ok this is wat happened, me and him were going through it and he went and got him all types of friends that were female, he say he ain't do **** with them but i think he did so i slept with this guy that i work wit, am i wrong
2007-10-07 07:33:20 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no, don't feel bad at all
2007-10-07 07:37:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 7⤋
Tell him.Thats the best thing to do.Be honest.Sit him down and let him know you are sincerely sorry.Even if he is cheating on you at least you are a good enough person to come clean and you feel guilty.If he sees that you are truly sorry and feel bad then maybe he will come clean with you and you two can get some counseling.Youre not wrong for cheating (it happens) but you are wrong for not telling him about it.Honesty is the key to a good marriage no matter how much the truth hurts.The guilt will eat you both alive and conflict will arise because of it and that will ruin a marriage before cheating will.Just tell the truth.If he leaves you (as mean as Im sounding an Im sorry) then it just wasnt Gods will for you to stay together.And who knows this could only make your love for each other stronger than ever.
2007-10-07 08:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never fight fire with fire, you may be the one that gets burnt in the end. First of all examine the problems you and your spouse are going through. Examine yourself to see if you are the problem then examine your spouse. Do the right things first, don't complicate matters with revenge because you may be the one that gets hurt. Someone in the marriage needs to keep the level head. Example: If you walked up on two people that were arguing about something stupid, you wouldn't know who the fool is because both are arguing. If you are out there doing the same thing your spouse is doing, then both of you are fools. Also remember that your spouse may not be doing nothing at all. Be sure of your accusations and be concrete in knowing you have the truth.
2007-10-07 08:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by Thunder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think?
Or would you like us to tell you that you aren't.
Well, the good thing about it is that you seem to give as good as you get, but this is no way to go about a relationship for grown up people who are married.
Besides, he may have annoyed you big time, but maybe he truly didn't do anything.
I think that since you've done it, you might as well tell him and see what happens.
At the end of the day, if he had listened to you, and not flaunt women in your face, you wouldn't have felt that you needed to pay him back.
I am not saying that this is right at all.
It's definitely wrong, as for one thing you are disrespecting your marital vows; second thing is, you are using someone, well that person may have been quite willing to help, but it's still wrong.
So, next time you don't agree about something, how about you tell him in his face how it makes you feel and what you might do but won't do and might just walk away from him???
Try that, it might make you feel much better and you may even convince him more easily.
Good luck.
2007-10-07 07:47:22 · answer #4 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you have no evidence to suggest that he actually cheated on you, just speculation. This is not to say that he was being spiteful and infantile. However, due to your recent actions, he has ammuntion to say that he can go out and do the same thing that you did, creating a vicious cycle of insecurity, deceit, and distrust. If you haven't already done so, it might be wise to admit your mistakes and get help; "going through it" happens all the time, you (and he) need to learn to work through it maturely. If neither one of you can, then it might be best to move on.
2007-10-07 08:06:25 · answer #5 · answered by deepthinker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know your wrong...or you wouldn't have thought to ask the question. It's wrong to cheat, you cheated...you ARE wrong! There's no excuse to cheat...If my husband went out and cheated with several woman...I would not in turn go out and sleep with several men...I would leave him!
2007-10-07 08:24:48 · answer #6 · answered by purplebee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make it right. That was not a very mature thing to do. Sounds like to me that you had eyes for this guy anyway and you were just looking for any excuse to sleep with him. Ask yourself, honestly, "Do I want to be in this marriage?"
2007-10-07 07:53:43 · answer #7 · answered by Rycheage 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only you know whether it's wrong. I guess you think it's wrong since you are asking the question. So I will confirm it for you. It IS wrong. Now I will confirm it for you a different way...It is NOT wrong. Which one did you lean towards? There's your answer.
If you think it's wrong...tell your husband you don't want him to hang out with his female friends one on one. Tell him to invite them over so you get to know them also...feel them out.
If you don't think it's wrong...hey, you have an open marriage now. He can have all the friends he wants...what do you care? You have your piece on the side. What's good for him is good for you. Do me wrong and I'll do it to you 10 times worse.
Some people need to lay off of you. 'Let he who is without sin caste the first stone.'
2007-10-07 07:42:37 · answer #8 · answered by lovebird 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
u did the right thing, i can't understand him not getting any and being with all these women, unless he is gay. yep and who knows what he is doing with these women, where has he put his mouth and tongue. u know what i mean here. good for u too, hope it was exciting for u like u deserve. have him buy u a new car and then dump him. good luck to u and i will be praying for u.
2007-10-07 08:01:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant stand women like you.....You qualified to be a woman of the night.....A JEZEBEL.......so when has it been right to right a wrong with another wrong, and besides that do you have evidence???you are dead wrong....now what if he burned you with a disease...or worse ...lol.... got you pregnant how are you gonna explain that , You will feel like stir fryed $h!t????? You have some ho-ish ways that you need to stop...
2007-10-07 07:43:58 · answer #10 · answered by Mr Confused 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Only you can say if you are wrong or not; we voice only our personal opinions. In my mind, cheating is never the right way to go as you must look at your self in the mirror every day and know you were not the 'better person'; that you have stooped to his level.
2007-10-07 07:40:32 · answer #11 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋