How can a mom live withherself when she takes my 2 year old daughter to a hospital with childservices with her to have her privates checked out becuase its red and puffy?
She new darn well when she dropped my daughter off to me to spend two days with me like she does one week and then the next she spends 3 days with me . This is my court visitation orders, anyway she knew darn well my daughter was'nt feeling good when she dropped her off, and the next day i called her and said my dauhgter threw up 3 times the night before,, so she knew she had been sick when she took her to get her privates checked out.This mom is paranoid about my daughter loving her dad so much
Main point,, i know she did it to raise suspicion about me to child services
2007-10-07 11:20:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Aren't you concerned about your daughter's private parts being red and puffy? That is worrying.
By calling the mother "paranoid" about her daughter loving her dad so much, it would probably be more accurate to state that she suspects you of molesting her, and probably has for some time been concerned about the nature of your relationship with your daughter, correct?
Like all responsible mothers, she has had your daughter checked out at the hospital due to the inflammation in that area. Good for her, that's the only way to live with oneself in this kind of scenario, by facing one's worst fears over sexual abuse of a child head on. Better to know for sure one way or another rather than not. Regardless of the sexual abuse angle, the child has thrown up three times and has inflamed privates - she needs medical attention.
Let's hope there is an innocent explanation for it, for the sake of your little girl.
2007-10-07 11:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WEll to the tell you the truth if my daughter came home with her privates were red and puffy I would have taken her to the doctor but my first thought would not have been of you doing something to her. You did not say how old she was but little girls can get trouble there too. They can have infections just like adult women get, and they can get worms that come out at night and get around their privates and bother them. so... I certainly would not have wanted to cause you trouble like that unless you were strange while we were married. And since I don't know you I don't know that. Another thing if my daughter threw up three times and you called me then I would probably tell you that it would be best that I come and get her and you could have her another time. There is nothing wrong with your daughter loving you so much! I was crazy about my dad and he never did anything to me! I am sorry you had to have this happen to you. But since you did not do anything you do not have to worry because they will know for a fact that nothing did happen.
2007-10-07 11:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by craft painter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter's private area is red and puffy it could be because she's got a rash or hasn't been cleaned very well when she goes to the bathroom. Your daughter's mother could be trying to raise problems or she could be trying to protect her daughter. Maybe she was abused when she was a child and her overprotective instincts kicked in. If you know that you didn't do anything then it's her problem and you need to focus on being a good and loving father to your daughter. Just be wary of the mother because it could get worse before it gets better.
2007-10-07 11:33:01 · answer #3 · answered by Kelley G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you love your daughter and care about her if the child is sick i would not except her to stay over she knew this child was sick in the first place. This is from a woman's point of view okay there could be a number of reasons why your daughter private was irritated okay. Listen do you live alone or have a mother near by you to look in on you and the child.
While she is visting.
best of luck
2007-10-07 11:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, she may be paranoid and she may be vindictive BUT having her daughter checked out with the symptoms described is neither. It's smart and what any mother should do. If you really loved your daughter you'd be happy that her mother isn't one of those who ignores abuse when she suspects it.
If your daughter threw up 3 times why didn't you call your pediatrician and talk to them about it? Young children get dehydrated very easily.
You know, it is starting to sound like you are more concerned with your rights and how you are being treated by your ex than you are about your daughter. This isn't about you, it's about your daughter. And if your wife is putting her own vindictiveness ahead of your daughter it'll become clear soon enough. For now it doesn't really sound like it at all.
2007-10-08 11:48:40 · answer #5 · answered by Saphira 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can she live with herself?!?!?!? How could she live with herself if she had even a 1% worry about her daughter, without getting her checked out.
If you are an innocent Dad, then you SHOULD appreciate that the child's mother will do anything to protect her child. IF you are innocent, you have nothing to complain about, and should not NEED to post a question on Yahoo Answers about this.
Your heart is not what the child's mother is concerned about. And, it happens all the time - I know, I was a victim myself. So, if you are innocent, shut up and let the mother protect her child!
2007-10-07 11:29:27 · answer #6 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not a matter of her having to live with herself it's a matter of how vindictive can she be.
It is clearly obvious she is trying to make you look bad in the eyes of any fool that will let her and I tell you something for free women are the best at it.
Yes ok ladies get off your horses before you give me thumbs down, everyone knows ain't nothing like a woman scorned so don't beat me up about it.
You really need to protect yourself I have seen too many fathers lose custody and visitation rights thanks to the childrens mothers and it's not right.
2007-10-07 11:36:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mom is doing the right thing. You are either 1) overreacting to her overreaction, or 2) guilty.
BTW, I can't think of anything that would simultaneously cause throwing up and swollen genitalia. If I were Mom, I would have had the daughter checked out, too.
2007-10-07 11:40:25 · answer #8 · answered by sfcgijill 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
So what is ur question?
any time u have u daughter..
u need to be around family or Friends.. as witnesses.. until she gets older to protect ur self..
it may be ruff on u..
but better than having charges brought against u..
take care and good luck...
2007-10-07 13:16:22 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
her not feeling good has nothing to do with your private areas being swollen. she was only doing it to be a good mom. you should have already done it, and she would not have had the chance
2007-10-07 11:29:15 · answer #10 · answered by aimlynsmi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋