I mean JUST HIS OWN DINNER, just enough for himself, he's done a Sunday roast for one!!!!
Me and the kids have got to 'sort our own dinner out'.....would you put up with a 'man' like this?
2007-10-07 04:22:53 · 43 answers · asked by georgeygirl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In fact he has never had to cook for 10 years since we've been together. I have done it all those times and I have also gone out to get all the take-aways we've ever had.
2007-10-07 04:24:21 · update #1
To answer a few questions, he just cooked one chicken breast and a few roast potatoes. He knows that I will do the children's dinners - they are both out at the moment. He will sit at the table with a glass of wine and he won't feel the least bit selfish because he says that if I can't cook his dinner then he will either have to go without or do it himself.
2007-10-07 04:45:59 · update #2
And who,s fault is it that your husband has gotton away with so many years of waiting on you to fix his dinner? YOURS! you allowed this to go on for to long. And now you ask would we put up with a man like this? well you have! Dont act like your miss inocent here and your hubbys the bad guy, you cant do that, its not fair! So heres a bit of advice woman to woman. During the week why not let him take over the cooking at least once a week, who cares if he cooks like crap or makes things that are burnt, just eat it and pretend you love it! boost his self confidence, once he starts to cook a bit more who knows he may start enjoying cooking for his family, but to sit back and wonder if other people would put up with this is not the right attitude, because you are the one who created this monster, now its up to you to deal with, in a mature adult fashion.
2007-10-07 04:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by penelope 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Dear, that's a real charmer you've got yourself!
How did you ever put up with that??
Maybe, he needs some reality check. How about not bothering about his washing, and only clean the house when you DO feel like it?
I guess he needs a bit of his own medicine, don't you think?
He's one selfish pig, and that type only gets sorted out when they realise what they are about to lose.
Hope you're looking good, and if not, darling, it's time to sort yourself out, and make yourself some me time.
If you are working, try and go home a bit late than usual.
Make sure you've already eaten and make a show of it, by cooking for the kids only.
Go to bed early, even if, you're not that tired, maybe it'd be good to start some reading.
And if you can find someone to have the kids for a couple of hours and you have friends, time to start going out a bit!
He should get his acts together pronto, or you may well discover that you DO have a backbone and that you enjoy living this life a bit.
Good luck.xxx
2007-10-07 04:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I wouldn't put up with it.
But then - if you have how is he to know you don't find his behaviour acceptable?
Does he even realise what an idiot he's been?
I think you should sit him down and ask him to make the kids some dinner as well and point out it was unfair of him to do that. Ask him to think about the logic of it. I'm sure he'd be surprised at what he has done and how selfish it was.
2007-10-07 07:14:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you asked him why he did not make anything for the rest of the family - what was his answer?
This is an open act of hostility on his part - either that or he's so out of touch with life, he needs to pass a breathing test...
Is this is symptom of things being very bad between you? Is he usually this selfish and/or clueless?
If things are that bed between you, I'd not say a word but would start working towards ending this relationship...
Wow!
2007-10-07 04:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by Gatubella 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hi sorry to hear you not well - i am a bit gobsmacked that hubby cooked a roast for one- did he not think that the kids would need feeding- course not he is a man- i was extremely ill once and thought hubby would feed our son etc- but he disappeared- i rang a few hours later as the small fella was getting hungry - hubby had been to the cinema and mc donalds with his sister!!! i kid you not- anyway if he hasnt cooked for 10 years there is every chance the food will have tasted awful- hope it gives him a dose of the runs!!!! - well get better soon and cook a lovely meal for you and your kids- see how he likes being left out!!! get well soon!!
2007-10-07 04:30:26 · answer #5 · answered by maz 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Men! It may seem heartless but he is a bloke after all and blokes just don't get the obvious sometimes. You could pass it into conversation the next time before dinner and say, "Are you making your own tonight or...? It's just you made your own last night -why did you do that by the way?" Don't look too much into it, it may just be a confusion e.g. he thought the kids had had theirs or maybe he's just never been very intulectually tuned into other peoples needs?
2007-10-07 04:36:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He Sounds very selfish! The fact that he hasnt even made the kids dinner is shocking. It must make you feel really down and worthless. You deserve better treatment than that and its unhealthy for kids to see there mum being treated like that. If i were you i would tell him he can make ALL his own dinners from now on and make plans to leave!
2007-10-07 04:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by juicy 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
So he made dinner and didn't even make enough for his own children? What a selfish, inconsiderate jerk. What a great role model---NOT. Can you just imagine how the kids are feeling right now? Daddy doesn't love them enough to make them dinner too when Mommy is sick. Shame on him!
2007-10-07 04:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by Saphira 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I won't put up for it. Thats out of order. You've been ill and he hasn't even cooked something for the kids let alone you. I'd tell him where to stick it. I'm 13 and me and my sister cook tea 2 times a week for our mum. Mondays and Tuesday and we help with the house work. If we can do it he should too. Make him cook his own meals.
2007-10-07 04:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by Lauren 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hes selfish and obviously has been taking advantage of your good nature all this time, what a rotter cooking dinner for himself!!! personally, I wouldnt put up with it but I dont know the ins and outs of your relationship, you need to confront him with what hes just done and demand to know why, good luck, and well done for not chucking his dinner over his head lol!!
2007-10-07 04:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by Airyfairy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋