Should I take my childs father off of child support?

Question

I don't need it and the only reason why he pays it is because they garnish his wages but my husband has been supporting him since he was 1 years old he' now 6 and his dad walks around bragging about how he takes care of his son.

my husband does not mind taking care of my son so thats not a problem. he want to adopt him

the only reason why he pays is because they garnish his wages

well fortunately my kids college is taking care of.but i do have his child support direct deposit all 95.00 a month

yeah guess its kind of childish on my part to take him off so he can't brag that the state takes money out of his check faithfully. it just so annoying everytime he sits up and tries to tell me off that im lucky he pays his child support cause some people don't even do that. I know that if I would take him off he would not send a thing. then that would shut him upbut i guess i mean its not really hurting anything.

Answer 1

Hell no! Don't let him off the hook! I think that you husband is awesome for stepping up to help take care of him, but that doesn't excuse his biological father for taking care of him as well, and if hes not around for your son, thats his choice (an irresponsible and selfish one at that). It takes two! you have to be a parent, why shouldn't he????? if you really don't need the child support to live on, why not put it into a savings for your son? Your son is gonna know and remember who was around for him and who wasn't!!! Good luck sweetie!

Answer 2

I'd say take the money, I don't think much would change about the dad if he stopped paying. If you truly don't need it, because your financial situation changed for the better over the past six years while his didn't, then you can reduce the amount of support required, but I'd only do this if the support payments are really hurting him.

But don't take money away from your kid just because you are tired of hearing your ex talk about the money he has to send you each month and how he's such a good father for it--when you hear a guy bragging like that the listener does one of two things--ignore him as a braggart, or they become interested and start trying to drag info and stories about him and the kid out, and when he doesn't have many, it will become clear that his words care more for the kid than his actions.

Changing the garnishment would require going back into court, because it is a court order. Since you are giving your child's father something for nothing, he won't contest and it won't be that expensive, but you will probably still need to talk to your lawyer. Besides, six year olds are cheap compared to fifteen year olds--be sure you really don't need the money before you let him off the hook.

Answer 3

By all means DO NOT let your child's father off the hook for the child support! He has a responsibility to support the child too. You may not need the support now, but you never know what the future may hold... you may need it then. If you don't really need the money now, why not put it into a savings account or college fund for your son?

BTW, having a garnishment taken out of your paycheck does not constitute "taking care" of your child. You know a lot more goes into taking care of a child than providing financial support. Don't worry about his bragging!

Answer 4

I understand what you are saying about before and after but it really is all part of the same thing. First of all 4 months is not enough time to accomplish anything. 4 months will have come and gone before you get approved for assistance. So say you have the cash to hire a lawyer, wait for the court date and have him absolved of ever paying child support. This would require him to give full and total custody. The judge is not going to buy it. Welfare won't as well because they will ask "why now"? You will have to prove that he is never around and never pays anything. But then again you had money for the lawyer. So later you are off welfare and want to cancel any claim to support. It can be done w. a lawyer but the judge won't buy it. Because in normal cases a woman just doesn't claim support so he does not pay. But she reserves the right just in case something happens to you later. In fact in signing his rights away he might be able in 10 years use this against you if he seeks custody. This happened to a family member of mine and I had to give her $25k to get it all worked out. So at every step of the way the question will always be the same. So he is in college and says he will pay and help out later but be active in their life. But for now why could he not drop a few classes and work more now? Looking for a job now. He is going to school so he is not an idiot. Judge would go "he can't find anything doing ANYTHING"? Can't drop out in order to care for a child? You or he have no parent willing to help? That will raise a red flag. They won't allow this even later as women just don't get all signed over unless you can prove he is horrible. The judge will probably order that he pays regardless of what you say. The court sees the childs future interests to be most important... not uninformed parental decisions.

Answer 5

First of all, you can't take him off child support. He is the father. The courts will demand that he support his child in some way. If you don't need the money, put it in a savings account or CD's and at 18 your son will have a have a hefty little sum. If you think he's not doing his part and your husband is providing most of your son's support, then ask for an increase in support....for your son.

Answer 6

It's his child too, he should contribute....to stop the support because he's bragging is kind of a silly reason. There may come a day when you need it and it might be all that more difficult to convince a judge. If you really don't need it, put it into a savings account for his college education or his first car, or a downpayment on his first house.

Answer 7

Your child's father has to pay support, it's the law.

And please, dont' let what he says affect your mood or attitude. He is a jerk, and just realize it! YOU know who takes care of the child, and so does everyone who is close to you. Why does it matter what he says?

Continue receiving the support.. if you dont' "need" it, then put it into a savings or other investment fund for your child's future... i think that would be a good way to save something for college or something which is needed later in your son's life.

Meanwhile take care of YOU. You are the master of your moods and attitudes, not some dumb guy ! hugs

Answer 8

If you don't need it, open a savings account for him. Think how that'll add up! I don't know the amount you get but someday, your son will need a car and maybe college money.Every little bit helps. As for his bragging, I'd ignore it. He probably just needs people to think he's a good dad since your hubby had been supporting him. I wouldn't stop it, I'd keep if for you son, even though he may not need it now, I'm sure he'll appreciate it someday!

Answer 9

Yeah, put it into savings for the child. College tuition will be expensive if he chooses to go. And as for the bragging, its ok to remind him that $$$ is NOT the only thing needed when taking care of a child. There is love, support, encouragement, role modeling, education and just simply giving your child good memories to base his adult life on.

Answer 10

if u dont need the money, put it in a savings account for your son to use later, he will need if for college, car money, whatever. His dad shouldnt get off that easy. Why would he brag that he is taking care of his son? Its his responsibility. There is nothing to brag about.