Marriage & Divorce - 18 September 2007

Okay lets take a husband for example since they are the BEST examples okay, he cheats like 4 to 15 times on his wife, the wife finally founds out and is furious but she whines and says "but I love you so much and I can’t let you go, please done cheat again!” the husband says “ I wont I promise” but he cheats again and again, once a cheater always a cheater

Don’t you people get it, people who cheat don’t have respect and do love you, what if the husband has unprotected sex all the freaken time with 69 different women then has the nerve to come home and have sex with you putting you in danger of getting STD’s that you have to suffer for the rest of your miserable life, is that love! I don’t think so. Why would you give them a second chance?

For one, they took marriage vows
While they were cheating they had a clear head about it
While they were cheating they were thinking about their spouse
And lastly they don’t care.

So what's the deal? All cheaters should be marked so that everybody can be warned

2007-09-18 13:32:46 · 32 answers · asked by 9-pounds-lighter 4

I'm not sure on what to do I've been married for less then 10months and well i do still love my husband but he wants to get divorce. My husband is in the military and well this is the situation. i got married with him everything was good until he ask me to stop talking to certain people wich i didn't and well he end up asking for the divorce. Well he never filled up the paper work and well i left the house because i couldn't take it anymore. He took everything away from me the car he keep everything and well i'm not sure what to do i've spoke to his sargernt major but that hasn't help i know i was suppost to be geeting paid which i never did, i know he got married with me and well he never reported the marriage. I'm not sure if to negotiate with him or go to a lawyer even do i don't have money for one. What can i do?

2007-09-18 13:29:49 · 3 answers · asked by Darkangel 2

My gf of over three years recently told me that she didn't think she was "in love" with me anymore. She is 6 years younger than me and I was her first serious relationship. She wants to go out and party and all that stuff.
She cheated on me with a girl and my gf now says she MIGHT be lez, but she's totally into girls right now.

The thing is I KNOW she was in love with me at some point and I am still in love with her. She hasn't been treating me very well lately and I'm starting to wonder if I should even WANT her back.

But I can't help it, I love her with all my heart and I can't imagine spending my life with anyone else, having kids with anyone else, or anything.......she is the ONE I was supposed to be with.
Now she wants to go see this girl. . .

I have a feeling that someday she MIGHT regret what she's doing to me and want me back. But what I REALLY want to know is. . .

How do I get past this pain? How do I let her go? Is it possible? I'm not sure I can make it

2007-09-18 13:13:29 · 12 answers · asked by Raven 2

i've been married for 6 years have two beautiful boys, and my husband i have been having lots of issues. first of he has told me he dosen't love me any more and wants a divorce. but then when i left he was crying wanted me back so i came back to him and things are going south again. i just wish that i could get over it ..you know it sucks feeling this way..one day he loves me and the other he's "not inlove " anymore. we are suppose to go to marriage counseling but he always gets out of it. i just want to feel loved again..that sweet love we used to have. i miss the man i married. he can be really mean sometimes makes me feel like crap ..like he'll say stuff like"i'll pay some to sweep you off your feet" .. i'm just like WTF !! i still love him very much and hope that our marriage can survive but sometimes i just want to be like F- YOU ! i'm leaving you ! but it's so hard :( i just don't know how some people do it. how do you get over it???? do you ever get over it??? HELP !!!!

2007-09-18 13:00:49 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

i was wondering, is that site they were on real? im not looking for myself by any means, im just curious how that whole process goes on? like, how do you BUY a person? and while im on the topic, is there such a thing as a mail order husband? i know there is a hoax mail order husband site out there, i was just wondering if there was a real one?

once again, this is not for me, or anyone i know. its just general curiosity into how the whole mail order bride process works...

2007-09-18 12:42:58 · 1 answers · asked by Ashley M 7

My husband and I have been married for 6 yrs. We have 2 children together. In Feb 06 I left him because of his controlling and selfish ways. We decided to work things out and I returned home in Oct. 06. During our separation, I dated 1 person and he dated many. One person he dated for the majority of our time apart but he broke it off when we decided to work things out. She was aware we were getting back together. He is a good person a loves me very much as do I him. Recently I discovered that he has had email and phone contact with this person again. Once about a month ago they talked for about 2 hours and then again a few days ago. I confronted him and he admitted it and said he was wrong and wouldn't talk to her again. I'm not usually a jealous person, but I felt this was inappropriate, disrespectful and deceiving. He agreed. I asked him if he had been talking to anyone else and he said he had been talking to a waitress he met a couple times a week on the phone.

2007-09-18 12:42:10 · 10 answers · asked by teelob 3

My fiance and I were to be married at the end of the year but now he has enlisted in the Army and we are thinking of getting married before Basic Training since we heard he will make an additional $1500 per month. This money will help out with the household bills while he is away. Does anyone know if this is true?

2007-09-18 12:33:54 · 8 answers · asked by Who M 1

I have lost a few jobs because of my health conditions, but anytime I feel upset and sad I can't talk to my husband about this because he starts harping on the fact that it was my fault and that I am hopeless. The first job that I lost was because I required surgery and two and a half weeks down time due to complications. When I got back and started working that first day they told me I was terminated but gave me the chance to resign instead. I am a hard worker and I trully care for the clients of my employer at times I have gotten on the nerves of my coworkers because I work hard and I don't laze around. All my husband sees is failure and when I am crying and hurting from these failures and have tried to go to him he reiterates that it was my fault and that I haven't accomplished anything in my life. I already feel this way and I don't need this reinforced. I have no where to go and no one to talk to. Is this a typical response that you would have with your wife or siblings?

2007-09-18 12:28:20 · 33 answers · asked by bama_turtle 3

After 2 years of a very hard divorce (and 12 married), I was finally able to get rid of the anger. But I needed that. That is what kept me moving. However, as soon as I decided it was time to get rid of the anger, I noticed why I married her and the feelings flourished again. We also have a wonderful daughter. But she is in a long term relationship (1 year). Should I just let her go? Forever?

2007-09-18 12:26:19 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it normal to have bad fights with your bf/gf after you've been together for years? Please tell me how you argue if you've been in a long relationship

2007-09-18 12:26:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was reading a confession on the www.publicdecision.com sit and I found this one in which the confessor describes how a particular situation lit a spark between him and his best friends wife and how guilty he feels about it...

Well, he did not do anything wrong, is his desiring (just desiring) his friends wife sinful enough to haunt him?

The whole confession can be read at http://www.publicdecision.com/issue/I_know_its_sinful_but_I_cannot_stop_thinking_about_my_friends_wife

2007-09-18 12:24:01 · 11 answers · asked by s_c_photo 1

Do you think it's possible for a christian who's a very strong believer and an atheist to have a strong, long-lasting relationship?

2007-09-18 12:02:57 · 10 answers · asked by fun_mama 2

This summer my kids went to visit their father. My kids often slept in the living room because they didn't like sharing bedrooms with their three step sisters.

One night while sleeping on the couch my 12 yr old daughter got up to use the bathroom only to witness her father masturbating to internet porn. She was so scared and snuck out of the room. Her Dad didn't see her because he was "busy" doing other things.

I am currently filing for full custody because of this issue and many others. Has anyone ever dealt with an issue like this before? Why would a father risk exposing his children to himself masturbating and to pornography?

My daughter is devastated and never wants to see him again. Thats fine with me but I'm also worried about my son's being exposed to this behavior at such a young age. Any advice?

2007-09-18 11:55:40 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Say you were in a bad relationship, and felt yourself drifting more and more towards just getting out. This person played you, and you stayed, but you discovered your self worth and realized you CAN be happy by yourself. You were already headed on the way out. In the meantime, you meet someone, and kind of become attached to them. An amazing person with an incredible sense of thought and conversation, and sensuality. You know they most likely won't ever get out of what they're in, even though they are unhappy too, and not getting what they deserved? Do you just chalk it up as "oh well....it was nice conversation?" (This would NOT entail cheating on a current spouse..that would have ended first) What woud you do? Nothing?

2007-09-18 11:39:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

to be maintained if he or she takes a secret lover? How important is the part about 'cheating' (REALLY)?

2007-09-18 11:27:04 · 32 answers · asked by captbullshot 5

~*~*~ well my husband has a fantasy of being with to women at the same time doesnt every guy, lol and i want to be able to do that for him and satisfy his fantasy but i'm scared that he might develope feeling for who ever we decide to do this with or whatever, he says he wont he just wants to try it one time and i dont blame him because i think it would be fun to do as well, but how do i get past this wierd feeling of him having sex with another women, and its not like he is forcing me to do it or is constantly asking me cuz he doesnt its me that has it on my mind and that wants to do it as well, and i like to add spice to are relationship and do different things so are sex life doesnt get boring, not that it is but i like to make him happy in bed and satisfy him. so if anyone has advice for me please let me know thanks so much :) ~*~*~

2007-09-18 10:51:23 · 23 answers · asked by padonkadonk22 1

Ok my boyfriend is 19 and Im totally in love with him...hes everything i have always wanted in life since i was a little girl. He proposed to me the other night and i said yes...he is working on getting the ring. He left for bootcamp today and he will be gone for nine weeks and we promised to write every chance we get. He tells me that im the most important person in his life and he is sending me a gift that his mother told him to give to the one person he wishes to spen his life with. He is completly ready to wait for me to finish school and is already saving up money so he can buy us a house. Only problem is my parents dont know about it....They wouldnt understand so im just going to continue telling them we are dating...any advice?

2007-09-18 10:42:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife is a fairly attractive woman - she's 22. I'm 23. We have 2 boys, 5 yrs & 20 months. We are going out to this club this weekend for her bday & she is excited and all. The thing is, she wants to wear provocative clothing, such as she has this dress that ties at her neck and shows all her back. I think it's inappropriate as most guys would drool over her & plus I think she should respect me and not look like an easy tag. If she were to wear something more conservative, I wouldn't have a problem. But I think she thirsts for the attention & I don't like it. I did let her wear something similiar like this awhile back - I had a problem with it but I didn't tell her anything, as I didn't want to seem over protective.

Do you think I have a right to have some limits with my wife or am I over analyzing this?

2007-09-18 10:28:31 · 65 answers · asked by Me 3

2007-09-18 09:58:54 · 11 answers · asked by Gomer 1

My sister is a single mother of three boys. She just has been renting this place for the past couple of months, but she has no furniture. How can I get her some furniture without spending alot of money?

2007-09-18 09:54:29 · 11 answers · asked by ? 2

I am 18 years of age and have been dating my girlfriend for one year. She is almost 17. We are in love for sure and have agreed that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. She just moved away to live with her real mom in a different state. We keep in touch everyday and have set up guidelines and rules. We both follow them perfectly. A few guys have "Hit" on her down there and she just blows them off and tells them she already is with the man of her dreams. I believe that she really wants to be my wife. Why? Because she said so and I want her to be. So my question is, Should I ask her to marry me? Or should I wait until she is 18? I don't want to wait because I know for a fact our love will not dwindle over time, it will just grow. So why not now?

Advice Please

2007-09-18 09:42:42 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents got divorced recently. My mom moved out of state. but now my dad and his girlfriend are sleeping in the same bed that my parents used. Am i the only one that thinks this is totally f***ed up???

2007-09-18 09:30:59 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

I feel like I'm the only one interested in our love life. She gets mad if I ask about it.

2007-09-18 09:28:14 · 16 answers · asked by Kimora 1

i'm just curious as to what it is about married men that makes them so interesting or attractive to you...

you know ..considering that..they're taken and all..

2007-09-18 09:21:27 · 19 answers · asked by juanes addicion 6

My husband told me if I get him a wedding ring he will take it off at work and keep it in his pocket why would he not wear it ?I need you guy's to tell me.

2007-09-18 09:20:26 · 21 answers · asked by carolina y 1

ok so ive posted questions in the past stating "my boyfriend". if any of it involved sex, i always get these answers stating

"you must be young since you're not married. dont have sex"

how can anyone ASSUME something like that? no, my boyfriend and i are not officially married. legally, we are. according to the government of canada, he is my husband. we have a child together and have been together for years. he was my first and only, and we're planning on spending the rest of our lives together. you want to know WHY we havent actually gone through with it? because we have aspirations as to what our wedding day will be like and unfortunately, those aspirations may be costly. my father passed away yrs ago and my mom cant afford to pay for our wedding. his parents cant afford it either. why would we put ourselves into a $10000 debt just to have a TITLE, rather than taking that money to further our lives together? we've got a house, 2 cars, and our only debt is our car.

cont..

2007-09-18 09:10:16 · 28 answers · asked by raspberry 3

what do u think theyll do? divorce or seperate

2007-09-18 09:08:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Lately, more often every time my husband walks by me he is either slapping my butt, squeezing my boobs, kissing my neck, or whatever it may be. We have two children together so I am in no way a skinny model, but I am not fat either.

Is this normal? Should I feel good that he is doing this a lot, as in, he likes my body, or that he is just horny? What goes through your minds when you do this to your women?

Don't get me wrong, it feels great, I am just wondering if that is all he wants.

2007-09-18 09:05:59 · 62 answers · asked by mom2abigsis 2

I have 2 daughters from previous marriage that my husband just cannot seem to accept. We have only been together for 2 years but how long should it take for him to step in and become part of the family? He used to play with them all the time in the beginning but now all of a sudden he doesn't even spend any time with them. He says he is still trying to adjust but how long should it take? He wants to have a child of his own but I think he needs to bond with the ones I have before I bring another one into the family. Since he is now the man of the house should he step in and be dad (they do have their dad involved but not always) or stand back? Am I wrong for thinking he should discipline them with me or should I just accept the fact that they are not his and deal with it?

2007-09-18 09:03:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiancee is 25 and has no children of her own. I have told her that I would love to have one child with her and beyond that I can not say. She would like to have 2 "biolgical" children and can not say that having one would be enough for her. Her fear is if either one of us compromise too much that in the end we may end up resenting one another. So really the issue here is this a family of 5 vs. a family of 6. I do have placement of my two boys as they are with me about 70% of the time. My fiancee is very active with my boys and will make a wonderful step mother.

As far as any other relationship issues there are very few. Nothing that doesn't occur in all long term relationships, we are very good at communicating our thoughts and concerns and most issues are quickly resolved. However, this is lingering and it is really hurting our relationship, to the point we have discussed splitting up. I am in love with this woman, she is my best friend and I do not want to lose her over this.

2007-09-18 09:02:23 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous