Marriage & Divorce - 7 October 2007

Should I divorce him?, because hi doesn't want to have sex with me. We only have sex once a month or none.
I don't want to because we already have a baby and I don't want to give my son a step-father. I think I don't feel attractive to him anymore for rejecting me so many times.

2007-10-07 08:01:33 · 8 answers · asked by Kathy 2

2007-10-07 08:00:05 · 9 answers · asked by sajmir 2

My ex has a court order for child support, but he's filing an order of reconsideration. Does he still need to pay the court order until its changed, or does he not have to pay?

2007-10-07 07:49:17 · 6 answers · asked by Cyndi W 3

....than having a few more traits that are hard to live with, but being aware of them. Of course, there are some people who would be so hard to live with, that recognition and apologies for trespasses would not cut it. Would you rather live with someone who has a few more traits that are difficult to live with, but admits to them readily, or someone with a few less difficult traits, but won't discuss them, remain aware of them, or.......work on them?

2007-10-07 07:47:13 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiance's family are very stricked. They like to stick together, but my fiance is differnt then them. He is the ONLY one that runs to them when we argue and talks bad about me to them! I get along very well with his little sisters, (being that they are only one year younger than I) and his younger brothers.
His older brothers always talk REALLY good about thier girlfreinds, and I am the only one in the family who has to deal with the drama my fiance starts! I dont know what to do! We have children together, and we live on our own... I just dont know what to do!!! Please help because I dont know what to do!!! But its getting kind of ANNOYING!!! What should I do? I have told him about it bothering me, but he still went and did it!
He tells his sisters, and I dont know what to do because we are like best friends,(his sisters and I)
He doesnt tell his mother anything.. and only told his father bad things about me once.. but ALWAYS tells his brothers and sisters things about me.

2007-10-07 07:46:14 · 17 answers · asked by PrInCeSs 2

what suggestions do u have for someone who is extremely insecure and possessive bcos hubby/wife strayed but promises never to do it again...

2007-10-07 07:33:51 · 9 answers · asked by dewdrops 2

ok this is wat happened, me and him were going through it and he went and got him all types of friends that were female, he say he ain't do **** with them but i think he did so i slept with this guy that i work wit, am i wrong

2007-10-07 07:33:20 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was married 6 years ago. My wife had two children and I have none. I knew what I was getting into. Since their boilogical father is total shmuck, I had to step in as the 'father figure'. One of my step sons, did a total role reversal. Started getting good grades. Helps out around the house. Doesn't ask for anything. He has a temper at times, but I have taught him how to control it. (I have a temper too, and the USMC taught me how to focus it correctly.) My 'good' step son refers to me as 'dad' or 'my father'. Each time he does this, I feel a sense of pride, however I do remind him he has a biological father out there.

My other step son. Wow! Where to begin? He has near driven my wife and I to divorce three times through manipulation and lies. Manipulation doesn't work on me, but it sure works on my wife. She even knows he's doing it to her, yet she can't get over 'He's my son.'

Gimmie a second to finish before ansering.

2007-10-07 07:30:39 · 3 answers · asked by 2012, Change it back!! 4

why are men so dum,,,,i hear alot of older women who been married for years say they husbands are dum and useless,,,so im thinking i under stand alittle because now my husband is dum and useless,,but i would like to hear what some other married women say about their husbands after some years with them,,,,,

2007-10-07 07:30:06 · 9 answers · asked by darkangelflea 2

CLOSE friends for 3 yrs and he's secretly liked me but he never went for it b/c he thought the chances of being w. me were slim only to find out that after all this time, I felt the same way back - I was the first girl he fell in love with (both in our 20's and gave him his first kiss; no sex just kisses) BUT we decided to be friends and not to rush (i would be his first girlfriend and said he wanted somethinf more "real, long lasting" with me - "shy guy type") When things were getting normal, "life challenges" (death) and rumors/assumptions from friends made us drift apart (he pushed me away) and it created tension BUT rather than giving up or seeking revenge, we worked it out and everything is starting to be better than before, the relationship grew (this happened in a 9 month span)

Alot of progress has happened in that time but i feel that we're starting over from the very beginning from when we first met. He was sooo unusually quiet with me and normal and outgoing with everyone else. We got to know each other better and through the years, i got him to open up to me where we would talk all the time. He said that he could tell me anything and everything. Now that ALL of that drama has happened, I know things will never be COMPLETELY the same but our bond and closeness will be there...i know it. I feel that i'm back at the beginning again. He's not being himself...with his friends he's "outgoing" and with me, he's just awkward - are we back at one again?

2007-10-07 07:26:50 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

I often think when someone tell you what they want you to know that's them not being totally honest!!!!!! Was I correct, or am I correct in thinking that way? Because in past relationship if I found that someone told me just enough it didn't work, it always and often fell apart... Am I right if your being in a committed relationship should the person that you are committed to leave out anything, especially when they make friends of the opposite sex?

2007-10-07 07:24:05 · 7 answers · asked by rita_hiemy 3

ok we been together for 7 years, he moved in with his then lesbian co-worker 8 month ago who had her girlfriend living with her then. we had some problems at that time. he came back to me in july for 4 days to move back to her . i was heart broken and worked on the fact him being gone forever.yes i did ask him to come back.he came back 7 weeks later he stayed 5 weeks i thought we will work it out 2 days before he left he told me he was depressed but had nothing to talk about. i came home from work to find a dear john letter on my counter. he told me he tried to love me like before it wasn;t the same and that i will find some one else
he finnally told me he is in love with his co worker / roomate .
my question is why did you come back if u in love with her and put me trough this again? i don't believe him wanting to try i think him and his girl had a fight and he just came back.
he told me he loved me just 2 days before he left my a... again.
i feel so betrayeld .

2007-10-07 07:17:04 · 12 answers · asked by maria s 2

In your last relationship or marraige, who's was to blame for the departure? Was it a nice split.. or down and dirty?

2007-10-07 07:10:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I haven't been happily married for about 3 years now. We had an argument a few weeks ago about how things were going. I understand now that the majority of our problems were my fault. I quit spending time with her and quit making her feel special. I got selfish, I've been working 2 jobs for the past 2 years and I was more worried about my "alone time" than I was about my family. I know what I need to do to fix things in our relationship but I'm afraid it may be to late. My wife told me she is not in love with me anymore and is not sure if she wants to work it out. She tells me her mind is telling her to stay but her heart wants her to leave. I love my wife and I want to make things right with her but I'm afraid she may be happier with out me. Do I do what may be right for her and leave, give her space to work things out with herself, or do I stay and try to work it out with her and possibly drive her away even more.

2007-10-07 07:08:32 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

because i heard so.
also if you are a virgin i heard that since it is your first time your cherry will pop & blood will go all over the white sheets. isn't that emberessing?!?!?!

2007-10-07 06:43:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

About 4 months ago i started talking to guy from work. Simple flirting at first and then as we got to know each other better we started to get more serious. We are perfect for eachother in every way...except he has been married for 12 years and I am in the middle of a divorce. We do believe that we were ment for eachother and that we were supossed to meet and fall in love. His wife found out that we were seeing eachother and now we have called it quits. I am completely heart broken, i have never in my life felt the way that i feel for him. He is so torn between she and i. He doesn't know what to do. Let me add that he is in no way leading me on. We are truely in love, but at the same time didnt mean to let things get this far and we didnt intend to hurt anybody. My question is, do we follow our hearts and find a way to be together, or should we deny ourselves this love and move on with our lives?

2007-10-07 06:34:38 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

plaese help me no wot it is

2007-10-07 06:26:44 · 19 answers · asked by sarah 1

I married a man that doesn't love me back. We have two beautiful children ages 3 and 4. He works part time but doesn't tell me where. He's been in and out of jail and provides no income for our family. He comes and goes as he pleases but he's not all that bad. There are days where he'll come and tell me loves me. He does love our children even though he doesn't like to be left alone with them for more then two hours. I understand because they can be a handful but he loves them I just know it.
He doesn't always come home but I understand how much he needs to be with his friends. He won't go on family vacations with us, if he does he usually bails in the middle of it. I love him to much to let him go what should I do? The children need a father and in the end I'd be alone raising them if I do leave. What should I do? he won't go to family or marriage therapy of any sort. I know he's got issues of his own but his pride stands in the way.

2007-10-07 06:18:43 · 15 answers · asked by wildflow34 1

The details as I know them are that this man was/is friends with my wife before we got together. I had always been told that they hung out together only with a group of mutual friends. I have learned that they dined together and traveled overnight alone several times that I know of.(seperate hotel rooms I'm told)
I found pictures of them being very affectionate on a romantic sunset cruise. My wife admitted he made a pass at her that night and she rejected him. I also found a card that he expressed that he was in love with her. Does anyone think it is possible that this was just "companionship" as my wife has described their relationship. The reason it affects me is because they continued to be friends after we got together. He even came to our wedding with his wife.
I confronted the man and he claimed he saw himself as a mentor to her. I told my wife she would be lucky to find 1 person in 100 to believe her, I just want to get other opinions.

2007-10-07 06:17:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have a boyfriend for a year and a half now and things were going good with us and i decided to check his cellphone lastnite because i noticed that he was acting kind of strange for the last few days so when i lloked at the text messages i found some girl texting him about meeting up and telling how come he never showed up and there was a picture message i confronted him about and he got very mad and told me why i loked in his phone and that, it was a girl trying to get in touch with his friend but i dont beleive that because he had responded back to her also...what should i do...we broke up this morning and i dont think that i can forgive him

2007-10-07 06:12:28 · 16 answers · asked by LUCIA F 1

Help, I am suspecting child abuse with my 3 year old son. Split custody/legal and physical with the father.

Son has been displaying aggressive behavior, hitting and yelling. He also told me that daddy hit him and locked him in the room, naked.

Where can I get legal aid? I am in California

I have no money for a lawyer to modify the child custody agreement. I want supervised visits. I wake up every morning with a gnawing feeling in the pit of my stomach. I need to do something about this, and what should my first step be?

2007-10-07 06:08:52 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been married for 10 years. I have 1 child from a previous marriage and he has 2 daughters from his previous relationship and we have 2 kids together. Here is my question. My husband insists on letting his 14 year old do and say whatever she wants. When he tells her "no" she starts yelling at him until he backs down and changes his mind. He caught her smoking with her friends in her bedroom at 3am and just went back to bed. He "talked" to her about it, and thinks she won't do things because she knows it will disappoint him. Of course she does stuff anyway because she knows she can. Why does he let her do everythng and yells at the other kids when they misbehave. He jumps them quick, but has his head up his daughters %&$. He looks as if he doesn't have the balls to stand up to her, but he says it's because she has always been second to the other grandchildren and feels sorry for her. What can I do to make things more even in this household?

2007-10-07 05:56:26 · 14 answers · asked by kiwibear0809 1

My husband and I want matching tattoos and I'm having a hard time finding something we both like. We were going to get the chinese symbol for love on our wrists but that seems played out. I know a lot of people think this is a bad idea but neither of us believe in divorce and if for some reason we ended up not together years to come we still have a child in heaven together and we'll always have love for each other. Anyone have any ideas?

2007-10-07 05:08:52 · 9 answers · asked by Princess 1

2007-10-07 04:51:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-07 04:38:41 · 13 answers · asked by Cepha 1

Any ideas? Havent got a free house so i cant have a night in.

2007-10-07 04:29:40 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-07 04:26:39 · 22 answers · asked by roma 1

i'm married and i love my wife so mch. i have a daughter. i love me daughter very much.
few time ago i met a girl. i begun to like her. i love this another girl as my wife. she loves me and my wife loves me too. i have no complain from both. i like both. i love both. other girl knows that i'm married. i have told her that i love my wife so much. what is to do.
other girl loves me and she knows that i'm married, i have told her that i will never propose and tell to her that i love her or not.
so help me. i can't propose her. my wife knows about our friendship. so tell me what is to now?

2007-10-07 04:25:34 · 45 answers · asked by raj the secret 2

I mean JUST HIS OWN DINNER, just enough for himself, he's done a Sunday roast for one!!!!

Me and the kids have got to 'sort our own dinner out'.....would you put up with a 'man' like this?

2007-10-07 04:22:53 · 43 answers · asked by georgeygirl 5

My husband and I have been together many years and he is a caring, loving, and affectionate man. he is good to me and doesnt beat me or hurt me in any way and he does try to make me number one always. I know I can trust him and I know he will always be there for me. I love him with all my heart. BUT ever since he got out of the Army 5 yrs ago he has NOT been able to hold a job for longer than 6 months. He either quits or calls off so much he gets fired. He has gotten HURT like 9 times in 2 yrs and Im thinking not all of it is REAL hurt. Thinking its a way for him to get out of the job. What do I do? Im soooo tired of struggling all the time. For 3 months life is great and then BOOM he will quit the job and all hell breaks loose! We have a son and its just as hard on him. I do work BUT its not enough to get all the bills paid by myself and I have no damn idea what to do anymore. I look at him and want to smack the hell out of him. What do I do? Im sooo tired of struggling

2007-10-07 04:18:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous