Marriage & Divorce - 8 October 2007

2007-10-08 05:44:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

He's got this twisted view on what depression is.... he thinks it just temporary sadness or stress.... I have been depressed for a long time and I've been in counseling so many times and all these times he didnt even know for what... so we got into this huge arguement last night and I tried to explain what it was and he claimed that I wasnt depressed and him feeling like that made me want to cut myself again... he makes me feel so horrible about myself, he thinks taking care of our child and doing some chores around the house is supposed to help my depression but I kept trying to explain to him that the house could be totally perfect and i will still be depressed, can someone help me help him understand what it means to be depressed? I tried showing him some websites but he has too much pride because in his thick skull he thinks he understands it and doesnt need textbook to educate him. Please help me

2007-10-08 05:42:27 · 27 answers · asked by Betrayed and Insane 5

When can you say, im done!?

2007-10-08 05:41:13 · 16 answers · asked by mizmaryjane 1

This happend not a long time ago in Punta del Este, what would you do if you were any member of that family? By the way they were both married at the time.

2007-10-08 05:38:11 · 12 answers · asked by Top Contributor 3

Ladies, my lovely wife and I will be celebrating our 1st anniversary next month. We are going away the weekend before the actual date, for I have to work on the actual date. We agreed that this trip is our gift to each other.
I want to surprise her with something small. I want to have our first dance song (by Terri Clark) written in caligraphy and put in a frame. Does this sound corny , or does it sound like a loving, original gesture?

2007-10-08 05:33:35 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-08 05:23:31 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

to move elsewhere for the time being, what is a good option as where to stay, especially if your trying not to stay with relatives.

2007-10-08 05:22:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

She cheated and all she could say was " you treated me good" and that was the end of the conversation. She was my best friend...every breath I took. I still love her with all my heart to the point I dream of her with her arms around me and telling me that she loves me. I've tried everything I can to get past this and nothing helps. It's been 4 years. I won't even have a relationship with another because the trust issue is right on the top of the list. Can't seem to even give a lady a chance. I think about her every day. Sure do wish someone could help me get past this. I ended up in the hospital for a while after it ended because I completely feel apart physically. For 6 months I slept on the sofa because trying to sleep in a bed just reminded me that I was alone and she wasn't there.

2007-10-08 05:21:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ladies pls help, I like would to know what are some of your thoughts when you first meet or see a man that looks nice or that you might be interested in?....Example..I was in a major store today and I saw a very pretty lady and the first thing that can to my mind was would I be able to please her in bed....I know thats not the right thing to think but thats how guys brains are wired....So what do u thing when you see a nice looking man?? P.S. this is a question about what you as ladies think not about what i thought or did !!!

2007-10-08 05:17:59 · 11 answers · asked by gators gutt 1

2007-10-08 05:16:27 · 14 answers · asked by bird 1

My husband and I have been married for almost a year. And he has a past of cheating. Things seem to be going good for the past year, and now all of a sudden its been almost 2 months since we have had sex, and now hes been going to work 2 hours earlier. Which he just started a new position and he says he just needs to get ahead so they dont think hes slacking. There is some girl at work that I think he has been getting close too. Hes always talking about her. If he cheated before but seemed to be doing better, should i give him the benefit of the doubt before confronting him and causing no needed drama in our life. I had our first child last Dec. and thats when things seemed to get better. Now I am pregnant with our second child which is due in Jan. Am I just getting overly worried....(oh by the way he is always making comments like when i get my new bike Im taking melissa on a ride) which is the girl that i think hes getting close to. Please honest opinions and dont be stupid!

2007-10-08 05:14:45 · 14 answers · asked by crazyworld 2

It will be 2 years and i have no desire to be intimate at all with my wife (or anyone else for that matter.) have we been on a rough path and her treatment of me has been unfair at best. And recently when we have done it it feels meaningless and worthless to me to the point where i barely enjoy the act itself and try to have to force myself to do it. Is she physically attractive yes but psychlogically and emotionally am I attracted to her NO. HELP PLEASEE!!!!!

2007-10-08 04:46:47 · 12 answers · asked by angels shadow 1

i personally belive that "if a women take divorce from her husband her whole life is so miserable".men always want to exploit women in different manners. the society also won't care them and won't give respect for them.a womin is alwys safe in her husband presence only.
i think even women also never give respect to them.
wht i want to tell u is never take divorce from u r partner.live happily with u r partner.
if her husband is a rog then only she will take divorce from her husband.

2007-10-08 04:46:09 · 19 answers · asked by p.praveen b 1

I was in a sports bar Saturday night watching the Gator-Lsu game(Thats college football for u ladies that don't know)When a very pretty lady came and took a seat next to me..We started talking about the game.We talked for 35 min or so before she told me she was to meet some friends at the sports bar.Her friend got there a lil late but did get there.NOW the good part she invited me to the table with her and her friends.I told her to go have fun with you friend and maybe we will talk later.So she went to the table with her friends and seem to be having a good time but would glance at me ever few mins.as i was also looking at her.So after about 30 min she came to the bar and grabed my arm and we went to her table to meet her friends.After the game I asked if I could walk her to her car she said sure we get to her car and its a $100.000 Benz..I'm like WOW.she insisted that i get in her car.I did and we talked for 45min.Come to find out she is one of the biggest doctor around.we exchanged #

2007-10-08 04:43:38 · 12 answers · asked by ? 3

2007-10-08 04:43:38 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-08 04:41:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Most forced marriage of the forced arranged, shotgun weeding and general forcedsort actually work very well. Many people learn to love each other later on or don't bother and have a good life together any way.

So why is it illegal in some places? I am aware that sometimes the person may be in love with someone else or hates the person that they are being forced into marrying, but these faults can be worked on after marriage or they might decide to have a open marriage later on.
The only bad thing about forced marriage is human trafficking and the domestic abuse found in these marriage. Other than that what are the negative aspects of such marriage that i don't know about

2007-10-08 04:39:31 · 4 answers · asked by possessed by insanity 3

I am in my late 30's and married for almost four years. A few nights ago, my husband let me know he wanted a little action before turning in for the evening. No problem there. After I got out of the shower, I went to bed. My husband followed with his own shower. But he didn't come straight to bed. He showed up a short time later already sporting an erection. He had gone to computer to look at porn before he came to bed to me. He tried to hide his erection as he got in bed. I don't care if my husband looks at porn, but he made me feel like I couldn't get the job done and I was just a fill in for whomever he was looking at on the computer. Did he think I wouldn't notice? Do I have a valid right to feel put out over this? If this man is going to have to look at porn to get excited enough to have sex with me, I don't want him. By the way, I am in excellant shape, no kids, college educated...it is not a case of me letting myself go. Should I be concerned or just get over it?

2007-10-08 04:38:02 · 13 answers · asked by Jane 1

Me and my hubby have been together for way too long. We have a 6 year old and a newborn. I hate that we dont have that spark anymore. We love each other, but we just work, come home, cook dinner, take care of the kids, watch tv or movies, and go to bed on seperate sides. lol I want to know what we can do to make "us" not so boring. EVen it's a vacation for just the two of us or having some friends over. We need to do something. I am just feeling kind of blah right now.

Sometimes when he kisses me or trys to hug me i find myself pulling away and getting mad because I am trying to walk by in the middle of doing something.

2007-10-08 04:33:19 · 8 answers · asked by Cutie 3

So, my boyfriend and I have been dating for sometime. It's getting to the point where it's get married or break up. Well, I want to get married. The other night, my boyfriend kind of did a fake proposal. I had left my right hand ring on the bathroom counter after I was done washing my hands. I completely forgot.

Well, he came into the living room, sat next to me, took my hand and said "Will you Marry Me?". It was in a light hearted manner, so it was not the real thing. He was testing me. However, I feel like my reaction blew the whole opening for a very important and much needed conversation.

I'd been waiting for him to bring this up for a few months now, then he finally did and I froze. I was just really tired from starting a new job and I was completely caught off guard. I know my face had some sort of express on it, b/c I froze for a few seconds. Then I said,

2007-10-08 04:26:17 · 11 answers · asked by Je Adore 2

2007-10-08 04:20:44 · 20 answers · asked by EasyMoney 1

i don't know why the divorce rate is so incresing da by day.why women dont want in a relarionship?.why they will not adjust?.women are becoming so selfish they want thier life only.
they dom't want to think about thier children's futhre.i personally belive that if a child have no father he have no future. father teache's the child the character and give him good education and he teache's how to behave in the society.mother only give's love and food anly but father teache's so many things.
my farher also taeched me so many things therefore i alwys gratituted to my father, i love my father so much.

2007-10-08 04:17:25 · 19 answers · asked by p.praveen b 1

My husband has a problem with constant nagging and always blaming his issues and screwups on me. Somehow it's always my fault. Now, he works at a hospital and just called me and told he'd just called my father about some money he owed him and my dad told him my grandmother, who is 96 and who lives with my dad, woke up shaking and the ER was at their house now. I didn't say anything for moment because it took my surprise. My grandmother was kind of cold while I was growing up, but in her later years she has been kinder and I have developed a closeness to her, although I don't see her often. So, anyways, he's like "What's wrong with you!?" Like i'm giving him attitude because i'm pretty speechless over what he just said. Now, mind you, things have been pretty tense the last couple days because I'm just sick of him overreacting to everything, blaming me for whatever is wrong and just being a downer. But, I felt like this was totally self-centered and insensitive for him to say that.

2007-10-08 04:16:03 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I wanna have a good day out with the missus no kids we'll get a babysitter and cant think what to do,i want to be able to have a right good crack together something we can both get involved then go out in town afterwards any suggestions would help thanks

2007-10-08 04:09:36 · 8 answers · asked by Paul R 2

I need serious advice, I'm so worried. My husband and myself have been going through a bad patch in our marriage, really bad arguing and so on. We have a two and a half year old and a six month old and hes made me so paranoid about my body I'm now dieting and getting breast surgery. Last time we did anything it ended in disaster, its always the same and I feel he doesn't want to do anything anymore. For the past week I have got the kids to bed early got bathed and he falls asleep in front of me. I feel boring and horrid I know I don't do anything for him at all. I need to do something to spice things up but I don't wana do anything that makes me feel uncomfortable till I feel okay with my pre baby body which I am working with. Help please

2007-10-08 04:06:52 · 8 answers · asked by ♥Linz 2Boys Due A Girl 23/07/10♥ 5

hi: my husband and i are going on a marriage retreat this weekend and i was wondering if given the chance what would u want from this experience???? I know i want him to be more of a father to our children then a playmate and to help out a little more around the house and be there for me when i have had a stressful day... but i want to know what would u want to get out of a marriage retreat and would u go on one??? thank u so much for the answers and have a good week and god bless all of you...

2007-10-08 04:01:07 · 18 answers · asked by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6

I have been married for 2 yrs to a wonderful man in which I love very much. We both have children from our previous marriages. He has an 11 yr old daughter and I have two boys 16 and 12. He's a wonderful step-dad to my kids, very involved in their lives and he gets along with them great. On the other hand, I do not have that same type of relationship with his daughter. I feel bad because he is so good with my boys but I cannot seem to develope that same type of relationship with his daughter. She doesn't act like a "normal" 11 yr old girl. She is very negative and has alot of emotional issues. I cannot stand talking to negative people. It just drags me down and that's how I feel when I talk to her. My husband is aware of his daughter's issues and he has suggested counseling to her mom but her mom is totally against it. I've gotten to the point where I do not want to be around her when she comes over the house. I don't know how to handle this. Please Help!

2007-10-08 03:58:48 · 9 answers · asked by HOPEFUL 2

I've been married for 8 years and have watched my wife interest in sex decrease rapidly. Before marriage we had sex pretty much daily now its maybe every other week.

It used to be that if we couldn't have sex for one reason or another she would give me oral (mind you I give it to her every opportunity I get). But now it has been over year and a half with out a BJ. Also keep in mind due to pregnancy complications we were unable to have sex for a year and a half, (4 years ago no sexual attention at all during the entire time) and she's never made an effort to try and make up for that lost time it was straight back to 2 times a month.

She enjoys sex when we have it but I need more and talking about it just leads to a fight so now I just try to ignore my needs (like she does). I need some advise.

2007-10-08 03:57:51 · 21 answers · asked by Beagle_Boy 2

My fiance and I have been through it all, together almost 5 years had seperated for a year and a half and we share a child together. Since we've been back together he's read my journals page for page, put other girls before and threw out pictures of exes ( which i really dont care about.. if i was digging through my stuff and found them i would have rid of the anyways that was the past and i've been looking foward to OUR future). My problem is that he recently went through his boxes and kept dozens of pictures of his exes...DOZENS. Even girls he dated while we were seperated which really hurt. It was a slap in the face, a double standard. Why would he hold on to his past yet throw mine away?? He kept love letters and pictures of an ex girlfriend he calls anytime we are having problems. My biggest problem was the girl he slept with while we were seperated yet claims he had no relationship with her but kept her picture anyway.

2007-10-08 03:36:35 · 16 answers · asked by Keeping it real 1

by Judy Syfers (1971)

(Editors Note: This classic piece of feminist humor appeared in the premier issue of Ms. Magazine and was widely circulated in the women's movement.)

I belong to that classification of people known as wives. I am A Wife. And, not altogether incidentally, I am a mother. Not too long ago a male friend of mine appeared on the scene fresh from a recent divorce. He had one child, who is, of course, with his ex-wife. He is looking for another wife. As I thought about him while I was ironing one evening, it suddenly occurred to me that I too, would like to have a wife. Why do I want a wife?
I would like to go back to school so that I can become economically independent, support myself, and if need be, support those dependent upon me. I want a wife who will work and send me to school.

2007-10-08 03:33:30 · 11 answers · asked by DoLz 6