i have a boyfriend for a year and a half now and things were going good with us and i decided to check his cellphone lastnite because i noticed that he was acting kind of strange for the last few days so when i lloked at the text messages i found some girl texting him about meeting up and telling how come he never showed up and there was a picture message i confronted him about and he got very mad and told me why i loked in his phone and that, it was a girl trying to get in touch with his friend but i dont beleive that because he had responded back to her also...what should i do...we broke up this morning and i dont think that i can forgive him
2007-10-07 06:12:28 · 16 answers · asked by LUCIA F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Then Move On.
2007-10-07 06:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't stand cheaters. I've never cheated on a significant other but I been cheated on by several women and it really stinks. To this day I cannot forgive my ex-wife for cheating on me although I know in my heart I should. However she has never done anything to redeam herself. If he is truly sorry he may try to redeem his wrong doings. Take all the facts in and really grill him about his activities. If he shows no true remorse than leave him and never look back. If it was truly a mistake on his part and he is really, really, really, really sorry tell hi you'l think about it. Don't take him back right away, make him earn it. Just don't do what I did. If he is really cheating let him go and let him be forgiven. Don't hold a grudge....... It is not our place to judge.
Good Luck, Jason G.
2007-10-07 06:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by Jason G. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't, move on. Honestly the chance to do the right thing (for both of you) has already passed. You should have asked him rather than sneaking around playing private investigator. By choosing not to communicate, you destroyed his trust in you and took away his opportunity to communicate honestly with you. Now you'll never know what was really going on. It sounds like you two never really had anything solid to stand on anyway if you couldn't trust each other and you didn't know how to communicate with each other. I'm not trying to be harsh, I'm just pointing out the fatal flaws that kill any relationship. All relationships that are worth keeping are built on trust and good communication. You had neither there, so don't bother. Go find someone with whom you can have both, and let him go. Whether or not you forgive him is up to you, but if you want to truly get over it, you'll have to forgive him as he will have to forgive you your mistakes. You don't have to talk to him to do that though, just let him go.
2007-10-07 06:21:28 · answer #3 · answered by Irish 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I've recently been going through the same problem. the fact there was a picture, and he was responding clearly shows the text messages were for him. he's just trying to pull out any excuse he can. You need to end it and keep it like that. It's done. If he hadnt already cheated, he had intent to. Don't go back to that situation.
2007-10-07 06:27:28 · answer #4 · answered by colostomy_punch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you are hurt but breaking up was probably the best choice. Once you decided to check his cell phone the trust in the relationship was already gone. If he hadn't been acting untrustworthy you wouldn't have checked, if you hadn't checked he'd still be able to trust you (and take advantage of you). So the trust is gone and better now then after you have a child or two and a bitter divorce to go through.
2007-10-07 06:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by Saphira 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would personally ask him for the truth. Alot of guys use their buddies cells to contact their girlfriends from time to time. If he didn't meet up with her then nothing happened! Sounds like someone needs to trust their boyfriend a little more and stop snooping!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-11 05:54:43 · answer #6 · answered by Notbusy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is acting strange because more than likely he is guilty of something....Apparently he agreed to meet with her and didn't show up for some reason.....Your probably shouldn't have snooped through his phone...but you can't change the fact that you did.....If you can't trust him....then you have done the right thing by breaking up,.
2007-10-07 06:20:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunatly it does look like he was either planning to cheat on you or he already has and was keeping in touch with her...he got angry because he wanted to turn the tables on you and make you feel guilty...in this case you have to go with what your head tells you and not your heart...if you don't think you can trust him then the relationship is over...take care
2007-10-07 06:18:51 · answer #8 · answered by hanz2602 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you are right. Don't let his words confuse you. Step back and look at the whole picture, the whole reason you looked at his cell phone was because HE was acting funny. You just had you suspicions confirmed. Don't let him try to turn it around on you and lie. I definitely would not answer his calls.
2007-10-07 06:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by becauseIsaidso 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He was in the wrong and has shown you that he can not be trusted. get on with your life and find someone more interested in you than in having a girl friend and a back up in case that doesn't work.
2007-10-07 06:22:03 · answer #10 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋