I asked another question about exes and I noticed a couple of people said they would divorce their spouse for being friends with an ex, or shat would hit the fan etc.
Now we are not talking about secretly being friends - but out in the open. Like the ex is now friends with both the husband and wife - or the spouse is openly friends with them.... no hiding or anything like that.
What's wrong with remaining friends with exes?
2007-10-07 11:01:38 · 12 answers · asked by Willalee 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should be able to. Most people who have a grown up mentality realize that sometimes people are better off as friends than lovers. There is no reason to hostile over it. Just because the two of you could not become emotionally bonded to stay together and overcome relationship issues does not mean that they are not good enough to hang out with or talk to when you are down. After all they probably know you pretty well and that makes for great friends. If your current situation can't understand that you and your ex are friends maybe it is because they are insecure and you dont want to get into a relationship like that. I have a few ex's that I go see of hang out with on a regular basis and they all know that I am happy with the person I am with now. I guess maybe when you grown up the little things are just that little, and lasting friendships mean more.
2007-10-07 11:17:54 · answer #1 · answered by aimlynsmi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well my wife and I was married for 29 years , we live about 12 miles apart from each other . We have each other cell numbers.
She kept the animals which includes 2 dogs and four cats. She sometimes works strange hours and she calls me to ask if i would go over and check on the animals.
We also talk openly to each other about our personal relationships that we are both currently in. Who knows you better than someone who you were with for 29 years.
I think we will always remain friends , and my girlfriend knows that i talk with my ex and doesn't seem to bother her.
2007-10-07 18:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by revfergy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing really especially if there are children involved. There is no law out here that prohibits spouses being friend with anyone especialy exes. Also you never know on down the line that because of being friends that something couldnt restart again either
2007-10-07 18:08:37 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the couple, and the relationship with the ex.
Yes, it is possible to be friends with someone of the opposite gender without it being sexual, but some people are so insecure in themselves or so mistrustful of their spouses that they can't believe that. Therefore any relationship with someone of the opposite gender (let alone an ex-bf or ex-gf) is dangerous because "IT WILL LEAD TO SEX!"
2007-10-07 19:06:40 · answer #4 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all i would never be friends wit an ex,because i am married. I think if u r married an ex should remain an ex. no communication what so ever. Because sometimes a ex do not want to be considered an ex.It does bring problems in a relationship. They be trying to get that person back. I have been through it and i was miserable.But it soon stopped because i raised so much hell.
2007-10-07 18:14:19 · answer #5 · answered by latoya r 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't see a thing wrong with being friends with an ex.....after all not every ones divorce is filled with hatred and bitterness....there are people who divorce and get along better as friends....and there are other people who had the divorce from hell....and are better off not having any contact much less being friends...guess it depends on your situation.
2007-10-07 18:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are complicated- so are human relationships.
Some people can and do have friendly relationships with their exes; but most people do not.
Exes are exes for good reasons.
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If children are involved, they have to be civil and respectful to each other because of their kids; but if no children are involved I guess I'd say move on and forget about him.
I also think that being friends with an ex can stress and damage another relationship you might have, because it is in our human nature to be possessive and jealous. (Nobody wants to feel like they are competing for their loved one's attention...Even if it's a long-time ex !)
2007-10-07 18:47:10 · answer #7 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking at your questions it seems to me like you are thinking of being more than just friends with the ex.
Maybe you should think about it...
Do you really want him back?
2007-10-07 18:05:37 · answer #8 · answered by PMS 24-7 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Is wrong because that is making your bf/husband insecure. And if you love your boyfriend you don't wanna make him insecure. You wanna show him you love him and only him and you don't care about you ex. If you still care about your ex....you should stop having boyfriends until you feel nothing for an ex.
2007-10-07 18:09:49 · answer #9 · answered by Divinaâ?¢ 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why would you want to remain friends with someone you couldn't have a relationship with? One of you decided that the other wasn't worth investing in, so why would you want to keep that person as a friend, unless you want someone to fall back on if the current relationship doesn't work out. You're better off having female friends. Don't be friends with someone you've rejected, or someone who has rejected you. It's stupid.
2007-10-07 18:06:14 · answer #10 · answered by Sassie 6 · 3⤊ 4⤋