How do you know when your marriage is really over?

Question

When can you say, im done!?

Answer 1

A marriage is never really over after you've seperated. You will still have those memories, those side effects of being away. How long have you been married? If you feel it is of best interest for both you and him to be apart, then you should do it. Nobody should be in a marriage if you don't have faith in it.

Answer 2

No marriage crisis appears overnight. Rather, the crisis slowly builds over time, with one person often caught completely off-guard, and the other claiming that he or she is tired of trying and trying, with no change.the damage is done when one needs to have something change, but the other seems to be preserving exactly what the spouse wants to change. For example, there is often a desire for a shift in the power structure of the relationship, but one person resists making any change. The other person, who wants the change, becomes more and more frustrated.

This leads to a pattern where a spouse suddenly announces that the marriage is over, and the other spouse is seemingly unaware that there is even a problem. “I don’t know how many times I have heard someone say ‘sure, it wasn’t the best of relationships, but I didn’t know my partner was so miserable.’” Unfortunately, the “not knowing” is translated as “not caring,” and gives proof that the marriage is over.

“More marriages die from neglect than anything else”

Answer 3

I am in the same situation, but If I quit I am not a fighter, but if I am a fighter then I know what I want. But it take some time I've been waiting 2 years, that's makes me stronger and be the difference of this world no matters if "divorce" is "instyle", because is easy get a divorce and run away but no body stay and fight. You make the difference just because you say or you see is over no matter how ugly is the situation like mine, you fight for your right as a wife. But if you are tryin to say that he is a cheater read this then she is only a street dog that he just see and pick, feed and trash her away. Wife has right in this commitment if he something happend to him who is the going to receive money of the insurance. I will sue my husband if he want the divorce and the only reason if he does that will be for adultery to make the situation difficult to him,cause mutual consentiment is easy for the husband let him know is better fight no matter what. What about love, well love is like a flower you have to put some water you will always love him and he will always love you no matter how many time he said it. Because the water that need the flower is to be the person flirting each other, cause sometimes the flower is sleeping and needs to wake up.

Answer 4

When you can truly say that you have done everything in YOUR power to make it work. A marriage takes two people committed to making it work. You only have control over your own choices and behavior. If you have honestly done all that you can, and he has no intention of putting any work into it himself, then I think you can walk away with a guilt-free conscience.

Answer 5

For men it's over when the woman leaves. For the woman it's over just as soon as she finds something 1/2 of 1% of a smidge better than she's got. You got married being half done. Just pull the bandage off in one pull and leave.

Answer 6

Because of the power of love and the sanctity of marriage, it is hard to answer that assuredly. However, God has made us free moral agents. That means we can make many of our own decisions. Therefore, when one of the parties involved stops caring about the success of the union, that usually signals the end is near.

I must say however, there is nothing to broken for God to fix, and love to overcome.

Grace & Peace

Answer 7

When you've done everything possible, including counseling, alone or together and after doing the work, nothing changes.....then you can call it a day.

Of course if there's abuse going on....there really never was a marriage.

Answer 8

when someone cheats on the other and betrays than its over, physical abuse is also a deal breaker and its over than too. but most other things can be worked on providing both parties want to put forth the effort.

Answer 9

You wouldn't be asking this question if it was over. I know how it feels to be dead inside, or so it feels. You know when you know. Each person has different strengths on what they can and can't take.

Answer 10

When there's abuse or cheating, it's over.
Any other issues can be fixed, the sooner the better.
It's all a matter of wanting to fix it.