okay well i love my boyfriend to death and we have been together for a long time, we've been growing up together and i can say we're inseperable, im only 17 though and im turning 18 next year, he is turning 17 and wants to get married. one part of me thinks its stupid because we're too young but the other part tells me it's okay that we'll make it, we're well off with money and if we do get married and move out we already have a place to go, but im still thinkin should i? or should i just wait until i graduate frm college? i know it's always better to wait but at the same time idk. i guess i just want some opinions.
ps im not thinking of starting a family yet. just marriage..
2007-10-07 17:24:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why rush? It'd be lovely to marry the person you love, but just think, if you wait, you'll have something to look forward to for even longer, and you don't want to get married before you're 100% sure it's the right time, or it'll ruin it.
2007-10-07 17:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely NO point in getting married at that time. My best suggestion is to wait and enjoy single life with your boyfriend, go through college, graduate, find a job, get working experience a better place to live, and if you are still with that guy and you think you guys are meant to be with each other, get married if you want. The mentality of when you are 18, cannot be compared to the one you will have once you finish college, it doesn't matter how mature you are now, you will be a lot more mature, you will have more "eyes" open, you will have seen others peoples life about what they did and how they ended, you will choose your partner more wisely and you will have better chances to succed. Plus, you are entering your 20s or "the crazines of your early 20s" where you are going to experiment new things, you may want to get that out of your system because you will get to your 30s, married, still have 30 or 40 years or more to be married and you may have liked to enjoy that part of your life - which is not that great, but you will know what that is about. You have your ENTIRE life to be married, why get soooo early?. Enjoy your ride, travel, give yourself more opportunities. Your potential at this time wont be compared with the one you will have soon, make yourself and that guy a favor, remain single and enjoying life for many more years. Don't do like me if you are trying to plan a family, that you get to your early 30s and all you can find later are people who are a little bit crazy and doesn't think well, since the good ones got married in the mid 20s to late 20s :) hahaha :) that's another true part of the story.
2007-10-07 18:28:38 · answer #2 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get married just yet. I got married at 20 and it was a mess. Remember even though you love this person you still have a lot of growing up to do and so does he. If you truly want this relationship to work then you need to nuture it and let it grow and mature slowly. Getting married doesnt gurantee you anything including faithfulness, honesty or happiness. I think you should wait till you are truly ready and trust me when the time comes, you will have NO DOUBT at all
2007-10-07 17:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by oriental_destiny69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your asking this question to really take any of our answers I think you just needed to put your own thoughts out here, which is understandable. But my answer anyways is this there is a 50/50 chance of divorce wether you ar 18 or 52 so there is no question of the wrong age to get married it is just if you guys truelly want to make a commitment to each other forever. That is a thought that doesn't sink in really untill you've actually made the commitment. The fact that you are arguing back and forth with yourself is a sign that you probably aren't quite ready but maybe in a year your argument with yourself will be gone. its not a question of age its a question of your perserverance and your choice to love this man forever.
2007-10-07 18:18:48 · answer #4 · answered by Ria B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait until after college. And really, I regret having a boyfriend in college. I wish I dated more then too. You're going to change so much during those years. And if you're meant to be together, waiting won't change a thing.
2007-10-07 17:29:00 · answer #5 · answered by trapeze 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know whats so funny? i was *just* watching the episode of 7th heaven when simon almost gets married to rose.
here is what mary said:
go out and see the world first, then make mistakes.
you are very young. dont do something that you will most likely regret later.
but, either way i cant decide for you if you should get married or not. its completely up to you and you need to dig down deep to find out if its what you truly want.........
have fun while youre young, make mistakes later.
2007-10-07 17:30:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you well off with money at 17?
2007-10-07 18:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by lillybreeze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not get married at your age. You can be together with out marriage.
2007-10-07 21:35:03 · answer #8 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the hurry. Wait till you grow-up and experience life more.
2007-10-07 17:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by mia w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont ask us. ask your heart. are you ready to settle down? are you absolutely sure you are in love with this man. can you see yourself still with him 50 years down the road. what does your heart say. you will know when you are ready. if you are asking us then you should really think about it a little longer.
2007-10-07 17:30:12 · answer #10 · answered by Exotic Pink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋