I had an affair. I've ended it and I want to do the right thing and tell my my husband. How do I tell him?

Answer 1

If you plan on making your marriage work, you don't tell. It would just hurt him. go to the Dr. make sure you are not going to bring a disease home to him. Then make it up to him everyday for the rest of your life.

Answer 2

Why do you want to tell him? If it's really over, then perhaps you should consider keeping it to yourself because you're really only soothing your own guilt and hurting him in the process. I'd be more concerned about talking to him about the issues which led to you going out and having an affair because if nothing changes, you're just going to go out and do it again....guaranteed. If you feel like he really needs to know so the two of you can make drastic relationship changes, then do it. However, you should really be prepared for the very realistic possibility that your infidelity resulted in a no-brainer end of the marriage for him. It's impossible to predict whether he'll want to put forth the energy trying to salvage a relationship with someone that betrayed him in the most hurtful and worst way possible.

Answer 3

That's a tough one! Only you know your husband honey and only you know how he's going to respond. The first thing you need to ask yourself is WHY? you had an affair, most likely your not content with one part of your relationship that is failing you. The best advice I can give you is to sit him down and talk to him from the heart, like I said only YOU know how he is going to re-act and before you sit him down and tell him, make sure you are ready to answer all of his questions and make sure you have all the answers. GOOD LUCK HUN!

Answer 4

Do you think by telling him is the right thing?? You are so wrong, Missy! By telling him, not only you have ended your affair but your marriage as well.
And if you tell him, he won't be able to accept it. But if you have a guilty conscience, then, go ahead and tell him. Just be prepared for the worst.

Answer 5

If you were really sorry you would have told him already. You are looking for the easiest way for you. That selfish attitude which cause you to have an affair.

Answer 6

By phone. After you've packed your bags and gone to a motel.


BTW He has the right to know, so you need to tell him. And if you don't tell him then he might find out at a later date, so you'd be adding lying and deception to cheating, plus manipulation.

Telling him might have some selfish motives to it, but not telling him has even more selfish motives.

Answer 7

Pack up, have your things by the door, and tell him he means nothing to you, you had an affair and that he doesn't deserve something like this...

Answer 8

DON'T TELL HIM! You are only trying to tell him to make you feel better not him.If he doesn't know about it he can go to sleep at night with his idea that he has the perfect little wife.Once he finds out exactly what you are he won't ever look at you the same or feel the same way about you and if he has any balls he will get a divorce.Let it go.

Answer 9

Tell face to face do not blame him for your choice. Be honest and let him know that you have been fooling around with another guy. Then of course be ready for him to say he wants a divorce!

Answer 10

Girl dont tell him. I think that if you tell him it could only make things worst for you guys! You have already done the right thing by ending it with the other guy. Please spare you husband the grief. Now that it is over between you and your lover focus on your husband and try to make things right between you and him

Answer 11

Do you want to end your marriage? If so, go ahead and tell him. This is so selfish - you have betrayed your husband and now you want to off-load your guilt onto him by doing the 'right thing'! How about considering his feelings? Living with guilt is the price you pay for cheating. Live with it.