I doubt if I love my husband, he says he does, but his insecure questions sometimes make me feel like he does not. If I leave him how will I find someone else? I want to be with someone where we both should truly love each other...what should I do?
2007-10-07 17:48:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First you must know what you want and how you are going to get it. If you doubt you love your husband that is not enough. Do you or do you not that is the question. It sounds like you are both very insecure and have no idea what you want so settle that question. If this marriage is definately not for you then end it. Once it is ended build up your self esteem, set goals, determine your needs, know what kind of man you are looking for, then start dating again until you find the man you are looking for. Be sure you do not repeat your mistake because that is very easy to do.
2007-10-07 18:58:19 · answer #1 · answered by K K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you can begin a new chapter you have to close the book on the current one. Right now you shouldn't be thinking of finding someone else, you should be trying to find out what caused this relationship to fail, because if the problem is within you, no matter how much you think you may be in love, it will end the same way. Good Luck
2007-10-07 17:53:55 · answer #2 · answered by cinnamon6121 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you leave him you need to be by yourself and make sure you can be happy that way first, what's the need of have to have someone, and have to have someone you haven't even meet yet - and you haven't even left your husband. It looks like you are like my ex, that cannot stand 1 hour without being in a relationship and that's the way she has been living her entire life and there she is, always single and hasn't learend to live, because she jumps right away in a relationship with whoever cross her path, she doesn't choose wisely. Take your time, let years to pass and make a better choice next time. Leave him if you want, I would suggest to try to work in your current relationship, it may be your better choice.
2007-10-07 18:21:13 · answer #3 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to find someone and u both have the same feelings. Don't get a back-up-don't overlap. Really give yourself time in between and become who u really are and you'll attract someone of the same mentality. Leave him if u don't love him and the man u were meant 2 be with will show up at the most unexpected time. Wanna do a wife swap? (haha) I'm in a similar situation. I should take my own advice. THANKS!
2007-10-07 17:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by whisperer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to go to counseling first and see if that helps. it may be that both of you got into the marriage for love and didn't become friends first.
If you do leave him though, try to find friends first and let the love find you rather than looking for it. If you leave this relationship and get into another one right away for love you are settling for less than the perfect love that is out there somewhere waiting for you to find it. almost all of those getting divorces married for love instead of a sound relationship and that can never work.
2007-10-07 18:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love yourself first. If you do not love your husband why stay. If you split you both with have a chance to find happiness. You will find someone in time. Right now you need to get yourself happy and put together.
2007-10-07 17:51:54 · answer #6 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you want to leave him you guesss. if you had doubt about how
you feel then why did you marry him, marraige is about commuication.. now you in a situaition that not good for any
one. both of you need to talk to someone about what going
on because this is a serious problem.
2007-10-07 17:57:39 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try loving yourself first.
2007-10-07 17:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by 354gr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried a marriage counselor?
2007-10-07 17:51:43 · answer #9 · answered by iNsTaNt pUdDiNhEaD 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to love yourself first....
2007-10-07 17:55:10 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Kimchi♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋