My husband left us when i was 7 months pregnant. when she turned 6 months old i lost my job and now i have lost all my friends. i cant get a boyfriend and finding a job is seems impossible. dont get me wrong i WOULDN'T trade her for anything but why is it your life turns to sh*t after a baby arrives?
2007-10-07 17:10:38 · 21 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
as far i can recall i didn't cause any karma to come back onto me! i am good person! why me?
2007-10-07 17:12:18 · update #1
Karma is not paying you a visit, its those who you associate with who are making your life hell. Guess what? Your child never asked to be born into chaos. Your job is to make sure she is taken care of. Drop those who are unreliable in your life, stop putting up with the crap. You have a child who depends on her mom to make the best for her. You have that fire in you, FIND IT. Your only job now? Be the best mom you can be. She is too young to depend on anyone but you. Do her and yourself a favor. Start a new life. Your main priority, is her now. Focus your goals around her and realize you deserve better as well. Life doesn't turn to poo when you have a baby, it only turns to poo, when you allow it to.
2007-10-07 17:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by hbuckmeister 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Its only **** if you believe it is. Why did you lose your job? Was it anything to do with being a mother? If it was you could have grounds to sue, your friends if they are not mothers will not have much in common with you anymore especially if they are working while you are at home and they go out on weekend nights and you cant because you have a baby, its the sacrifice you make and it is worth it : ) You can make new friends by joining mothers groups which is what I did. Finding a boyfriend would be hard because it will take a real man to accept the offspring of another, in time it will happen and he will stay for a long time and help you raise your daughter. Finding a job would be very hard for a single mother of such a young child, working the hours a company would require would be almost impossible with a 6 month old. Why not just wait out another 6 months til she is a bit older and can go to day care so you can work normal hours. Life is hard when you have a baby and its is 100 times harder when you are the only parent she has, these hard times will make you stronger and empower you, I admire people who can pull off being a single parent without going insane, I have a hard enough time and I dont need to work and have a husband coming home to me every time he isn't working/studying. Look at your gorgeous daughter and remember that you are doing it all for her and she will be so grateful when she grows up, be the best mother you can be in your circumstances and do anything you can to turn things around.
2007-10-07 17:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by SmEllY! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie it sounds like you have hit one of those crap storms that we go through from time to time in life. I know it may not seem like it, but it will get better. Do you have any family that can help you while you are trying to get on your feet? Be sure that you don't associate everything bad that has happened with you having a child. All it is, is timing. One has absolutely nothing to do with the other. Keep the faith and pray. Magical things can happen through prayer. It has always worked for me. Trust me on this, and your life could be exactly where it is right now if you didn't have her. Just look into her sweet face and love her. This storm will pass. Feel free to im me if you want to talk more. Take Care.
2007-10-07 17:34:31 · answer #3 · answered by mccmb02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how your baby caused you to lose your job, your friends, etc .... Don't you think that maybe it isn't the baby that turned your life to **** but poor planning on your part? Be thankful for the blessing you have. Some of us will never know the joy of being a mother. Cherish your child and give her all the love you have. There are a lot of women, me included, who would love to have my life go to **** because of a baby!!
2007-10-07 17:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by squidsgirl97 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Put your focus on your daughter. The "friends" that you lost? You'll one day realize that they were not true friends, and a true friend is hard to find. To this day, I only have a couple.
Don't worry about finding a man. One day, the right man will find you and will accept you and your daughter. I had my daughter at 18 years old, the father and I split shortly after, and I met my husband when my daughter was 4. I wasn't LOOKING for a boyfriend. My daughter was my top priority. My now-husband (and the few guys I dated before him) were well aware that she was my number one.
Don't complain about your daughter. Treasure these years. We all have trials in our life. Be strong and overcome them. It will make you a better person, a better mother, and one day, a better wife.
2007-10-07 17:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
**** happens.. but most the time its **** you creat yourself.. you either only let good in around you or you let drama in around you.. life can be hard but it also can be much easier then one makes it. as for things turning **** after baby got here well thats your doings also. like letting yourself get pregnant. if youve lost all your friends well there again that makes me think they were ran off because your friends and family dont abandon you unless youve created drama in your life.. i am sorry this sounds hard but i believe you either let bad into your life or you let good into your life.. i stay away from the bad stuff and surround my self with good people and stuff. and you can do that too.. start with taking care of that baby the best you can.. if you need help ask your family but make it temp. find another job and soon.. sooner you have money coming in the quick you will get back on your feet and start feeling good about yourself again.. dont let the bad in your life.. if its not good for you only you can change them.. good luck
2007-10-07 17:23:03 · answer #6 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
alright, you're just in a little rutt. Remember that people pick up on the vibes that you are putting out and they react to it. Life has been tough for you for a bit and you just need to get back on track. It sucks, but it will get better for you after a while.
Sometimes you have to just force the issue and be happy in spite of what is going on around you.
2007-10-08 00:43:13 · answer #7 · answered by stratplayer1967 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry you are going throught some things right not but trust
me the world does not hate you , it may seem like that,but
it will get better. there alway darkness, but there also is
light at the end of the tunnel. just take things one day at at a
time. loof for postive,not negive. as for a boyfriend, that not
what you need right. now. deal with the breakup of the marriage and single parents. start looking for a job to
get back in the game. and then you will see that in time
things will turn it self around. seach your heart and let god
come in your life and know that god love you. keep the
faith, and god bless and keep you my angel. email any time
you need to talk......
2007-10-07 17:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Can I suggest a book by Doreen Virtue called Divine Magic. It gets you to change everything in your life, so that only positive enters it. Because if we think bad things are going to happen, then they do. And if we believe only good things will happen, then they will too. And you can say, oh that's hogwash, but wouldn't you rather try to believe in positive stuff than the negative and see if it works?
2007-10-07 17:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by trapeze 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you sound like a really strong person. Your husband left when you were 7 mos pregnant? Well then there's karma! Lucky he didn't stick around! I don't know why you lost your friends or job.. but you should think about that and work on it.
You can get aid.. etc. But try and work on yourself and your friends (there are reasons for everything).
2007-10-07 17:15:51 · answer #10 · answered by mosaic 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋