It will be 2 years and i have no desire to be intimate at all with my wife (or anyone else for that matter.) have we been on a rough path and her treatment of me has been unfair at best. And recently when we have done it it feels meaningless and worthless to me to the point where i barely enjoy the act itself and try to have to force myself to do it. Is she physically attractive yes but psychlogically and emotionally am I attracted to her NO. HELP PLEASEE!!!!!
2007-10-08 04:46:47 · 12 answers · asked by angels shadow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why not start your anniversary with a bang and let her know that you are wanting to be with her and work on it open communication will help really
2007-10-08 04:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by Chloe 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, you could try the example method... Show her how you feel about her. Believe me, actions speak louder than words. Give her a day she will never forget... Get up early and cook breakfast, send her off to work (or start her day off) with a smile. Take 1/2 a day and clean the house, do the dishes and see about getting the laundry done... (if it needs to be done any way) And for dinner, take her out to her favorite place to eat. Bring her flowers and just remind her that even though you guys may be having a rough patch, you still love her.
That way she can SEE how you feel, not HEAR it.
2007-10-08 12:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you have a nic elong talk and get this all on the table. Anniversary or not this needs to be adressed now and wait no longer. Give each other time to talk without riducule or interruption. If she is still treating you unfair after you tell her your true feelings then you would benefit from counseling. Remember it takes two to makje a marriage and often one partner will have to take the stand first. If you feel you cannot talk to her face to face I suggest writing her a letter. It works. I wish you luck.
2007-10-08 11:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by hsmommy06 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Sorry to hear that, but I'm even more sorry that I can relate! Hmmm, I say bring toys into the picture. Toys can help bring excitement no matter who you are with. Maybe you two can watch porn together as well. I don't know if you are the type that can do either, but trust me, it helps. Otherwise, i suggest you talk to her about it. MAybe she feels the same way or knows a solution to the problem. Only 2 years into the marriage, this is way too soon for you to be feeling that way. Good luck!
O, by the way, maybe some sexy lingerie could also help you get in the mood as well as help you view her in a more sexual light.
2007-10-08 11:52:55 · answer #4 · answered by Nunya 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It sounds to me that you have to tell her how you are feeling.
I's best to communicate what you feel then to bottle it up and well feel like crap. If you are not able to perform then don't just because it is your anniversary or well. I have mine in a couple of days and well I can bet on it that I will not be getting lucky. I think you need to get some marriage counselling before something in you just explodes.
2007-10-08 11:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her how you feel. Tell her you dislike the way she treats you and it has made you lose the desire to be intimate with her. You might want to suggest marriage counseling if you can't communicate your feelings to her. The counselor could help you relate them. If she won't go, go on your own.
2007-10-08 11:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can you remember why you married her in the first place?
If she is treating you unfairly you need to talk to her about it. If she doesn't change then try couples therapy. Do what you can if you want to try to keep your relationship. If not, then you know what to do.
2 years isn't that long-I suggest you try to remember why she was the one you chose to marry. Maybe talking to her about it might help her realize what she is doing and in turn help you too realize what it is that might be triggering her behavior as well.
Talk... just talk... calmly because no one is at fault, just talk about it.
Best of luck dude.
2007-10-08 11:54:08 · answer #7 · answered by Edith 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like it should be an anniversary of the day you file for divorce. If my husband felt that way i would not want him to be intimate with me nor be with me in any other way. if you dont want a divorce maybe you should try communication. if my husband and i get in a fight we go to our bedroom to discuss it, we get naked and lay in bed together usually that solves the problem bc he takes his frustrations out on me and i do the same to him.... it serves as a new way to spice up our sex life too
2007-10-08 11:58:17 · answer #8 · answered by crazyworld 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to her. make things clear. a reawakened relatinoship will get you interested again. a man's libido is affected by the state of his relationship with the woman.
but since you mentioned that you have no sexual interest with anyone else, then perhaps you should see your urologist ar have your testosterone level checked.
good luck!
2007-10-08 12:04:46 · answer #9 · answered by greekmaverick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not attracted to her emotionally then you really should get a divorce....emotionally is wwaaaayyyy more important then physical............dont have sex with her if you dont feel like it....dont lead her on to make believing that you still love her which is an emotional feeling.
2007-10-08 11:58:00 · answer #10 · answered by $martA$$.com 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋