Okay im going to write a short version of what’s going on right now so u may have a better understanding, I am 25 yrs old I got 5 kids, Yeah I know that’s a lot lol. 3 kids are not mine and 2 are well really im not even sure about the youngest. I have been married for over 7 years I work and support all 5 kids as well as my wife, she has no job I always took care of everything since the day I met her. I recently got locked up about 2 months ago or a lil more for domestic violence. Me and my wife was arguing and I let her get the best of me I got so upset and tired of her getting in my face pushing me around and yelling at me bout not ever being home and spending time with her but its kind of hard when im taking care of her an 5 kids. I lost control and pushed her down on the couch and once she got up and started trying to hit me I ended up slapping her cause she wouldn’t shut up and let me leave the house and of course right after I slapped her I stopped myself and told her I was sorry I lost control and let my anger take over, she wasn’t trying to hear it and I don’t blame her. I took off for a walk to calm down I came back home an hour later police was there and next thing I know I was getting locked up. I was in jail for 45 days once I was locked up I told her I was sorry and if she wanted to be with someone else then I wasn’t even gonna be mad but to just hold off until I got out so we could get a chance to talk I kept telling her I was sorry for slapping or pushing her down on the couch I admitted to all my wrong and made myself look like a fool cuz in the end she started talking about how she cheated on me with my own cousin because she was lonely and couldn’t wait, now I find out they been close for a min now and she just moved in with him and wont let me see my kids. I haven’t went over to her place cause right now I don’t think it would be the best thing for me to do being that its my cousin and I would just get really pissed off again but I now lost my job thanks to being locked up and I need to find a divorce lawyer for little or no income because I want a divorce but have no money and im to busy with trying to find a job right now that I don’t really have the time or transportation to go out looking for an attorney. I stay in Lansing, Michigan
2007-10-07 10:51:09 · 7 answers · asked by Sincere 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wasn't drunk, I dont even drink
2007-10-07 11:07:19 · update #1
This is why 35 states make it illegal to marry siblings.
2007-10-07 11:00:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your opening question is quite clear, so I didn't read the rest.
Contact Legal Aide. They prorate according to your income and ability to pay. Look in the phone book.
ah phooey... I went back and read most of it...
I understand why she doesn't want you to see the kids since you were abusive to her. Once is too many times, mister!
The court may order you to go to anger management. You need it. Violence and abuse is NEVER ok. Until you get your anger dealt with, the judge may not want you to see the kids except by supervised visitations.
2007-10-07 11:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by Nedra E 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should just wait it out. Sooner or later, she will file for divorce and then you can ask for paternity tests on the kid(s). You're not the fool, your cousin is...Talk to someone at Children's services about visitation with your kids, chances are she's getting some kind of help and that means they can help you establish paternity.
2007-10-11 10:46:45 · answer #3 · answered by Jody H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact your local legal aid association and see if you qualify for free help. I could go on here stating all you did wrong and it will hurt you in divorce court but I wont as an attorney you get will do that. I wish you all the luck
2007-10-07 11:01:39 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go to as many AA meetings as you can find. Shut up and listen. Get a sponsor. Work the steps.
The rest will work itself out if you just get sober and stay sober.
Good luck.
2007-10-07 10:56:48 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only read the first line of what you wrote but, Check the university for a law school and see i any of the professors need to do pro bono work or if their students need cases.
2007-10-07 10:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by Tonya R 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
look in the phone book.
2007-10-07 10:58:51 · answer #7 · answered by Fox29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋