you have a daughter with your psyco ex who makes your life miserable becasue she's miserable she does unbelieveable things.
You and the ex have been apart 1year in a half and she still acts like this.
In that time met somone you been seeing for 51/2 months who showed you a diffrent way a women could be and you thought she was the greatest thing it was almost to good to be true.
you let the girl know as time went on how the ex was and some things she did.
Now as a man your at a crossrads and you not sure of what you want why?
If the girl you been seeing chooses to ride it out with you in the long run what are the chances you'll be with her or should she cut her losses and walk away????
2007-09-27 04:45:13 · 7 answers · asked by classynsassy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes,The reason you think you do not know what you want is that you really do know and thought you had it with the ex,however it turns out your were wrong as that person was not for you, now that you have found this new woman you have doubts because of the previous relationship, to make the new relationship better and stronger tell the new lady that no matter what the ex says or does that it is her the new woman that you Love. Do NOT let the ex destroy this new relationship and as for the new woman sticking around all you can do is reassure her that you are for real, have your time with your daughter and limit your time dealing with the ex as much as possible..Good Luck
2007-09-27 05:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by sirmrmagic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confusion and the past go together hand in hand. Live in the moment and if the girl now is willing to put up with the x then stick with. If the relationship is going to work, then it is going to work. Stop looking for failure. When you start looking for failure and let down, that is when it starts to happen. Most x's are crazy and I don't understand that. It is understandable to be confused and admitt scared. You have been hurt and it is there every day slapping you in the face and I am not talking about it being your child's fault. Who knows what your chances are for staying together forever. Let it be and love it while you can. But don't go punishing yourself or the new women for things in the past. Live now not in the later. You can't judge other people on how the previous people might have acted. But you know what is right and don't rush things, take your time. But push away something that is right for you because you just don't know what the futrue might hold. No one knows what might happen. Good Luck
2007-09-27 11:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by CaseyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the new woman is the one for you and she is willing to stick it out with you in regards to the psycho-Ex, go with her and make a new life for yourselves.
If you are willing to part with your daughter, move to a new City and have nothing to do with your Ex ever again.
If you wish to see your daughter grow up, then you should get married and build a normal life together with your new wife. In time, if you want, you can take your psycho-Ex to court and sue for custody of your daughter. If you can show the judge that your daughter will have a better chance of a normal life with you and your new wife, instead of being exposed to the psycho-Ex, you just may get full-time custody of your daughter.
2007-09-27 12:26:19 · answer #3 · answered by Big Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically it depends on the female and whether or not see wants to get involved with a crazy ex. Majority will and don't actually see exes as threats (being women I think they can somehow relate to how the other is feeling, I dunno) and want to ride it out. My ex was almost like a stalker and she certainly did not scare away my current wife. Relax and allow things to progress at a natural pace and everything will work out as is meant to be. Best of luck.
2007-09-27 11:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a woman in this situation. I have chosen to stay through this and things have started to improve. The ex is fighting less and giving us the child more.
It is a win/win for us. I love my fiancee and his son more than anything!
If she is a real woman, together you can overcome this!
2007-09-27 12:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
beware.
i stuck it out, now i'm dealing with the emotional issues that the psycho ex created for my (now) husband. basically he treats me like he thinks i'll turn psycho any second. not fun.
2007-09-27 11:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by Ember Halo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, sounds like you're the woman and not the ex.
Why don't you ask him directly??
2007-09-27 12:14:49 · answer #7 · answered by trysh_mc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋