Why do women stop oral sex after marriage?

Question

I've been married for 8 years and have watched my wife interest in sex decrease rapidly. Before marriage we had sex pretty much daily now its maybe every other week.

It used to be that if we couldn't have sex for one reason or another she would give me oral (mind you I give it to her every opportunity I get). But now it has been over year and a half with out a BJ. Also keep in mind due to pregnancy complications we were unable to have sex for a year and a half, (4 years ago no sexual attention at all during the entire time) and she's never made an effort to try and make up for that lost time it was straight back to 2 times a month.

She enjoys sex when we have it but I need more and talking about it just leads to a fight so now I just try to ignore my needs (like she does). I need some advise.

Answer 1

Not all women stop giving oral after they get married. I personally love to do it. I love sex too. My husband is the one who's always too tired to have sex. We usually average about 1-2 times a week, which is ok. But, I'd like to average about 4-5 times a week. And, I'd give him a bj anytime he wanted one.

And, I'm over 30, have 8 year old twins, have been with my husband for 14 years, and work a full time job.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I would like to start my answer by stating that this is not the case for all women. Logistics, plain and simple. When you are dating you have to make time to be together and you make the most of it by having sex. Once you are married, you are always together so the time framee factor has been removed. Another simple factor is because other things (i.e. kids, house, finances, work, etc.) start to take priority over sex. If you only have four hours to rest, are you really going to give up 30 minutes for sex? Maybe you will and maybe you won't. You don't have time to woo your beloved. With everything going on, you don't have time to make your significant other feel special and desirable so sex becomes a chore instead of reward. You might have a lot less time or privacy for the act itself so there goes the pleasure out the door. It's not that women want sex less. Not at all. They just feel like there are must dos that cannot wait. Feeding your family dinner is more important than pleasuring yourself. Many (hopefully most) put the good of the family before their own well being.

Answer 4

I wish I knew the answer to that question myself. I think it's pure selfishness. They realize that they already "bagged" you so there's no need to try to sexually satisfy you anymore. I also don't think that wives realize that the lack of oral sex from their partner is a HUGE reason why men have affairs. It's pretty well established that men are often just interested in sexual gratification. Since oral sex provides the greatest release and most pleasure, it's no wonder that many men who aren't getting that pleasure at home will look outside their marriage to receive. I can't stand infidelity, but it seems like if a woman stops giving oral sex then she got married under false pretenses and shouldn't be surprised if you look elsewhere. I'm curious if you've talked about needing it more and asking her why she stopped. I'll be devil's advocate here as well. It's quite possible she's seeing someone else and is giving him oral sex. From personal experience, I know that married women are often very conflicted when they're having affairs and will often stop putting out in a pleasurable way for their husband because they feel like they're cheating on their lover. It's sad but true. I hope the BJs come back into your life again. Life's too short to go without the greatest sexual gratification a man can receive.

Answer 5

When I was with my last girlfriend for 5 years, we both noticed a drop in sex. I initiated a conversation about it and asked if it was due to both of us being out of shape We used to exercise a lot when the relationship was new but that fell off, and we put on a few pounds and got comfortable. Everyone knows that peak sexual performance is directly proportional to one's health. But she said, "she didn't know".
Months go by, I noticed that often when I wanted to pleasure her, she just wasn't that much into it as before. Now I knew it wasn't me because I've only heard praises in that department with beggings for more. . And I new she wasn't cheating on me because of what I mentioned before. Plus she just isn't the type nor were there any tells. I've been cheated on and sensed it. You don't need a crystal ball. So finally, I put my foot down and told her that either something is wrong here, which "will" be addressed or eventually I'm gonna stray. However, she called my bluff, but a month later I warned her again and then again but she blew me off. Finally, after I got the cold shoulder again that last paramount weekend, I called an old friend who doesn't have time for relationships and got me some strange. I was gone a whole weekend and came back spent. Then I predicted my future that week. I told my girlfriend, **** hit the fan, we broke up, and she calls me back. But this time, I told her that before I go over to her place, she has to admit that I offered to pay for couples counseling a half dozen times, and I warned her what I was going to do "twice". So if I come over the past will be on her and I will not be the asshole here. Plus, I made her promise that she is to never bring it up again! But a few weeks later in the heat of an argument, she throws it in my face and I ran, not walked, out of her life and never answered her calls again.

Answer 6

Good question, I wish I knew the answer to that question. I've been married to a very pretty lady for 14 yrs. She was my world, my heart
my soul, but its over because of the the lack of conversation and
intimacy. But I feel that" it is better to have loved and lost then never
to have loved at all". I'm 59, in great shape hope to retire soon and travel the world with my camera. Hope to meet lots of women.
Good luck to all of you people that are trying to work it out, its worth the
work if you love them.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

That sound exactly like my wife.... lol except I only get it once every 4 months if I'm lucky. Its hard to connect to a women when there is no intimacy...

I went a whole year without touching her. been about 5 years ago or more... I lost count when the last time I got a BJ from her.

oh well...

Answer 9

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Answer 10

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