what suggestions do u have for someone who is extremely insecure and possessive bcos hubby/wife strayed but promises never to do it again...
2007-10-07 07:33:51 · 9 answers · asked by dewdrops 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont know if I would be able to do that but i have never been in that position before..but im pretty sure I would give him another chance..everybody messes up and if he is going to cheat on you he is gonna do it and you cant control it... unfortunaltey we cannot tie them down and cover their eyes from other women, we just have to trust that they will no do it in the first place or in your case again.. you can forgive but you will never forget what he did to you..you have to start over and if you feel better questioning him on where he is and what hes doing (thats what i assume i would do) i say go for it because he may hate it but let him know that he is th REASON why you are acting like this and you arent just going to automatically trust him again..you earn trust and he broke that and it does take a while to build it back up..but it can happen if you both try good luck
2007-10-07 07:52:11 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffany R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust your instincts but dont assume things until you have proof as its not worth stressing over. but you can never truely 100% trust someone once theyve cheated, and thats to be expected. if they didnt cheat there wouldnt be a reason for the other to be insecure or possessive so its their own fault imo.
2007-10-07 07:39:33 · answer #2 · answered by * Mummy to 2 Girls * 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get over it. I know, it sounds mean and harsh, but if you choose to stay with the partner who cheated then you are giving them a second chance. That means no bringing it up, no holding it against them.... it means forgiving them completely and learning to trust them again.
If you can't do that then you need to leave. No one has the right to stick around just to make someone's life hell.
You have to let it go, or just go.
2007-10-07 07:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest they take each moment and day at a time until the unfaithful partner has earned their trust back. It takes much time. Of course they are insecure and questioning; it is normal.
2007-10-07 07:52:52 · answer #4 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy to cheat but very hard to earn someones trust back. Do the work and your marriage might survive...
2007-10-07 07:46:06 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either learn to trust again slowly OR move on to another relationship.
Worrying will not stop any one cheating on you, so trust is everything.
2007-10-07 07:39:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Accept the things you can't change and try to move on. It is hard to forgive sometimes but bitterness will only eat you up...
2007-10-07 07:43:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust betrayed is one of the hardest things to rebuild.......it is possible but will not happen overnight.
2007-10-07 09:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if theres love give him one more chance...
2007-10-07 07:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋