CLOSE friends for 3 yrs and he's secretly liked me but he never went for it b/c he thought the chances of being w. me were slim only to find out that after all this time, I felt the same way back - I was the first girl he fell in love with (both in our 20's and gave him his first kiss; no sex just kisses) BUT we decided to be friends and not to rush (i would be his first girlfriend and said he wanted somethinf more "real, long lasting" with me - "shy guy type") When things were getting normal, "life challenges" (death) and rumors/assumptions from friends made us drift apart (he pushed me away) and it created tension BUT rather than giving up or seeking revenge, we worked it out and everything is starting to be better than before, the relationship grew (this happened in a 9 month span)
Alot of progress has happened in that time but i feel that we're starting over from the very beginning from when we first met. He was sooo unusually quiet with me and normal and outgoing with everyone else. We got to know each other better and through the years, i got him to open up to me where we would talk all the time. He said that he could tell me anything and everything. Now that ALL of that drama has happened, I know things will never be COMPLETELY the same but our bond and closeness will be there...i know it. I feel that i'm back at the beginning again. He's not being himself...with his friends he's "outgoing" and with me, he's just awkward - are we back at one again?
2007-10-07 07:26:50 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are not BACK at one again. It's not like you have ever progressed even to the level two. All these years, you have ALWAYS remained at one, and that is exactly where you are still standing.
You are in your twenties. I think, it would be better for you if you clarify for yourself your priorities and what you want to get out of life and out of your partner for yourself. Once you do that, it would also be better for you if you become more assertive of your priorities. If others are not willing, or not ready, to meet them, you have to move on. You need to become more appreciative of your time, feelings, and efforts (!) . And make others (your close friend) appreciate and respect them us well.
You sound very realistic and rational. I am confident you will make all the right choices and decisions.
2007-10-07 07:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication!!!! Talk to him, that is the only way you will find out...
2007-10-07 07:33:40 · answer #2 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋