I often think when someone tell you what they want you to know that's them not being totally honest!!!!!! Was I correct, or am I correct in thinking that way? Because in past relationship if I found that someone told me just enough it didn't work, it always and often fell apart... Am I right if your being in a committed relationship should the person that you are committed to leave out anything, especially when they make friends of the opposite sex?
2007-10-07 07:24:05 · 7 answers · asked by rita_hiemy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believe in total honesty....however I don't believe in full disclosure of the past....But if you are in a committed relationship with someone you should be very honest with the person that you are with....and some people don't think it is lying when you don't disclose certain information...such as having friends of the opposite sex....this is lying by omission.....
2007-10-07 07:33:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you make a friend of opposite sex and never mention to your significant one, then if he finds out later, it looks even worse. Why would you want it be a secret? It's nothing wrong to have friends of opposite sex starting with your husband being your best friend of opposite sex. And don't you tell your best friend everything? I do. We even joke about him going out with other girls or having female friends. I personally am pretty confident about our relationship, so I don't feel threatened by such things.
Each relationship should be based on honestly. If you are not able to be completely honest with your loved one, you are missing out a lot. You might have communication issues with your husband.
By the way, if you dont want to hear the answer, don't ask the question!! Now you are feeling guilty for those years lying to your husband? Have some guts and admit you are wrong, instead of giving everyone tumbs down. Very immature.
2007-10-07 14:35:46 · answer #2 · answered by terliuke 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Rita, your not from around here are you! This is not a slam! You have a fabulous vocabulary, it just isn't so hot in placement. I love it! Anyway if i understand this question correctly you are thinking that total honesty is the best policy? I would like to say i 'to some extent' disagree. Brutal honesty is never needed. Full disclosure can be great, but, mostly just cause break ups. I have told my wife everything, but, only because I've been married 20 years. If i would have been told everything about her in the beginning, I may not have married her. now after a long life with her, i just cringe at new information.
2007-10-07 14:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Keeping something from you is the same as lying in my book. To have a really fulfilling relationship we must be totally honest and trustworthy.
2007-10-07 14:41:35 · answer #4 · answered by Jodi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if a person deliberately leaves information out of anything.....it's wrong. making friends with the oppisite sex is especially bad for the relationship of two people when you aren't honest about it. i am a firm believer of "if you can't do it in front of me, you shouldn't be doing it at all".
2007-10-07 14:33:55 · answer #5 · answered by Isabella S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always! Honesty and truthfulness is a must in a relationship.
2007-10-07 14:30:54 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i sure wouldnt...im honest...trust is important too..
2007-10-07 14:27:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋