real thing for almost twenty years. There were a lot of reasons we had to part; none of them involved a lack of love.
2007-10-09 09:30:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does, but based on what you need from him, and what he needs from you.
Right now with kids, it's both of your duties to give them a happy upbringing, you cannot be selfish.
And of course you yearn for more, that is what we are , we always want more , we are rarely content with what we already have!!!
2007-10-09 09:49:17 · answer #10 · answered by Venom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋