Me and my hubby have been together for way too long. We have a 6 year old and a newborn. I hate that we dont have that spark anymore. We love each other, but we just work, come home, cook dinner, take care of the kids, watch tv or movies, and go to bed on seperate sides. lol I want to know what we can do to make "us" not so boring. EVen it's a vacation for just the two of us or having some friends over. We need to do something. I am just feeling kind of blah right now.
Sometimes when he kisses me or trys to hug me i find myself pulling away and getting mad because I am trying to walk by in the middle of doing something.
2007-10-08 04:33:19 · 8 answers · asked by Cutie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Date nights once a month are a good way to reconnect. Get a babysitter and go on a "date" with your husband once a month.
2007-10-08 04:41:13 · answer #1 · answered by Angel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stopping pushing him away one day he may just say fine I want a divorce because you hve turned into Mrs Ice Queen.
Buy some educational books, get a babysitter for the night and just go to a nice hotel and do the nasty after a nice romantic dinner. Remember one thing when you have kids it doesn't mean you forget about couple time. Most divorces happen because the wife pays more attention to the kids then her husband and the marriage. Start sleeping in the same bed again?.
2007-10-08 04:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have more problems then you think if you are getting angry and pulling away from him that sounds like some underlying resentment for something,or maybe you are out of love with him it really doesn't sound like you are attracted to him anymore.
But on the other hand if you are in love with him then you need to hire a babysitter and have a night of Passion and hot sex,and maybe take a weekend if you have a good babysitter. Be care full if you do love him I know if my wife would get angry with me for wanting a kiss or hug after awhile I would quit trying and sooner or later I would get a kiss somewhere else
2007-10-08 04:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by me1234529 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ideas that you've already mentioned are good ones - the key is to act on them. Maintaining the "spark" takes work but it is definately worth it.
Take the time for just the 2 of you whether it is a date night, a vacation, or inviting friends over where talk of the kids and work are off limits. In time, you'll find yourselves connecting in ways that you never thought possible!
I admire your resolve to make it work! Good luck to you!
2007-10-08 04:49:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for your husband. If he's openly trying to "connect" with you and give you a hug or a kiss and you simply rebuff him, then it's your fault. What more can he do? He's making the effort and you're rejecting him. Don't be surprised when he simply stops making the effort because it hurts him everytime you turn him down. You're being selfish and need to try to do a little work yourself if you're genuinely interested in salvaging your relationship.
2007-10-08 04:37:51 · answer #5 · answered by Daniel L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is wonderful that you have an affectionate partner. II would love it if my husband does that ;-)
Regarding boredom, just try to do different things. You could rearrange furniture
2007-10-08 05:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we have been married for almost 19 years and got turned on to lifestyles its the best thing that has ever happened to us good luck in whatever you try
2007-10-08 04:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by lschleichardt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start giving him oral when he is sleeping ...... bring home a lesbian from www.adultfriendfinder.com and give him a threesome ........... your marriage will be better when YOU want it to be .......
2007-10-08 08:19:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋