Marriage & Divorce - 7 October 2007

How can a mom live withherself when she takes my 2 year old daughter to a hospital with childservices with her to have her privates checked out becuase its red and puffy?
She new darn well when she dropped my daughter off to me to spend two days with me like she does one week and then the next she spends 3 days with me . This is my court visitation orders, anyway she knew darn well my daughter was'nt feeling good when she dropped her off, and the next day i called her and said my dauhgter threw up 3 times the night before,, so she knew she had been sick when she took her to get her privates checked out.This mom is paranoid about my daughter loving her dad so much
Main point,, i know she did it to raise suspicion about me to child services

2007-10-07 11:20:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-07 11:15:35 · 17 answers · asked by girvin 1

I just don't feel safe enough to see that man one more time. He forced me to marry him last year. Now I am out of US. We don't have kids/finance conflict etc, the paperwork is quite simple actually. But I just don't want to see him anymore. I would not feel surprise that he will shoot me then. Can I find a lawyer do this totally on my behalf with a reasonable price? It is in Iowa State.What should I do?Thanks!

2007-10-07 11:11:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for 13 years and in the 13 years my husband is a very angry man and his children do no obey any household rules that we have set and they continue to treat me ishy. I have not been happy for a long time. But i dont like to hurt anyones feelings. My heart is hurting so bad. I dont know what to do. I keep taking the verbal abuse and the not respect frome the kids but What is the best thing to do? they wont get counceling either. Im lost Someone please help!!

2007-10-07 11:10:29 · 12 answers · asked by lori 2

I asked another question about exes and I noticed a couple of people said they would divorce their spouse for being friends with an ex, or shat would hit the fan etc.

Now we are not talking about secretly being friends - but out in the open. Like the ex is now friends with both the husband and wife - or the spouse is openly friends with them.... no hiding or anything like that.

What's wrong with remaining friends with exes?

2007-10-07 11:01:38 · 12 answers · asked by Willalee 5

I married my husband 7 yrs ago and we are never together more than 13 days each year. He works overseas and we started pretty much in the same way...long distance relationship. And by the way, we were in it too for 8 yrs before marriage. Though I have no trouble staying faithfull, I of course wish it is different. I am not sure what to think of it sometimes...what do you think?

2007-10-07 10:51:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay im going to write a short version of what’s going on right now so u may have a better understanding, I am 25 yrs old I got 5 kids, Yeah I know that’s a lot lol. 3 kids are not mine and 2 are well really im not even sure about the youngest. I have been married for over 7 years I work and support all 5 kids as well as my wife, she has no job I always took care of everything since the day I met her. I recently got locked up about 2 months ago or a lil more for domestic violence. Me and my wife was arguing and I let her get the best of me I got so upset and tired of her getting in my face pushing me around and yelling at me bout not ever being home and spending time with her but its kind of hard when im taking care of her an 5 kids. I lost control and pushed her down on the couch and once she got up and started trying to hit me I ended up slapping her cause she wouldn’t shut up and let me leave the house and of course right after I slapped her I stopped myself and told her I was sorry I lost control and let my anger take over, she wasn’t trying to hear it and I don’t blame her. I took off for a walk to calm down I came back home an hour later police was there and next thing I know I was getting locked up. I was in jail for 45 days once I was locked up I told her I was sorry and if she wanted to be with someone else then I wasn’t even gonna be mad but to just hold off until I got out so we could get a chance to talk I kept telling her I was sorry for slapping or pushing her down on the couch I admitted to all my wrong and made myself look like a fool cuz in the end she started talking about how she cheated on me with my own cousin because she was lonely and couldn’t wait, now I find out they been close for a min now and she just moved in with him and wont let me see my kids. I haven’t went over to her place cause right now I don’t think it would be the best thing for me to do being that its my cousin and I would just get really pissed off again but I now lost my job thanks to being locked up and I need to find a divorce lawyer for little or no income because I want a divorce but have no money and im to busy with trying to find a job right now that I don’t really have the time or transportation to go out looking for an attorney. I stay in Lansing, Michigan

2007-10-07 10:51:09 · 7 answers · asked by Sincere 1

Did you get married for security or out fear of being alone or what not? I have heard that sometimes people "learn to love" their mate. How long did you know eachother before marriage? How long was the marriage? Did everything turn out okay?

I am curious for when I make a decision to marry.

Please be descriptive. I have time to listen. Thank you.

2007-10-07 10:39:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been married for almost 8 yrs now. We have 2 beautiful girls together. But lately our marriage has been very shakey. One of our problems is different beleifs. He prataices Pagenism where I am a Baptist. This is causing me to wonder if we are right for each other. Please any advice you can give will be appreciated.

2007-10-07 10:34:45 · 12 answers · asked by Tennesseemom 2

I want us to get along. She told him that I need to deal with the fact that mother in laws and daughter in laws are not supposed to get along. Over the past 20 years there have been so many hurtful things to me. I have finally come to the point that I do not care if I go to visit her. My husband has been going alone lately. She hardly ever comes to my kids games but she did come to the last one. I felt put out because my husband got up and sat with her and left me alone. I asked him why he wasn't sitting by me like we always do and he told me to move down with them. Why does this bother me so much? Should I feel that my husband should have sat by me and perhaps asked his mom to come by us.

2007-10-07 10:21:58 · 13 answers · asked by rn2b 2

a parent can give their consent for the "CHILD" to marry? How is this right to make a choice for a child? I see this on marriage certificates from the 70s and 80s under records search. What is wrong with that parent?

2007-10-07 09:59:40 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have this friend. He's 34 and married with 2 kids. He never cheated on his wife before ( or so he says) and the he met this coworker, a 23 years old girl and everything start to change. Why you think he do it?

2007-10-07 09:57:16 · 31 answers · asked by pretty_brunette 1

My fiance and I had talked about buying and renting real estate. He bought a house and my name was supposed to be on the title, but he never put it on the title because his friends rented the house from him and he started spending all his time drinking and partying it up over there and we began argueing and broke up and then he slept with a chick that is friends with the people over there, then we got back together again and I was hoping things would change. Anyhow, I then bought a house to rent out. I asked him to go home shopping with me but he would rather drink and party. So I bought a house without him to rent out to others. It was like pulling teeth to get him to help me renovate the house, yet he'll do anyting for his rental. He says it's not his so he doesn't care. I guess I figured our dream of buying and renting real estate as a couple was still alive through it all, and all he he wants to do is party w/freinds. Sad. Why? What happened? I feel ditched for his drinking buds.

2007-10-07 09:53:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my fiance have been doing nothing but argue lately because he never wants to spend time with me. He goes to work while I stay home and clean the house and take care of our 10 month old daughter. When he comes home all I want to do is cuddle and spend time with him. But he'd much rather sit and play video games, and by the time he's ready to spend time with me its midnight and I'm getting ready to go to bed. I've been putting up with this for 2 1/2 years now and am fed up. No matter how many times and how many different ways I talk to him about it, he doesn't seem to understand. He thinks that even though he's playing video games as long as we're in the same room, its considered spending time together. I'm on the verge of walking out on him because I'm sick of being deprived of attention and affection and being ignored constantly. But I love and do want to be with him. Please help, what should I do?

2007-10-07 09:51:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex-husband has been in prison for 15 yrs. He's doing 25 to life. We have a daughter but out of the goodness of my heart have been taking my daughter to see him for those 15 yrs. (my daughter is 15) So, pretty much he's been locked up her whole life. We now only go to see him twice a year. He blames me for him not having a relationship with her. My daughter doesn't ask for him, he's never been in her life. I have raised her by myself.
I am tired of making the drive (2 hours each way to see him). I am totally drained out with his situation and his family who live in the east coast don't come to visit either. Help

2007-10-07 09:46:36 · 29 answers · asked by ? 1

I was in a not very nice relationship,i gave my husband so many chances but he never change its all to do with drink,his abusive and violent,last thing he done was still money from my mum when she was here on holidays,he is inside and court is tomorrow one part of me dont want him back,but if he does not serve time and turn up what should i do???????Please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-10-07 09:42:02 · 16 answers · asked by teresa 68 1

We have been married nearly 4 years. For the past several years we have hosted his family for Christmas. Last year we also hosted his family for Thanksgiving.

This year I would like to host my family for Thanksgiving and host his family for Christmas. He is insisting that we need to as BOTH families to come for Thanksgiving. We have a decent sized home but that would simply be too much. I can't do both at the same time. I don't think crowding people into a space is a very pleasant experience.

Am I wrong to ask him to leave his family out? We have not included my family for years so I think this is only fair. Opinions?

For the record:
our family (hubby me and the kids) has 7 people plus two soon to be spouses totaling 9.

his family has 7 total people

my extended family has 12 people if they all come.

27 people??

2007-10-07 09:21:54 · 14 answers · asked by Jennifer D 5

I've been married for 8 months to a great man. We are very young, I am 24 he is 21. We do not have kids and I am not expecting. When we got married he was supposed to take a semester off from college while we could get everything settled. I am done with school. Well we recently moved and I am in a pretty decent job but he hasn't been able to go back to school because instead of taking a semester off he dropped oud and owes some fees. He is very depress because he wants to go back and I told him I would help to get him back paying the fees and everything. He thinks that life is not fair because many of his friends do not have to work and can go to school while their parents pay their bills but he is from a low middle class family, He works since he is 16. He has gotten very depress for that and because his mom lives 400 miles away. He is not the same, depress all the time and even when he says that he loves me so much, he thinks I cannot love him because nobody can. What do I do?

2007-10-07 09:12:34 · 14 answers · asked by dianndeltol 2

I was downstairs on the couch, and he was in the bed.
When I went upstairs to say again that I don't want to cuddle and invited him to watch the movie with me, (Good Will Hunting) he said, "I've seen it 30 times, you go and watch it."

So I did.

Now, my question is this: Our therapist told me that I shouldn't do anything out of guilt and not to feel guilty for saying no, but it's difficult to do.

Should my husband eventually start to comply with the therapists suggestions at some point? Because it is driving me away. It's been a month since it was suggested.

2007-10-07 09:01:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife cheated on me. I am a torn man. It is something that I can't comprehend. I went to COSTCO with a friend to get some food for a little business meeting. My wife called me and told me my friend had stopped by I said Id be home soon. SHe gave me 4 calls in thirty minutes asking where i was at. When I came home one my friend was sitting on the couch. when the business meeting was over and the guest left my house, I went in the room to make love to my wife, I put my hand on her shoulder and she started freaking out. Thats when I noticed hicky marks on her chest and a bruise on her leg and her lips were chapped. I played it off and took of her panties and they were full of ***. SHe did some stop drop and roll **** and started yelling like I was committing domestic violence, I never touched her. I left the room and calmed down. I called the dude who was at the house with her he didnt answer so went to his house and socked him in the mouth as I stood over him ready to stomp his head.

2007-10-07 08:59:17 · 23 answers · asked by Athol 1

I live with bf, have lived here about a year. Moved an hour away form my family and friends to be with him. Heres the deal. I don't have a license, and if I did it wouldn't matter anyway. No way to buy a car. I did have a job, but picking me up and taking me to work conflicted with his work so I was constantly late. Well, he works 20 hours a a week, and basically just gets to sit on his butt all day works as a computer tech. He also goes to school, online classes right now. I am enrolled fulltime online classes too, so yes I stay home all day. But..... I'm expected to do everything, . I clean the house everyday, he leaves his dishes pop cans .laundrymat-i do them, than have to put them away On weekends, he sleeps til 5 at night. i dont mind it most days. i cook or we don't eat. But even when we go to the store, i have to make the list up,than put them away right now there is 6 trash bags in the kitchen.i just want a lil help! if i mention it, he says im nagging

2007-10-07 08:25:20 · 12 answers · asked by cnhand84 3

our first anniversary is getting close and i dont know what to do me and my husband drive a truck together and we are together 24/7 i cant go shopping alone i dont even go into a truck stop alone what can i do for him for our anniversary something that he wont ever forget?

2007-10-07 08:23:56 · 5 answers · asked by don & robin e 1

I'm married to a guy that I love to pieces, and I have 2 young girls that I stay home with. So why do I feel lonely? Why am I always hoping men will notice me -not for an affiar, but just to be noticed? What's up with that?

2007-10-07 08:20:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love my fiance more than life, but he doesn't get along with my 14 year old son, and I think we may be headed for a train wreck because even though my son is no angel, he is my son, and I am the only parent he has ever had. I feel like I'm choosing between my fiance and my son. I guess I know the answer, but I want to get your thoughts.

2007-10-07 08:18:21 · 22 answers · asked by Kitten S 3

2007-10-07 08:15:08 · 7 answers · asked by C-DOG 3

2007-10-07 08:12:20 · 18 answers · asked by powerpuff girls 1

this guy keep asking me out, I hate him, but I am always not busy, so I cant reject it, help
Iam scared he will get angry and argue with me.

2007-10-07 08:11:54 · 7 answers · asked by powerpuff girls 1

my daughter is 17 and she and her boyfriend want to get married! I am totally opposed to this. He is 19, got kicked out of college, is bisexual, has no job, and she is barley passing high school in special ed classes. She will be 18 in four months, and then they will be able marry with or without my permission. How can i talk her out of it? I don't want her to marry a bisexual man

2007-10-07 08:05:42 · 20 answers · asked by Jenn s 1

2007-10-07 08:03:31 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

How is it you can remember every last statement or insensative act us men do, yet can seem to remember where you park your car at the mall?

2007-10-07 08:01:46 · 9 answers · asked by 2012, Change it back!! 4