she knew he was with me & that we had a little boy together & still proceeded to mess with him. She got pregnant, but he got back with me eventually.She would come slice my tires, busted my window out of my house, attacked me when I was 8 months pregnant and this crazy list goes on. When him & I split up she would always let him stay @ her house and then she got pregnant again! I know-very crazy!!! So, now that he is with me & we are happy, she wont let him see the kids (even though he pays child support) she alwasy acts like she's the victim @ refuses to let him be a father, but gladly takes the money. I TOTALLY understand that he's crazy for even messing with her also but we are in family counseling-we have two sons now & I feel it's worth fixing if he is willing (which he is). So I'm beyond that. I think about the big picture & whats best for my boys. I just dont understand where she gets off acting like she has been done wrong? She knew about me and my kids from day one.
2007-09-27 03:32:24 · 20 answers · asked by Yellowtulips 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LMAO.........No, you are the victim. She is just the neighborhood tart.
2007-09-27 03:40:36 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't need no baby momma drama in my life. I'd tell him he should get his affairs with her in order before he and I could move on. And as for her damaging your property and attacking you, a smart person would get a restraining order against her. That way if he'd get his affairs in order he'd have a better chance of getting custody of the kids, because there would be proof that she has a history of violent behavior. Hear say is one thing, but police reports and court documents are another.
2007-09-27 10:56:22 · answer #2 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to know about your situation. You need to take actions to protect yourself. You cannot depend on your husband to protect you. The next time this woman does anything to you, get evidence, make a police report and get a restraining order. You must do this to protect yourself and your child. So far, she knows she can get away for all her nonsense. Show her that she CAN'T !!!
My husband's ex is that sort of woman. Except that she uses their children to give us problems. She does it behind the scene. Of course there were alot of her dramas.
Unfortunately, there are so many hateful people in this world. Even it is not our fault we fall victims to their vicious acts of hatred. I have my share of such experience.
2007-09-27 11:53:40 · answer #3 · answered by Sal SR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get an attorney and fight for his right to see the children.
You do need to do what is best for your children. If you want to be with him, then you have to be mature and responsible about it. First, do not have anymore children for a while. Set boundaries for your relationship with him. I would not be living with him until he is ready to make a commitment to your family.
The real victims in this are all of these children. The need to be the most important. All of this drama needs to stop.
Please realize that you cannot change or control anyone. You need to take care of yourself and your children. Let him figure out this mess. (He created this!)
2007-09-27 10:47:17 · answer #4 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I understand why you are angry with her, on the one hand. She messed with a man that she knew was previously committed to you. But, I think some of your anger should also be directed at him....for running back to her again and again. Maybe your relationship can be fixed...I hope so. But I would think long and hard about remaining with a man who has a history of cheating.
Last, I think that both of you women should be on him like white on rice, making sure that both sets of kids are taken care of. The kids didn't ask to be brought into this situation.
2007-09-27 10:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. GTO 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
For some people, it's easier to deal with emotional issues by seeing themselves as the victim. That's something you're not going to change about her. But you can reach out and try to be as kind as possible, for the sake of the children involved. Those children are innocent victims. They didn't ask for some married man to go out looking for booty....nor did they ask for their unstable mother to latch onto him. Now, THEY are the ones who will have to pay. It's in the children's best interest for everyone involved to TRY to get along even if you can't stand her. If your husband really wants his visitation rights in stone, then he needs to go to court to fight for it. She shouldn't be able to just NOT let him see the kids anytime she's angry at him or having a pity party.
I can tell you don't think much of this woman and I don't blame you. It's easy to put everything on HER. But why don't you put more of the blame on your husband? HE is the one who had the affair...TWICE. You act like he was just overpowered by this woman. Honey, in the end, it takes TWO to tango and you need to put just as much blame on your husband. And I sure HOPE he's changed his ways or those 2 lovely boys of yours are going to grow up being lying cheaters just like their daddy.
2007-09-27 10:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow... crazy town written all over this one... Some women like that see it sort of this way... if I have his child, he'll be with me. All he can do is right on his end. Pay the child support, continue seeing a lawyer and taking her to court over visitation and if it goes on long enough, he may even be able to get his kids... That is if that is what he wants. He can't force his way over there, but he can show that he is paying and not being able to see them because of her. Karma is all I can say...
2007-09-27 10:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would take her to court and find out if you can get some custody of the children your man had with her. Tell the judge what she has done to you etc. Tell them the whole story. They may be able to help. She needs to either be out of your life or she needs some restrictions of when she can be around you. Sounds like her children have a very unstable life.
2007-09-27 10:37:52 · answer #8 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The only victims here are "THOSE CHILDREN", You people are supposed to be adults. Fuc*ing grow up and teach your children better values then you 3 were taught. they will continue this dysfunctional cycle, because this will be all they will see. Monkey see, Monkey do.
2007-09-27 10:50:59 · answer #9 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Jerry Springer moment!!!! Go to court and get visitation rights... FYI, she is a victim here, he lead her to believe she had a chance with him. How in the world do two grown women fight tooth and nail over a total loser??? How sad.
2007-09-27 10:43:21 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, I really think that this is a very dangerous situation and i think you should put a restraining order on her. As well, as go to court to get his children, if everything you are saying is true then she is not emotionally stable to raise those children. I will never put my kids through that, yet sometimes i put myself through situations I shouldnt
2007-09-27 10:37:56 · answer #11 · answered by SweetEmbrace23 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋