I married my husband 7 yrs ago and we are never together more than 13 days each year. He works overseas and we started pretty much in the same way...long distance relationship. And by the way, we were in it too for 8 yrs before marriage. Though I have no trouble staying faithfull, I of course wish it is different. I am not sure what to think of it sometimes...what do you think?
2007-10-07 10:51:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stay faithful, you knew all this before you got married. It is not going to be like this forever sounds like you two are building a solid foundation. Best to you.
2007-10-07 11:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by Titus12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT, try this on your own. It is a formula for disaster with a capital D. Find a good swingers club, there is one or many in any town of more than 10,000 people, one that has an orientation session, go and ask questions, they have heard them all, and then go to a party. The only thing you need to do is respect the other people. Chances are good you will be able to hook up with some one and have a blast. Swingers have rules all of them follow or they will be tossed out of the club. You will be safe and have no problem with any one trying to follow up after the party, which is the biggest problem you have doing it on your own. DO NOT, again DO NOT try this with a friend. If you go to enough swinger parties you will eventually become friends with some of the people but don't try it with a friend you now have.
2016-05-18 02:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know - one of the best relationships I had was with a man in the military - only saw him 2 months out of the year ;)
However you have to decide if it is time for a change - if you need to see him more then work out a way to do this - maybe move with him or talk to him about making a plan to eventually change jobs. Marriage is about communication, trust and compromise. You can make it through, just don't expect changes overnight
Good luck
2007-10-07 11:32:20 · answer #3 · answered by Willalee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you married your husband 7 years ago and were together 8 years so what has changed in your life to give you second thoughts. you have no trouble staying faithful so tell me what is really going on with you. You wish that it was different but you got into this relationship from beginning and knew that this is the way it is and you excepted it. so whats wrong now.
best of luck
2007-10-07 11:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this so bluntly, but that doesn't sound like a marriage to me. Marriage is a commitment to a partnership.
The American Heritage Dictionary defines a partnership as "a relationship between individuals or groups that is characterized by mutual cooperation and responsibility, as for the achievement of a specified goal."
How much mutual cooperation and responsibility can go on between the two of you in 13 days per year? What are the specified goals of your marriage? Can they be accomplished in 13 days per year?
I don't think you'd be asking this question if you didn't already feel like it was a problem. You and your husband need to talk about it, because it's obviously bothering you, and you need to work together to make it better.
2007-10-07 11:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by tecualajuggernauts 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Is it possible for you to live with him where his job is? It would be very difficult to get everything from a marriage that you should in a long distance relationship. You would not ever even know if he was having a tough day or be able to put your hand on his shoulder for comfort.
2007-10-07 10:56:14 · answer #6 · answered by rn2b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's working for the two of you, more power to you. Long distance relationships don't work, so you may well be the exception that proves the rule!
If there's a way you could join him for a brief time, that would really be nice.
2007-10-07 11:08:40 · answer #7 · answered by Nedra E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally couldn't handle being in a relationship where I would only see my spouse 13 days out of the year....Heck NOT seeing him 13 days out of the year is too much. Just curious.....why did you marry him knowing that this is what you were getting into?
2007-10-07 10:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
absence makes the heart grow fonder.you knew what you were getting yourself into 15 years ago why are you now complaining.obviously this situation has worked for you .join a womens group to help you deal with the lonliness.do you think he is faithful to you?if yes,then why don't you suggest that you move overseas so that you can be more TOGETHER.what you don't know won't hurt you.so just leave it as such.
2007-10-07 11:14:19 · answer #9 · answered by CHER 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have been married/together that long, why do you still only see eachother 13days out of the year? i would think you would try to make more time to see eachother, like possibly moving out there with him. i know that is a huge step to leave you home and such but you are married. i would deffinetly trive to work some better arrnagements out.
2007-10-07 10:56:13 · answer #10 · answered by AsH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋