Marriage & Divorce - 8 October 2007

He drinks everyday and on the weekends he drinks himself drunk, what can I do if he won't go to AA or read his book of how to stop? He has already lost his kids, you would think this was rock bottom for him. Plz help if you have anything to offer, even those that are mean can write here , it's better then nothing at all.

2007-10-08 01:45:23 · 21 answers · asked by shutterfly butterfly 2

I also was just recently offered a higher position with a very reputable company earning a significant amount higher than I was previously. I see light at the end of the tunnel, I can presently make my minimum payments and feel that with this new position I could eliminate all or atleast most of our debt, I am not an avid spender, these debts are due to a new home we purchased and completely remodeled and renovated. I want to make this work but Im not sure if he does. I also want to make sure that if we try once again we dont fail like all the other times we have. Anyone out there with experience in this situation .... PLEASE HELP!!!!!

2007-10-08 01:40:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

We're currently at the point where he wants a divorce, he says he can't handle being with me knowing that I have not been 100% honest with him, my biggest problem is that there is 1 more credit card where we owe 9,000 that he is not aware of... I dont know if I should just tell him about it or wait to see what happens, I really wish I could make things work with him, I love him dearly, he's a great man, a great father, he's just a little narrow minded and only sees the negative things in me, he's constantly telling me how everything is my fault, look at where we are because of you, I trust my dog more than I trust you, he evn told my children I am leaving because your mom is a liar. My daughters are 6 & 10 I think this was a little harsh for them to handle, I have spoken to my family and they feel he suffers from an inferiority complex, we are both very hardworking adults, I just recently returned to school and obtained my MBA please see other post..

2007-10-08 01:36:37 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been married for almost 12 years, we have 2 children together and are at risk for losing it all for various reasons..... 1st and foremost I believe it is a trust issue, we have both been through some troubling times with possible infidelity (talking to other people while we were still married), we were separated but got back together and tried making it work. We have been at this for a little over 5 years now & things always come up with him again constantly reminding me of what happened.... Now the latest issue is the fact that he discovered how much money we owe in credit card debt & totally freaked out. I have always been the one to handle the finances in the realtionship & I never really told him we owed 5,000 + dollars in a credit card and he just recently found out, he now feels deceived & I could understand that to a certain point, he knows what all the charges are from he just feels left out in the dark by not knowing our finances, please see other post

2007-10-08 01:29:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

State both figure (or the number of weddings you have attended, and the number of the couples which remain married).

While at this, how long after the wedding, did those others separate (and eventually get divorced)?

2007-10-08 01:29:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

i had been suffering with my health for a while and it messed my head in i neglected my role as a wife and my husband and in that time my husband befriended another married woman,problem is the messages i have seen are too intimate to be just friends, and i confronted them both and they say they are just friends. he told me twice that he was going out with his friends and i found out he was spending 6hrs with her in her house. messages included i love you, miss you want you, from her and my husband and that he had a secret mobile phone to text her. we are trying to get over it as they both say i am reading to much into it. she has added him as a HOT FRIEND on facebook. I just cant get it out my mind that he was saying these things to her and spending that time with her he wont stop seeing or messaging her and it is killing me, i also think he doesnt realise how hurtful it is to me, i am his wife i give him everything i have and more i just cant stand this woman being in his life.

2007-10-08 01:27:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Like my boss for example.He's always walking around saying " I've been trying to lose 140lbs. for the longest time,and it's my wife."
I just don't understand this attitude at all.

2007-10-08 01:26:13 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

but I just found out that he has posted two different adds for 'discreet encounters' on two different sites...we don't live in the same town right now, but have been together for seven years (six of those years we lived together)...I am away at school, but only a few hours away...we had some problems right before I went to school (he was hanging out with a friends girlfriend, and made out with her a couple of times when they were wasted)...i thought that was behind us and now we are supposed to be planning our future..are these 'discreet encounters' something I should be worried about? should I just call off the engagement? I want him to know why if I do, so how do I tell him I was spying on his email and found out about these postings?

2007-10-08 01:20:59 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-08 01:05:26 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I feel that my wife spends only 25% with me. I am not comfortable with in laws too. I feel I need another wife while I do not want to divorce my first family. If any woman is willing to be my second wife, is there a legal solution in India?

2007-10-08 00:49:58 · 18 answers · asked by kumar 2

For years his ex has been trying to break us up, trying to turn his children against us and she is always comming up with some new thing to interfer. Friday when he went to pick up the kids, she told him in the music store where one of the kids was taking lessons that she was taking him back to court for child support and for her car. He is one month ahead on support, and she was supposed to refinance her car according to the divorce decree and didn't, she makes payments 3 months late affecting his credit and he let it slide. The blow up happended when he asked if she was going to meet us half way on Sunday. Saturday at one of the kids games she kept bashing him to the kids at one of their football games and smiling at me when she was doing it. Yesterday when she met us to exchange the children her car wouldn't start. He ran over to her car and helped her, she yelled at him that she knew he had jumper cables, they were in the other car, the second time she said this, I said to her

2007-10-08 00:49:02 · 16 answers · asked by Rein 5

Have this pinay GF for almost 3 years- she happen to be married and say will seperate her husband and live w me - husband is mad, but she seems to get stuck up in the middle of the sandwich - i feel need to make decision soon cause we are matured people around our 50 years both - she say her plan to dump him and be w me many times now, but seems only in words, i love her madly - whats best, wait another 3 years or give her up now-

2007-10-08 00:48:49 · 4 answers · asked by unggoydk 1

I want to get closer to her, but she is clearly uninterested. She adores her father which puzzles me. You would think she would be happy that her Dad has found someone that loves and cares for him. We have been married for 10 years and my step-daughter is 30. Any predictions on whether the relationship has a chance of growing or will I always be an outsider to her? I heard sometimes stepkids come around when they have their own families.

2007-10-08 00:35:15 · 11 answers · asked by me 1