why the women are taking divorce and distryoing thier children's future?

Question

i don't know why the divorce rate is so incresing da by day.why women dont want in a relarionship?.why they will not adjust?.women are becoming so selfish they want thier life only.
they dom't want to think about thier children's futhre.i personally belive that if a child have no father he have no future. father teache's the child the character and give him good education and he teache's how to behave in the society.mother only give's love and food anly but father teache's so many things.
my farher also taeched me so many things therefore i alwys gratituted to my father, i love my father so much.

Answer 1

It takes a GOOD husband and father to be better than NO husband and father at all. Why don't you offer your fellow men some constructive advice on how to be a better husband and father instead of pointing the finger at women? You strike me as one of those selfish bastards who dreams of HAVING a wife, but gives not thought at all to BEING a husband.

Answer 2

Are you a moron by any chance? Women aren't the ones to totally blame for the divorce rate...HELLO! There are two people in involved in a marriage...therefore it takes two to break it up.....If you really think that father's are the ONLY ones that have any affect on a child's life.....you are sadly mistaking....I agree that children do need a father....but they also need a mother.....And what makes you think that the father is the only one to teaches a child character and give them a good education, and how to behave in society? Can a mother not do these things??? Kinda strange don't you think...that if there were ANY truth to this....then why do children end up with the mother in most custody issues when divorce occurs?? That doesn't mean that I agree that the mother is always the best parent....but I am just stating the obvious....

Answer 3

I understand your point.

But an unhealthy marrige can do the same amount of damage as a divorce to a child. Women don't just get married to have kids and divorce, their whole lives aren't just around children, and if I was married and wanted a divorce but there was children, I would try my best to make thing work with the partner, and my happiness comes into account too. Women also take on mens roles now, and can always re-marry. It's also in the fathers effort to keep in contact with the children, too.
You can't just say women are becoming selfish and want their life only - remember they held that child, and obviously thought about it. Of course, life is easier now, with getting married and all you have to do is file a divorce if things don't work out, but the men must of contributed to it.
My dad taught me lots of things, and I am close to my mother, and she looks after us completely.

Answer 4

HEHEHEHE....I don't know where you are from or if you are just here practicing your English or what. But my father was never around to teach me a damn thing. He took off and I think I've turned out fine. There certainly isn't anything wrong with my character. Now I don't mean that fathers aren't very important to their children's growth, but no more than mothers. And certainly if need be a mother can do it all on her own. My mother did. As I am doing with my child for the most part....simply because her father CHOOSES not to be in her life full time not because I don't want him there.

Answer 5

the woman is not always the one who initiates the divorce. many times, the man does. both men and women are selfish, but divorces occur for all kinds of reasons, some very legitimate. i'm not sure what you want women to "adjust to:" abuse? cheating? bad husbands? that's why a lot of women (and men) divorce.
i agree fathers are important, but even if the parents divorce, the father can and should still be part of the children's lives. my mother did more than feed and love me. she also taught me and my brothers a lot about life. so did my father.
i'm sorry your parents divorced. that must be difficult.

Answer 6

This is the meanest thing I have ever said so get ready. I am a widowed mother of four boys and my children are happy, loved, well adjusted, well fed children and I totally resent this whole stupid question you have going on. I don't know who stomped your feet this morning but not all women or men are as you are saying. Some are but most are not. Divorce is not a one way street and there are lots of contributing factors from both sides. Get over yourself as things could always be worse.

Answer 7

i do no longer comprehend a guy who divorced his spouse after she replace into raped. that's available that he might and he in all probability might. i comprehend that some muslim adult men are nevertheless searching for different halves that have been abducted at the same time as traveling in another country and that they nevertheless choose their different halves back in spite of in the event that they have not got any toddlers. in islam rapists are punished, no longer married . who might marry a violent guy no longer to show a rapist? why? women people who have been raped are much less possibly to get married , little or no probability only approximately none , yet they do no longer seem to be blamed by employing God fearing people in spite of the shown fact that gossip approximately them will unfold by employing people who're ignorant or acquaintances and family of rapists. so yeah a female will constantly be the sufferer , yet islam would not say that she shouldn't marry or could desire to be blamed , it discourages people from harming her even by employing mere gossip which has an extremely grim punishment. your husband could have spoken some specific incident even even though it specific has no longer something to do with islam. i'm a muslim female and that i only had a verbal substitute with my chum , her sister is getting a divorce because of the fact her husband verbally abused her, he on no account even lay a finger on her. on no account think of that sadists/rapists/criminlas are common by employing muslim women people or islamic society , only according to probability some exceptions.

Answer 8

You are right...fathers play such an inportant role in the lives of their children. However, I don't think that that is really the issue. Fathers can stay plugged in the lives of their kids whether married or not. That is a choice. Let me tell you briefly my story. I will condense it greatly for the sake of the forum and time constraints on my part.

I was married 15 years. I have 3 sons. I married my husband after 3 months. I wasn't pregnant or anything. I was 18 and he showed me attention. At first he was nice and of course he was cute.

Shortly, however he started changing my personality by manipulating me and telling me things like my family hates me, thats why they fight with me, then he would go to my mom and ask her what he can do with me since I am out of control. This happened slowly and systematically over 15 years. All in the meantime he had some SERIOUS sexual addictions that included porn, 3 attempted molestations, masturbation, among others. There was financial lies, our credit was shot cause he didn't pay the bills, and he never kept a job for more than a year. I was trying to hold it together and thought that it was a godly duty to keep my marriage together...religious reasons mostly.

Well, when I was finishing my degree the stuff hit the fan and I discovered all the secrets and lies and I also discovered that he was planning to move out of state with the boys and file abandoment charges on me after telling me he wanted to give me space to take my finals and finish my degree. I foiled his plan by 3 weeks!! He told me that I was bi=polar and crazy. He has even since had his dys-functional family members call and threaten me with attorneys and losing custody of my kids because I had split personality. (according to him...I have never been diagnosed with anything, and yes, I have gone in to a counselor and spent lots of time figuring out who I am)

So now let me ask you a question....what kind of father turns the mother of his kids into a basket case? What kind of father likes little girls? What kind of father treats the mother of his kids liks crap?

So I don't think you can or should lump it all into one general statement. It took alot for me to leave. My boys see their father 3 or 4 times a week. He is very active in their lives, but he cannot treat me with such disregard and even mental abuse.

The 3 A's are a valid reason for leaving: Adultery, Abuse, or Addiction.

Answer 9

obviously your father didnt teach you grammer!!! but to answer your question people divorce for many reasons... sometimes its mutual and other times its not!!! just because the parents get divorced doesnt mean that the father/or mother wont be in the picture it simply means they will have seperate time with the child! thats what joint custody is! as for it ruining there future that is completely untrue! many children are better off with there parents seperated! they need to be in a loving home and one with screaming and yelling all the time doesnt cut it!!! i dont kno where your getting your facts from but you need to check them again!! if the father isnt in the picture its his own fault!!!! <3

Answer 10

Unfortunately not everyone is lucky to have a great and wonderful father as you! In this you are truly blessed that your father was a good man and was right. It is sad to say that not all fathers are commited to their children's mother and lack the morals in themselves to be a good upstanding father. You are completely right that parents are responsible for setting good examples for their children to prosper and grow in the right way.You honor your father and he has done very well with you and he can be proud because you are proud of him. In this you will make a good father and that will be a great legacy to leave for your children.