I need serious advice, I'm so worried. My husband and myself have been going through a bad patch in our marriage, really bad arguing and so on. We have a two and a half year old and a six month old and hes made me so paranoid about my body I'm now dieting and getting breast surgery. Last time we did anything it ended in disaster, its always the same and I feel he doesn't want to do anything anymore. For the past week I have got the kids to bed early got bathed and he falls asleep in front of me. I feel boring and horrid I know I don't do anything for him at all. I need to do something to spice things up but I don't wana do anything that makes me feel uncomfortable till I feel okay with my pre baby body which I am working with. Help please
2007-10-08 04:06:52 · 8 answers · asked by ♥Linz 2Boys Due A Girl 23/07/10♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really hate to hear all this, it must be hell. I mean Love, thats all anyone really wants is to be loved, and thats the thing with getting married is that you love that person, but divorce would be an idea I mean people change over time, look at your husband, I don't know how long you have been together but I can be accurate and say I bet you thought it wouldn't turn out the way it has.
I think the guy is an ***. HE doesn't know how to appreciate a woman. Listen it doesn't seem like anything is going to change with you changing yourself. Dieting and getting bigger breasts should be about you not him. I don't think you deserve to be treated this way. Get yourself looking the way you think should be and go out and find someone that will just adore you!
2007-10-08 04:57:33 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whats turned him off is the bad feeling, what's kept him that way is that you are so upset about your body. How could he find it attractive when you hate it and keep apologising for it?You sound like you are on the verge of obsession about it, which is not an attractive trait. Focus on why you guys fell out, not your looks and fix that, not your breasts. Traumatic experiences often make women focus on their looks it leads to eating disorders and even self harm as you hate yourself and your looks are the image of yourself.
What was the arguing about? what made you feel it was your looks that are the problem? If he's said you're ugly what was the real reason behind it? He fancied you enough only 15 months ago so its not the looks he really objects to.
Leave him a note on the fridge or wherever tomorrow that just says I love you. Get that communication open again. Need him for something he can physically do and see rather than emotional stuff, men just arent good at emottional stuff! Read the old men are from mars women are from venus books, (they do one about diets too!) they are good. Good luck.
2007-10-08 04:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by Wonderwoman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you have a selfish guy that only thinks of himself. Never have surgery just for someone else. I f it something you want then fine if the person you are with doesn't likee you for who you are and not what you look like then well they are not worth staying with. There is the saying love is blind if your hubby loves you then it should not matter if you have a little post pouch from having his child. He sounds like a jerk that needs to be taken to the cleaners and you find a real man. I'm sorry but he is pathetic. I bet alot of guys would be happy to messing around with you. Good Luck and God Bless.
I do not believe in divorce personally but sometimes there is no other fix to a marriage.
2007-10-08 04:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is saying things to make you paranoid about your body maybe you should dump him. Sounds like a real git.
2007-10-08 04:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
the best advice i can give you is to read "the complete book of rules" it gives you a million tips on making yourself irresistable to the opposite sex - give it a go!
good luck! :) xx
2007-10-08 04:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by girlie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that no matter what you do for him he will never appreciate it so don't go changing your body for a man only change it for yourself
2007-10-08 04:12:31 · answer #6 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why not ask someone to baby sit and have a lie in all day with him
2007-10-08 11:53:40 · answer #7 · answered by Perfectionist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
with time women lose her attraction when she start to grow horizontal.
and u failed to provoke as men senses r thru eye not thru ears lik e women
2007-10-08 04:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by 498A_Crusader 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋