Marriage & Divorce - 27 September 2007

you have a daughter with your psyco ex who makes your life miserable becasue she's miserable she does unbelieveable things.

You and the ex have been apart 1year in a half and she still acts like this.

In that time met somone you been seeing for 51/2 months who showed you a diffrent way a women could be and you thought she was the greatest thing it was almost to good to be true.

you let the girl know as time went on how the ex was and some things she did.

Now as a man your at a crossrads and you not sure of what you want why?

If the girl you been seeing chooses to ride it out with you in the long run what are the chances you'll be with her or should she cut her losses and walk away????

2007-09-27 04:45:13 · 7 answers · asked by classynsassy 1

My friends and I had a discussion the other day and they both said that as far as cheating on your partner goes (bearing in mind that we all agree neither is OK) kissing is worse than having sex. They're rationale being that kissing is more intimate and sex is just sex. I said that I felt sex was worse, coz legally for adultery to have occured sexual intercourse has to have taken place, and personally, I couldn't have just sex (voluntarily) without getting emotionally involved whereas I could kiss someone and it would mean nothing.
I'm not asking anyone to settle an argument because clearly this is a matter of opinion.
I'm just asking what other ppl think?

2007-09-27 04:36:16 · 58 answers · asked by Louise H 3

i was holding lots of stuff in my hands, and he asked me to lock the car, i said, i can't he asked why i said that i don't have a third hand, he said, use your big nose.

he knows i hate my nose, and i'm thinking of plastic surgery, so do i have the right not to speak to him? i'm really hurt.

2007-09-27 04:33:46 · 29 answers · asked by Me 1

do you feel like you've lost yourself in your relationship or have married the wrong person? If so, what do you do to cope?

2007-09-27 04:30:06 · 27 answers · asked by Chris C 3

Are they just looking for the easy way out? Do they not realize marriage IS hard and DOES require fighting like h*ll to make it work?
Why do so many people think counseling is a bad thing? They obviously can't fix their problems all on their own, so why not accept the fact that someone can HELP??
Despite the fact that we live in a microwave world where we can get everything NOW, marriage is something that takes time. It didn't break overnight, so you can't snap your fingers and expect it to suddenly get better.
What's the deal? Are we THAT selfish?

2007-09-27 04:28:27 · 15 answers · asked by Roland'sMommy 6

i'm used to having some alone time to read, do hobbies, daydream, whatever. but i haven't had ANY since my husband moved in (just before we got married). I don't even get solitary bathroom time for showering & grooming (only for toilet related things--and even then he gets cranky when i take too long. yes i do occassionally linger, because it's the only time i get to myself!!) the thing is, we're starting to bicker, constantly. i love him a lot, i really do, but i'm feeling confined and imposed on a lot lately. he makes me tense & edgey & i've been defensive & snappy a lot (so has he). i feel like he's always criticizing me, he questions everything i do, even things like why do i sit to shave my legs when i get the chance, instead of doing it in the shower (which i have only had 2 by myself in over a year). he acts like he thinks i'm going to cheat on him any minute (or that i already have & that i hide it from him). i'm not going to, and i tell him that, he doesn't really believe me.

2007-09-27 04:26:48 · 13 answers · asked by Ember Halo 6

I have been chatting with this guy for over 1 week.. and he emails me some pics of him and his kids.. I mean if he wants to email me the pics, that's fine, why kids.. . I dont understand..
Guys, please help.. what does he want??? thanks for your time.

2007-09-27 04:24:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Been with wife for 5 years. Recently she's been telling me things are not the same as the used to be. I just started smoking cigarrettes again after about 2 years we were together & she says she doesn't like it. She's been trying to get me to quite for a while now, but it's not like I'm a chain smoker. I just do it while at work but maybe once at home a night. I can understand it's a turn off to some people but some of the comments she says make me feel she's just been in the relationship physically and not emotionally.

On a different note: When I just want to hug her or hold her, she thinks I want sex. Even when I just lay down in bed with her, she thinks I'm just laying there until time passes & that I'll just ask for sex. Shouldn't sex be something we both want & not just me? I'm just frustrated with the situation & I don't know what to do.

2007-09-27 04:22:12 · 21 answers · asked by Me 3

Isn't it time you quit? Are you scared to be on your own? What keeps you with him/her that your common sense says to let go? Yoou knew it when you married them, and you kept believing it would get better, didn't you? But it's not. Isn't it time to leave, and get straight with God saving your Children from an awful legacy of the same they view at home?

2007-09-27 04:17:48 · 10 answers · asked by Tired of Users 2

this is meant for back2future i need email address

2007-09-27 04:17:39 · 5 answers · asked by me1234529 1

My husband has been away for the past 6 months and is back on saturday i want to look good have the house perfect and just make him so happy but i want to know what other things i can do. i can go out and buy anything cause im in the middle of no where. please help. what would you women do? and what would you men like done for you?

2007-09-27 04:04:20 · 28 answers · asked by Miranda C 1

2007-09-27 04:02:18 · 23 answers · asked by sanjay k 1

I know this is very common statistically but when it happens to you its not a joke. I dont believe midlife crisis is any excuse for a guy but when the right person comes along who pushes your buttons you have a hard time fighting off the urge to see what its like to have an intimate relationship with another person even for a short period. The modern trend is to follow your bliss wherever but I feel tortutred by the torment of knowing its not right as it would really hurt my wife. I have had no other intimate relationships before marraige so there is a longing to sow my wild oats..
How do you fight off the urge and stay faithful to your relationship or do you give in and hope its new love not lust.

2007-09-27 03:57:23 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, I have been with my husband 13 years. I love him and he loves me, we are faithful, and would not consider divorce.The man is so difficult! He is a wonderful provider for our family and he loves the kids.BUt he is moody as as hell.Forever having temper tantrums about dumb stuff, in a foul mood, because of work 70 percent of the time.He is picky with me and how i do things.When he isnt stressed its fine and good, but I am tired of letting his mood effects me.If he is crabby, Im down. I have known about how he is before i married him, its nothing new, and he does have other characteristics that I enjoy.I know alot of women out there deal with this.Is it ok to just ignore his moods and go about life uneffected by it? I don't want the kids effected by it, so I usually , just say, don't mind Daddy he's just being Daddy... and laugh it off.

2007-09-27 03:56:08 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

My friends/family just can't wait to tell what's wrong with my marriage. Sometimes we don't always go traditional route with everything we do but we are very happy, thank you!

2007-09-27 03:52:02 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

Before I start telling the "negative" parts of the story. I'll start with the positive. I'm in school working on my bachelors, I have 2 years left, and he's taking care of me. My parents gave us a fully furnished apartment... so I have everything I need. He works, pays for the bills, remembers to pay bills lol, etc.

We got married 7 months ago. At the time, I knew who I was, but I was holding myself back a lot. My situation at home with my parents wasn't good. I was in a rush to get out of there. My husband was telling me he'll save me from that environment and give me one thats good for me. My parents LOVED him. Dad always told me what type of guy I needed to marry and he believed this was him. My parents were astounded because they never thought we'd get married. They thought he was this good wonderful person. Dad told me he was the type who would never get mad, super calm, always a gentleman, would be very successful, etc.

Answer when I'm done please.. to be continued

2007-09-27 03:49:51 · 21 answers · asked by Sweet23 1

2007-09-27 03:44:47 · 60 answers · asked by Kenny F 2

Is it normal for a man to feel irritated and frustrated because he can only have intercourse with his wife once a week and he would like it twice a week? Also, the man is craving more affection(kissing, touching, caressing, passion) and is left feeling unsatisfied after one day a week of intercourse. The man has communicated this to his wife and she STILL makes no effort to compromise.... Please no silly inmature answers.

2007-09-27 03:40:48 · 26 answers · asked by akbar s 1

We both have kids from previous marriages. We always seem to be fighting about money. He spoils his kids and refuses to give me or my children anything. He earns far more than I do and just won't understand that I can't contribute more than I do. I have never asked anything of him, yet I feel that he could sometimes buy me clothes or other expensive things. All my friends' husbands spoil them.

2007-09-27 03:36:07 · 17 answers · asked by CelesteMoone 5

If you and the other person were both carrying on a lie, what is it now about that person that makes you trust them enough to want to have a long-term committed relationship? I'm curious (p.s. i'm not having an affair and not the victim either).

2007-09-27 03:33:27 · 14 answers · asked by Sondra 6

she knew he was with me & that we had a little boy together & still proceeded to mess with him. She got pregnant, but he got back with me eventually.She would come slice my tires, busted my window out of my house, attacked me when I was 8 months pregnant and this crazy list goes on. When him & I split up she would always let him stay @ her house and then she got pregnant again! I know-very crazy!!! So, now that he is with me & we are happy, she wont let him see the kids (even though he pays child support) she alwasy acts like she's the victim @ refuses to let him be a father, but gladly takes the money. I TOTALLY understand that he's crazy for even messing with her also but we are in family counseling-we have two sons now & I feel it's worth fixing if he is willing (which he is). So I'm beyond that. I think about the big picture & whats best for my boys. I just dont understand where she gets off acting like she has been done wrong? She knew about me and my kids from day one.

2007-09-27 03:32:24 · 20 answers · asked by Yellowtulips 3

I found out that my husband had secret e_mail accounts were girls/women were writting to him.He's been telling them how beautiful they are,sexy and all that stuff that me i don't get to hear.I'm just 25years old and were've been married for almost 5years.He aslo posted many prifile's on love sites seaching for women .I don't know how far this was going to go on if i didn't catch him.The problem is when i asked him why he was doing this he gave many reasons like he's doing it for fun and his workmates do it.He aslo raised up issues from the past,things that i thought that he had forgiven me for.
What happened was that before we got married(still going out)i was abused by a man and it seems like it was all my fault.I told him this when we were already married(3 years).i was scared to tell him this because i didn't want to loose him.Anyway ever since then my relationship with him is no longer good.So he tells me sometimes that he can find better than me, and all other nasty stuff.

2007-09-27 03:31:27 · 25 answers · asked by mchel 2

I don't need it and the only reason why he pays it is because they garnish his wages but my husband has been supporting him since he was 1 years old he' now 6 and his dad walks around bragging about how he takes care of his son.

2007-09-27 03:30:12 · 18 answers · asked by shimmyshimmer 3

Ok, you're bored, you have an affair and things seem great to the point where you want to divorce? How long do you think the greatness in the new relationship will last? Do men think that far ahead or do you think their tri-pods get in the way of normal brain functioning? Just wondering---I'm not having an affair and no, I'm not the victim?

2007-09-27 03:28:21 · 13 answers · asked by Sondra 6

My husband had an emotional affair that ended several months ago. We have been going to counseling and things have been going well except for one major issue...trust.

He wants to go out with "the boys" and typically in the past I haven't minded, but I feel an impending doom this time. I don't trust him. I know deep in my heart he isn't seeing her anymore nor do I think he ever slept with her or even kissed her.

He has done nothing to help me regain his trust and when we talk about it, he says "either you trust me or you don't".

How do I get over this?

2007-09-27 03:22:00 · 20 answers · asked by Crazymom 6

is it normal NOT to be nervous? I'm as calm as a cucumber.

2007-09-27 03:12:15 · 62 answers · asked by friskydragon 2

2007-09-27 03:10:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Before my husband and I got married, I told him that I did not want children (for many reasons). I made him understand that he better not marry me thinking I might change my mind later. He said he understood and that he was cool with my decision. He said he loved me, and that was all that matters.

Well, life happens, as it always does, and I've just recently had to have a 2nd abortion (trust me, I'm not happy 2 different forms of BC failed me in the past, but I will say that I'm glad the option is there for those of us that had accidents). Anyway, after having a serious discussion with my husband, he let it slip that this last pregnancy had him thinking. The idea of having a baby with me, his beloved wife, would have made him happy. Now, he's not sure how he feels about us not having kids.

I love my husband. I'd give him the world if I could... but I can't give him this. What do I do with this information now? Wait until he decides he needs kids and leaves me?
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And in case you are wondering, I managed to convince a doctor to give me the Mirena IUD. Hopefully, the double whammy of and IUD plus hormones, while illuminating human error, will keep any more "accidents" from happening. Trust me, it's not for lack of trying that I'm getting pregnant folks.

2007-09-27 03:09:20 · 16 answers · asked by Jilliebean 1

I am married,my husband is 12 years older.
we don't talk,we share a bed,we don't touch. we don't make love. i have told him of my needs but he ignores them, I feel unimportant.
meanwhile, I am a volunteer at a charity shop.
this guy who has been coming in for years, asked me to dinner. I told him I couldn't go because I was married. Then I decided I would like to go,just for the companionship,and he said what would be the point. and I agreed. He is an honerable man. But still he comes in sometimes two to three times a day,sometimes without buying anything, and we talk for hours. He found out I broke my favorite cd and brought me a replacement. He always ask if I would like to walk around with him in the store while he's looking.One time he even stopped by just to show me the tile he was putting in his house,and he wanted my opinon.BTW that meant alot to me,sounds silly but no one ever ask my opinion.
are we just good friends, or is he hoping for more?I adore him. BIDK what 2 do

2007-09-27 02:31:52 · 32 answers · asked by A*MUSE 3

A married couple decides to get separate bank accounts and agrees to pay the common bills (mortgage, electric, etc.), but will pay their own individual accounts (car, credit cards, etc.). The wife loves to buy home décor and furniture for their new home, but the husband could care less about any of that. He’d much rather put $100 or so in his bank account and spend the rest having fun (eating out, drinking with friends, sporting events, etc.). One day the wife finds a formal dining set for $1,500. She runs home to tell her husband about it and his response is “If you like it buy it, but I’m not spending that kind of money”.

2007-09-27 02:14:43 · 23 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4