We have been married for 9 years.
2007-10-07 17:17:56 · 13 answers · asked by NayNay 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I found out from my nephew who is 21 and I seen the text msg. Why do you have to be a bad spouse because he said this. I cook , I clean , I work and I take care of our two boys.
2007-10-07 17:24:13 · update #1
ABC I had to say a few thing to you. 1st I'm not Immature because I heard this from my nephew he is 21 not 5. I came from a large family and yes he is 8 year younger than me. I also have nephews that are older than me. I do what I should has a spouse. I married him at 19 .He was 21. I married him right out of bootcamp.Yes It was hard. I make sure my hubby gets breakfast. I make sure the kids get off to school. I make sure the house is clean, the dinner is cooked, the kids are safe and happy. I make sure he is happy in bed. I am a good mother and wife. What else do you think I could do. I nice to his sister and his parents even when they are not. 2st stop telling people to grow up. Stop being so mean. I read some of your other answers. Some people are so mean because they know they are not as good as other people. Work on yourself before putting other people down. Even better. Don't put people do try to help them for once. Good luck. Oh yes I do love this man.
2007-10-08 09:21:11 · update #2
I did talk to him and he said that I was just mad at the time. I still feel that their might be something more. Yes I did give up a lot to be with him .Why because I love him. I was going to go to Johnsons & Wales but my hubby had to go to Jacksonville NC. The Marines . It didn't work out for me but I did it for my hubby.I moved 3 states away from my parents for him it was hard but worth it. When he got out and started working on a dreg I went with him . We moved from Tampa to Kings bay to Savannah. I was happy to move with him because it's what he wantted and I was being a good wife. We moved back to Tampa and I had a good job as a superviser making good money.He wantted to go to school so I moved with him to Orlando. I will follow him anywhere because he is my hubby and I love him.
2007-10-08 09:32:02 · update #3
I would ask him what he meant. There is no way one person can ruin anothers life, because we are each responsible for ourselves, and if you ruined it HE let you. But that being said I would ask your 9yr investment what he meant. It might have been something said in sarcasm, or the answer to a question, you were single and now you're married, what did your wife have to do with it? Ans. "she ruined my life". Not made to be hurtful or hateful but to be sarcastic to the answer asked by your nephew. Communication with your husband is the only answer to this, be it threatning or helpful. I have been married for 30 years and have said MANY things I later realized I should not have said.
2007-10-08 05:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by TomB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look she said she found out through her nephew and that he is 21.She said she seen the text mgs. That means there was proof. I'm sure she feels bad enough and she does not need people to put her down. It doesn't mean that she is a bad spouse. How old was you when you married? What did he say about it when you talked to him ? Was he mad at you? I don't think that you ruin his life. ABC you need to get a life and stop being so mean.
2007-10-07 17:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by redlady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a really childish and inconsiderate thing to say to your wife. He ruined his own life, not you. Don't buy that crap. Be strong and tell him to shove it and grow up. Men, real men, don't blame their wives for their sorry lives. They look at themselves and fix the problem even if it is their wife. Fix his problem for him. Leave him and see if he's any happier. I'll bet he whines like a little girl. Good luck sweetie. Sorry you married a 6 year old.
2007-10-07 17:27:15 · answer #3 · answered by B. Nowlin 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think about why your spouse would tell something so personal to a nephew. Does that really make sense to you. Next, sit him down and find out if there is any truth to it. Then get a marriage counselor.
2007-10-07 17:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would leave. That would be the last time I would be blamed for ruining his life. Even if he came back and said he was sorry and just mad there is obviously something there in that respect that caused him to blurt it out to begin with. I would let him know that he would no longer have to worry about that anymore.
2007-10-07 17:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by mccmb02 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and have a talk with him about it. That is really the only right answer. If you don't, your going to be harboring this for a long time. It may not be as catastrophic of a statement as you think it was. Remember the phone game?
2007-10-07 17:22:23 · answer #6 · answered by Kristen 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would confront him about how they feel. and why they feel that
way, no one put a gun to any one head, to marry, and the fact
that you have been together for 9 years. say something also'if
you feel that i ruined your life. then why are you still here.
is the question that should be asking.
2007-10-07 17:24:55 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him about it directly. Your nephew could be a trouble maker. Go to the source.
2007-10-07 17:27:25 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would confront him, and consider leaving. Wouldn't want to ruin his life any more. You are worth more than that.
2007-10-07 17:40:03 · answer #9 · answered by plaplant8 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would ask him how you ruined his life and if you was that big of a disappointment then you will leave and find someone that you wont ruin there life. good luck
2007-10-07 17:26:10 · answer #10 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋