My friends and I had a discussion the other day and they both said that as far as cheating on your partner goes (bearing in mind that we all agree neither is OK) kissing is worse than having sex. They're rationale being that kissing is more intimate and sex is just sex. I said that I felt sex was worse, coz legally for adultery to have occured sexual intercourse has to have taken place, and personally, I couldn't have just sex (voluntarily) without getting emotionally involved whereas I could kiss someone and it would mean nothing.
I'm not asking anyone to settle an argument because clearly this is a matter of opinion.
I'm just asking what other ppl think?
2007-09-27 04:36:16 · 58 answers · asked by Louise H 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've already said we agree that both are cheating, I'm asking which in your opinion is worse?
2007-09-27 05:04:03 · update #1
ICEMAN - So true! Still doesn't make it right babe. There comes a point where you realise though, that cheating hurts you as well. Short term ego boost subsides and leaves you feeling empty and unfulfilled. Not a great way to feel! It's not a moral thing and I wouldn't openly condemn anyone for it. We each choose our own way and live or die by those choices. I choose not to cheat.
2007-09-28 01:16:25 · update #2
Wombat - I would say that most of us (both men and women) are not prostitutes who by the very fact they are engaging in a business transaction have no other motivation for engaging in the sex act with their clients. I would imagine that most men and women who engage in sex with the opposite sex (or same sex if they're gay) also engage in a bit of kissing before they get down to the act itself. I would also say there are quite alot of women who can engage in sex without feeling a hell of a lot either other than the physical sensation. I'm not one of them, because in order to do so I would have to remain somewhat detatched and in holding back it would diminish the physical pleasure as well. Most people who cheat are 'looking' for something that is missing from their lives (and it ain't sex). Unfortunately most never find it because they're looking in the wrong direction.
2007-09-28 01:27:55 · update #3
Is all kissing cheating? If so, I have been a very bad boy. Kissing can be extremely intimate, but is never as intimate as sex. Kissing is just kissing, after all, and does not necessarily imply a committment the way sex does.
I must be hopelessly old-fashioned, though, to be using a word such as committment when in either case all that is really committed to is a passing pleasure. If sex means nothing, then how much less than nothing can a kiss be?
2007-09-27 07:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by Tom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i wonder how many of you have been kissing or engaged in a sex act have thought about say a sexy celebrity, whilst with your partner and thought nothing of it well some would say that if you do that then you are CHEATING.. cheating is cheating and i should know Ive done it all my married life am i bothered NO.. and before iam hung drawn and quarted by you all what did your partner get up to when he or she were out with there friends ???????? why do i say that simple because in my experience 9 out of 10 people who openly condemn cheating are the ones who are doing it themself`s....
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hello Louise thanks for the add on but Ive spent a good part of my life working with and protecting certain people who would openly condemn what the nation was doing then go and do it themself`s .. in my book what you do with your life is up to you... but the type of person that i cant stand is a BLOODY HYPOCRITE LIKE THE PEOPLE i used to be paid to protect ....so i think that your question on the moral side of it will be always viewed and answered as a 50\50 ....
2007-09-27 12:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by ICEMAN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a lot of men sex can be just sex. That is a man can have sex with a woman without any feelings for her whatsoever - romantic hey! However a kiss perhaps shows that someone cares for that person and is attracted to them. A prostitute would rarely kiss her 'clients'. Therefore I would conclude that a kiss is cheating on someone emotionally whilst sex is more of a physical cheat.
2007-09-27 23:04:52 · answer #3 · answered by wombat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it can go both ways on both. It can be "just a kiss" or "just sex" - either can be done with minimal intimacy involved. Both can also be engaged in with intimate feelings for the other person. My vote is that it's not the act itself, it is the people involved that matter most.
I think the reason most of us find such activities of their mate so threatening is precisely because there's no way to discern whether or not it's "just" an act, or if there are "feelings" involved that can undermine your relationship.
2007-09-27 05:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally I agree with you, that sex (for me) is a much more intimate act and has implications that would make me feel cheated on. However there is alot to do with intention. What is really going on when the kiss or sex occurs? More often than not it is not the actual act, but what that person is really trying to say (but somehow unable to articulate) by kissing or having sex with someone else.
2007-09-27 07:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think sex has run the full gamut from kissing to sex. To me, sex is much worse because a person has crossed the line of fidelity. Kissing someone passionately is cheating too, but it is easier to get out of a situation where it stops at kissing. Not so with sexual intercourse.
2007-09-27 05:19:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The way I figure it, when my husband and I talk about his ex's, I cringe when I think about the fact that he has made love to anyone else but me, but when he talks about kissing them....well, its just a thing. No doubt both are considered cheating, but I think I would be more pissed if I found out he had sex with another woman.
2007-09-27 04:56:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are speaking in context of Physical interaction - yes sex is worse then just kissing. But many times for a spouse an emotional affair (or just a kiss with some one you are emotionally involved) is more threating then sleeping (having sex) with a stranger.
2007-09-27 04:51:49 · answer #8 · answered by sweetsmartguy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They both are bad as far as cheating goes...but kissing is very intimate.....and it can be worst for some women.....because we are wired differently...we tend to handle a cheating partner as long as there were no emotions involved...but kissing usually involves emotions...Haven't you heard that this is why prostitutes don't kiss their John's? They can do just about anything else...but kissing if off limits.
2007-09-27 04:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Both i think is really really bad, sex because between me and a partner it's meaningful and it would mean i didnt mean that much to them for them to go off and do it with someone else and a kiss because, well i'd just be mad, i personally wouldnt kiss someone now if it meant nothing and i would not go out with someone who would so it would have had to mean something to them, so both is bad and mean.But i would say sex is worse.
2007-09-27 04:41:30 · answer #10 · answered by nonoodles74 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋