Marriage & Divorce - 7 October 2007

*MATURE ANSWERS ONLY

I have 3 small children, I am in the middle of a move across the country by myself my husband is deployed unfortunatly and I go to school full time (working on my masters)so to say the least I am a little stressed. I rarely drink (twice a year MAYBE)and if I do its maybe a small cup or 1 beer, if that, I want to take a shot of liquor which I know will help my stress tonight and calm me, but I feel bad....why?...I know realisticly that I am not neglecting my kids (they are in bed) but the last few days have been soooo stressful and I have absolutely no friends to confidentially confide in......no i wont take medication or do any drugs... so please dont recommend that.

2007-10-07 18:28:07 · 20 answers · asked by Rina 5

I am 30,married and want to have a second marriage.How can I find a girl for my second marraiage.Must be Graduate,good-looking,smart and ...Will tell u later?

2007-10-07 18:27:25 · 7 answers · asked by Asad K 1

my ex- mother in law is all up in my buissness regarding my children and the support i pay as well as trying to set up her own visitation schedule with me seeing my kids after a court order was isued i need to know wt i can do legally in oklahoma to shut her down so she can not do anything or try to make up the rules . im so tired of her that it is driving me crazy. i do have a lawer and i talk to her but its like she dont want to do her job so wt can i do on my own.

2007-10-07 18:25:04 · 7 answers · asked by michael h 1

3 years back I married a nice woman. At that time I supported her for her career in every way I could (I changed few jobs even shifted to a new country for her). Today I find myself only giving and not receiving back anything! The problem is that she's very obsessed with her career (which is yet to start!). I'm fine with all that provided it is balanced. I was recently disillusioned when she unilaterally decided and joined a school (4000 miles away) completely ignoring how I felt. I still didn't want to blow it up and yet again got a new job in her city so we could stay together. But before moving there I asked her these questions:
1) Do you realize you were wrong in what you did? (She says she was right, though it could've been handled better)
2) What can you live without - your husband or the career? (Answer is awaited; 3 days gone.)
A woman for whom I've been trying to do my best needs so long to decide if she values me more than the materialistic things! I'm not sure what to do

2007-10-07 18:19:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Since we have been together-4&1/2 years in total,married for 1-we've had one of those "happily ever after" stories. We've had off days, or days where we don't get along as well-but we've never been much of a fighting/yelling couple. However, the past month has been very off. His parents split about 9months ago and are living in different houses. He says that he had more faith in our relationship when they were together because they are two VERY different people. My husband and I don't have a TON in common, kind of like them...The last month, he hasn't called or answered my calls(our work schedules are diff, he's mornings-i'm evenings, and so we would normally call at different times to check up), he has stayed on his computer as an avid WOW player, and not wanted to do anything with me. To top that:he's not sure if he wants kids,I KNOW i do. I can't be married to someone that doesn't seem to want me around-but don't know if it will blow over & go back to being him. Do i stay or do i go

2007-10-07 18:11:49 · 12 answers · asked by annie6411 1

left him and the marriage 8 months ago, and he takes her back does this mean he is needy or still loves her in spite of the fact that he says hes not sure if he loves her. Shes back from travelling after leaving him hi and dry and wants to continue the relationship. He talks about them getting different bank accounts and waiting for her to "freak out" at any moment. I think shes using him to pay off her travelling debts and get herself organized with her everyday life and then she may leave him again. How fair is that? He is so wanting to be in a relationship with someone - anyone -, even a married woman he met in a club. He seems blind to the fact that his ex may disappear. do guys not have this in the back of their minds; the trust issue? Will his ex coming back work for him?

2007-10-07 18:09:40 · 7 answers · asked by Cafe au lait 2

I dated a guy about 4 years ago for about 5 months. We only had sex twice in that time. He was older than me (about 18 years) and I quickly decided the relationship wasn't right for me. But, after 4 years, he still calls me at least twice a month. He still tells me that he loves me and wants us to get back together. I haven't initiated contact with him since I broke things off 4 years ago. I'm in another relationship now with someone I think I could marry. I don't want anything to do with this man, but he won't take NO for an answer. He rides by my house. He calls me at work. He calls my cell phone and blocks his number. I've changed my number more than once, but he always manages to get it somehow. I don't know what else I can do to make him understand that it is OVER between us and that I DON'T LOVE HIM! What else can I do? I really need some good advice.

2007-10-07 18:08:10 · 16 answers · asked by devil_in_disguise 1

2007-10-07 18:02:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a very good woman, I was married and took care of my husband at home for 5 years, he was paralyzed from the neck down and on life support. Even though he was in the bed like that, he was verbally abusive there was times when I thought he didn't appreciate me I never had an affair on him and I gave up 5 years of my life for him now he has passed away 2 yrs. ago. I am seeing my childhood sweetheart I know he loves me but he is so lazy he can't work he has pins in both ankles and doctors said he might not be able to work. I am from a town where it is very hard to get a job(Morgan City Louisiana) and the men here can only get jobs in the shipyard, women can only get jobs in a fast food pace or a grocery store, or gas station.I travel 45 min to the next town just to work in the hospital. Just once I would love to get flowers (roses) and a man to say it will be okay. I am 36 and never recieved flowers.

2007-10-07 17:57:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I doubt if I love my husband, he says he does, but his insecure questions sometimes make me feel like he does not. If I leave him how will I find someone else? I want to be with someone where we both should truly love each other...what should I do?

2007-10-07 17:48:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-07 17:47:53 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

What are the indications wherein a person can find out whether his wife is virgin or not?

2007-10-07 17:45:27 · 18 answers · asked by Vijay M 1

My husband and I have been separated for 2 months. We still talk to each other, but it seems more strained the longer we go. He says he "doesn't know" what he wants. We have agreed to try marriage counseling. I'd like to hear if anyone out there had good or bad experiences with it. Thanks.

2007-10-07 17:27:35 · 8 answers · asked by LawComm 4

he now says he needs time away from us. that he can't see me like before and doesn't want to have sex anymore because stronger feelings will get involved. prefer a man's opinion. but at this point will accept it from everyone. please help!!!

2007-10-07 17:24:53 · 3 answers · asked by gia 1

okay well i love my boyfriend to death and we have been together for a long time, we've been growing up together and i can say we're inseperable, im only 17 though and im turning 18 next year, he is turning 17 and wants to get married. one part of me thinks its stupid because we're too young but the other part tells me it's okay that we'll make it, we're well off with money and if we do get married and move out we already have a place to go, but im still thinkin should i? or should i just wait until i graduate frm college? i know it's always better to wait but at the same time idk. i guess i just want some opinions.

ps im not thinking of starting a family yet. just marriage..

2007-10-07 17:24:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been married for 9 years.

2007-10-07 17:17:56 · 13 answers · asked by NayNay 4

I dated a man about 12 years ago who I fell head over hills in love with. We were together for about 7 years...off and on. The circumstances were never right for us to get married or to stay together for an extended period of time. But, when I was with him it was the best time of my life. About 5 years ago, I finally tried to call it quits for good. I still loved him, but I knew it would never go anywhere. I met someone else and we got married, but I still have a place in my heart for this other man. He started calling me occassionally about 2 years ago. We haven't seen each other or been together, but when we talk, he tells me that he misses me and wishes we were still together. I would never cheat on my husband, but it breaks my heart a little more each time I talk to him. I know I should change my number or not answer when he calls, but I guess deep down, I miss him too. I don't think I ever got over him. How do I get him out of my heart and mind and focus on my husband?

2007-10-07 17:15:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband left us when i was 7 months pregnant. when she turned 6 months old i lost my job and now i have lost all my friends. i cant get a boyfriend and finding a job is seems impossible. dont get me wrong i WOULDN'T trade her for anything but why is it your life turns to sh*t after a baby arrives?

2007-10-07 17:10:38 · 21 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4

Like to kill him or at least a serious injury...I cannot deal with his insanity anymore at all but I don't want to go to jail for killing him myself? Yes, I'm kidding....well...maybe.....

2007-10-07 17:03:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

If their is a topic that i am very serious about: example: (My husband who still emails his ex highschool sweetheart. who he claims he will always love forever.. and it was SO serious..blah blah) How do i let him know it bothers me so much!? I dont want to say choose me or her because im afraid he will say ok good bye! I dont know what to say to him to let him know i mean business!? Any suggestions?

- Sorry if this question might be confusing but its really a loooong story to type. I feel this good end our marriage one day and he has no idea this is such a big problem!

2007-10-07 17:01:49 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I think it is fairly well known that mothers tend to not like who their son is dating, marrying,.... how do you deal with it?

2007-10-07 16:55:17 · 16 answers · asked by Bo B 2

She says she's a success and has made something of herself because she has a husband and kids. I wonder if it's worth being her friend anymore. I hate the put-downs! She assumes I'm jealous of her, when I'm not. When I say I feel like a failure, talking about ny job, she says condescendingly, "Don't worry, you'll find a husband someday." ARGHHH!!!!When I have a date, she says, "Maybe you'll wear him down, and get married." What to do?

2007-10-07 16:53:40 · 13 answers · asked by Robin 2

Ocassionally my husband and I fight. The problem is I overeact and jump to conclusions too quickly. I do all the things I'm not supposed to do. Name it and I do it (except cheat-totally out of the picture!). How do I argue my case without getting mad, but letting him know he's hurt my feelings. Thanks!

2007-10-07 16:51:57 · 17 answers · asked by Shortie Cake 2

You talk about what is important to you in a relationship, .... Like a man with a full head of hair, six-pack abs, .. Money..... What about a man who is average, but is kind, supportive, caring, a good friend and lover, putting his woman first , providing a strong shoulder when she needs it, hard working ... Oh !! And btw.... seems like those women who are so choosey end up with the worst partners in the end ... huh ?? Lighten up, ... girls !!

2007-10-07 16:44:16 · 23 answers · asked by Raptor 3

Oct 28 07 I will be married a year to a wonderful man. But I need to know something. IS IT TRUE OR FALSE THAT the top of your cake from your wedding you should keep and eat with your husband/wife on your 1year anniversary? And if you dont eat it than that means that your marriage wont last? and that it will bring your marriage bad luck if the two of you dont eat it together? why im asking is because our top cake is at my husbands parents house and we are not talking to them and so there is no way of us getting this cake. Is there anything else we can do to have good luck threw our marriage (this question is from a pennsylvania girl USA) i dont know if this matters or not of where I am from. HOPE you people can help on this question

2007-10-07 16:43:00 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-07 16:40:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I feel like I'm living a double standard. My pledge is to keep my virginity until marriage for my future wife. But then, I remember, when I was 12, me and my childhood best friend (sweetheart, whatever) tried to see how it feels to kiss. We did it in the hayloft of our barn. Looking back, that was a step too close to the brink!

2007-10-07 16:28:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

For years now she has been trying to break us apart...saying things to family and the children about us to cause a bunch of friction...it has in fact made life hard on all, especially the kids. When my husband and I first got together, I would stand up to her and then over time I thought silence would be kinder...it has gotten worse. She told my husband last Friday that she is taking him to court for child support...he is a month ahead...for her car...she was supposed to refinance it but never did.she did this in a music store where one of kids has lessons, all he had asked her was if she was meeting us half way on Sunday. At one of the other kids football games yesterday, she was continuously bashing him to the kids and they were uncomfortable, I was mad. Today her car wouldn't start, she did end up meeting us, my husband ran over and helped her look at what was wrong..I think we just should have taken the kids home, she was yelling at him that she knew he had jumper cables, they

2007-10-07 16:27:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

When we first moved in, we started helping our neighbor by taking her garbage out, opening the door for her, helping her up the stairs.
Now she demands help and gets frustrated if she does not get what she wants. She can come over at 11 pm, usually we go to bed at 10. My husband generally spends up to 45 min. every other night fixing her apartment of listening to her complain. We cannot not open the door, because she knows that we are here.
She wants rides from me (even though she has her children living in the area and she is eligible for a senior pick up). She is too lazy to call the service. When I offer to call, she gets angry. I do not want to be a personal cab!

We are still willing to do the fast chores for her, but the rest is too much. Her children visit maybe once a week, so she is pretty much our responsibility. How to stop this? It is hard to reason with the lady, we need to get involved a third party.

2007-10-07 16:27:04 · 24 answers · asked by MissionSuccess 3

He is married in UK I'm in US ..... (talk / txt atleast 3 times a week)/// rendevous (twice) ....... all day "date" ... picked me up from airport 2 hours from his home .... drove me 1hour ..to my destination ... then took 3 hrs to get himself home( just for a bit of a snog ... and a cup of tea) that day .(oh waited 2 hrs for my delayed plane too)

2007-10-07 16:16:19 · 12 answers · asked by ffion 1