I'm married to a guy that I love to pieces, and I have 2 young girls that I stay home with. So why do I feel lonely? Why am I always hoping men will notice me -not for an affiar, but just to be noticed? What's up with that?
2007-10-07 08:20:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's normal and it's nothing to worry too much about. We are complicated beings and we all have egos that need a little feeding occasionally.
Try to look nice, and treat yourself to a manicure or a nice haircut every once in a while. It will make you feel better and this will boost your self-image.
Men usually don't understand how important it is for us to hear words like; "Gee...You look great today!" or "Hmm- you smell terrific!"....(They tend to think that since they married you and are with you, you should already KNOW they love you and find you attractive....They think paying compliments to their wife is dumb and unnecessary, see? ) That's just the way they are and the way they were brought up. (( SHRUGS ))
They don't think they need to say nice things because it makes them feel stupid,,,,but they don't understand that these kind of words are NECESSARY for us to hear, so we can feel like MORE than just wives or mothers. We miss feeling like sexy, desirable women.
If you feel this may be an issue, however, then I'd suggest you go to therapy or counseling so you can deal with your feelings better. Good luck.
2007-10-07 12:18:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all are multi-faceted human beings, more than the wife or husband, more than the mother or father, more than the daughter or son. Something in you is not being seen or expressed. You may not even know what it is right now but it's okay to investigate your needs. When you tap into what your soul is passionate about, what lights you up within, what makes you creative and wondrous as a human being you will become more alive, more vibrant, and more centered and people will notice you because you will radiate joy. I believe it's not loneliness so much that you feel but the feeling of not being quite whole--something inside you is needing expression and stimulation. You are right in not looking for it in an affair because it doesn't come from outside it is an internal matter and only you can identify and nurture your needs. Best of luck and I hope you enjoy meeting and getting to know all of yourself I bet she's a fantastic person and your husband and kids will love her just as much as the you they know today. And just think how great it will be to show your children how amazingly complex and wondrous they can be as well.
2007-10-07 09:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by Wolfen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just need that attention. Sometimes it feels good to know that other guys are noticing you, just to know that you still got it.. That other people still find you pretty.. I often feel this way myself, however I do not have childern. But, I do dress myself up for other guys to notice me, because it feels good to know that someone thinks I'm decent looking. It's totally normal. And if your husband doesn't remind you very often, you need to hear it from someone, right?
2007-10-07 08:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by *-Brox-* 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea why you feel lonely.....is your husband attentive to your needs? Why would you want other men to notice you? Nothing wrong with wanting to feel attractive to the opposite sex....but conscientiously wanting men to notice you suggest that your hubby is not there for you as much as you would like him to be.
2007-10-07 08:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what your feelings are i feel the same I feel like if he don't love me anymore like if he doesen't like me anymore he ishere with me but I feel like if he is milles away from me and yes, I do need the attention from other people.he is not giving you enought attention that's why I have been married for like 7 years no kids and I feel the same I just have fun with my self he will never change.go on get some hoby it will help.
2007-10-07 08:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by Bonita C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one may take some therapy.
But the bottom line is you need to be honest with yourself. The easiest person for any of us to fool and lie to is ourselves.
Consider this notion.
2007-10-07 08:27:54 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your husband doesn't pay enough attention to you. That can do it. My husband use to ignore the hell outta me, day and night. And he wasn't even workin at the time. It makes you feel so bad, I know how you feel.
2007-10-07 08:39:06 · answer #7 · answered by jeffsgal69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your focus sweetie.
when people notice you
it boost our fragil egos
my almost constantly needs bolstering
you're human. just like the rest of us.
I love to focus on me. to have people need me, and touch me emotionally. it makes me feel like i'm special if you spend energy or attention on me.
No big deal
you're just more honest than most of us.
2007-10-07 11:42:56 · answer #8 · answered by frankiechocolate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're in a rut. Do something nice for yourself. That should help.
2007-10-07 08:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband about your feelings.
2007-10-07 08:32:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋